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I Don't Want to Cut Again... Posted: 12-09-07 23:00pm
I'm 18 and pregnant to a wonderful man. I
started cutting when I was 14, usually
because of my mother. Every time I would
get a boyfriend, I would stop because I
felt loved. but after many a men, nothing
made it stop. I then had a boyfriend for 2
years who left me for some fat health
forum and married her about 2 weeks later.
So of course I started again, locking
myself in my room, being a recluse. So
when I met my fiancee, it of course
stopped again. I've been with him for
about a year and a half. He has a 9yr old
boy and has had his share of psycho women,
and I am just so afraid something is going
to happen where we split, maybe not soon,
but like 5yrs down the road and I am SO
scared I'm going to go back to cutting
again. He doesn't know it, so when I get
depressed, I have to try really hard not
to cut, I just cry, but it makes me more
upset because he hates when I cry, even
though he just sits there on his computer
like always. Just wanted to share and
hopefully nothing bad will happen, because
I'll probably take it too far...
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twilight_mist
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
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Posted: 12-10-07 16:11pm
First of: Let him know that you need him
to be around, not just physically, but
mentally (meaning be there with you, not
the computer).
Let him know of your feelings, even if you
don't tell him of your desire to cut, he
should at least know you are hurting
inside. Let him know you need him to
support you (and that that doesn't have to
mean buying you lots of stuff, but simply
being around and showing affection, if
that is what you want from him).
there is also a chance that he has some
idea that you are feeling low, but
retreats to the computer because he thinks
you want to be left alone. - it's hard to
say
_ and try to find activeties that keep you
from hurting yourselves if you feel the
urge building, - like going for a walk or
taking a cold shower or something of the
sort.
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Lilly Ivy
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Aug 2007 Posts: 1468 Location: Moorefield, WV
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Posted: 01-04-08 14:21pm
Thank you. It means a lot knowing someone
cares and is giving me advice. Thank you
SO MUCH!
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twilight_mist
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jul 2007 Posts: 38 Location: ,
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Posted: 01-04-08 17:37pm
No prob. Just PM me if you want to talk
more (and in private). I'm not here every
day, but check in now and then
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keys101
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Sep 2007 Posts: 87 Location: , USA
Posted: 01-04-08 17:53pm
hey Lilly. I was a cutter for about three
years, and I haven't done it in two. I
know exactly how you feel, needing
somebody to be there so you feel loved,
making it easier not to cut. I have a
wonderful boyfriend who is sweet and
supportive and makes me feel incredible,
but I've found that it is very very VERY
important that I am able to quit for my
own reasons. You have to realize that YOU
are important as your own person and you
don't need anybody else to validate that
importance. It's great to have that love
from somebody, but you need to love
yourself. Every person is an individual
and each of us deserves respect. And that
includes from yourself.
I am no stranger to cutting and if you
ever need help please know that I'm here
to talk! you may send me a message on
here. Good luck!
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