I just found out this morning that Im
pregnant (suspected for about a week) Im
24 and this is my first time.
They say im 6 weeks along according to my
last period but I KNOW Im 3-4wks. I have
an appointment next Thursday for a medical
abortion.
I really dont have any qualms about
getting the abortion, dont like kids,
never wanted any and def not rite now. But
Im scared of the procedure. The people I
talked to at the clinic dont sound very
friendly, but there is only 3 places in
this stupid state that do abortions and
the next closest one is 250miles away so I
guess Im stuck.
Whats really worrying me is....
My b/f is 150% supportive, but he has a
very demanding job that he cant take any
time off of or hed risk loosing it. Ive
been out of work for a bit due to problems
with my back that practally cripple me so
hes supporting both of us rite now and
cant risk loosing his job. We just moved
here not to long ago so we barley know
anyone. Which means that Im going to have
to go through a lot of this alone. Ive
been readings some of the stories on here
and it sounds horrible. Is this something
Im better off not going through alone? I
keep reading that the cramps and the pain
are worse then when you get your period, I
get cramps that are so bad I throw up from
the pain, so I can only imagine what this
will be like. Is it pretty much gaurenteed
to be worse?
This is something I never though Id have
to go through. The really sad part is we
only had sex once since my last period
because my back has hurt so bad, I guess
like they say all it takes is one time.
Sorry for going on, I guess I need to get
it out.
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lucy315
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Posted: 12-07-07 20:25pm
I don't have any personal experience with
medical abortions, but I a am very close
with two people who have had them. My
cousin had a pretty bad time with hers. A
lot of cramping and she was very sick.
Couldn't even keep down water. But, my
other friend had a much better experience.
She had bad cramping, but that was it.
We watched movies and talked most of the
day. She found that a heating pad and
lots of hot tea helped. Within two days,
the cramping got a bit better, and she
returned to work.
Your situation sounds a lot like mine. I
know how you feel about not wanting
children. I, myself, had an abortion for
the same reason. And my boyfriend and I
only had sex one time that month. It
really does only take one time. I had a
surgical abortion, and it was very quick
and I had no cramping and barely any
bleeding. I was out shopping the same
day.
I wish I could be more help. I hope that
everything goes well for you.
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Carifairy
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Posted: 12-07-07 20:51pm
Surgical abortion is easier than medical
abortion.
Surgical only takes 5 minutes, whereas
medical takes 4-8 hours, and you INTENSELY
CRAMP through those 8 hours...
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GRRRR
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Posted: 12-09-07 09:05am
Im thinking maybe I should see if I can
switch it. When I made the appt I hadent
done much more then read about them on the
clinics website which makes the medical
abortion sound easy. I knew one girl who
did it and she complained about being sick
and throwing up, nothing about hours of
pain.
Im scared of any kind of surgery and I def
dont want to be any kind of awake if I do
it. All they offer is twilight sedation.
I also run into the problem that I have no
one to drive me unless they have a sat
appt.
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Carifairy
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Posted: 12-09-07 09:39am
GRRR- Twilight sedation is GREAT.
I have had BOTH asleep and twilight, and I
felt NO PAIN AT ALL with twilight.
It was better than being totally *gone*
because the recovery was easier than with
general anesthesia.
MANY places offer saturday appointments..
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GRRRR
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Posted: 12-09-07 17:42pm
Did you realize what was going on at all,
or have any awareness with the twilight?
I know this place has sat appt's but its a
matter of how quick I can get one. Like I
said this is the only place for pretty
much this 1/2 of the state so they seemed
pretty booked.
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Posted: 12-09-07 17:55pm
"They say im 6 weeks along according to my
last period but I KNOW Im 3-4wks" Did you
count right? Did you count the first day
of your last period as day/week one? If
you are only 3-4 weeks, that means that
you had sex and got pregnant three weeks
after your last period, which means you
found out really early (that should be too
early for a home pregnancy test).
Good luck with the abortion. I would
recommend going to a new place if you
arent comfortable with the one you are at.
If you are already traveling 250 miles,
whats another 50?
You should go with a friend if you are
worried.
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Posted: 12-09-07 19:01pm
She may be saying that according to the
date of actual SEX she's 3-4 but because
of how doctors measure (from the last
period) they're saying 6.
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Posted: 12-09-07 19:36pm
GRRRR
wrote:
Did you realize what was
going on at all, or have any awareness
with the twilight?
I stayed awake for mine. The only help I
had with pain was a couple of shots to
numb the area. The pain was pretty bad,
but over VERY quickly. They had a clock
in the room about head level, and I was
told to count down. I actually walked out
of the clinic within minutes of the
abortion. No recovery room needed. (The
clinic offered sedation, but I chose to be
awake because I hate that dizzy feeling)
Good luck!
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Posted: 12-09-07 20:00pm
PenguinsRus
wrote:
"They say im 6 weeks along
according to my last period but I KNOW Im
3-4wks" Did you count right? Did you
count the first day of your last period as
day/week one? If you are only 3-4 weeks,
that means that you had sex and got
pregnant three weeks after your last
period, which means you found out really
early (that should be too early for a home
pregnancy test).
Good luck with the abortion. I would
recommend going to a new place if you
arent comfortable with the one you are at.
If you are already traveling 250 miles,
whats another 50?
You should go with a friend if you are
worried.
Like Eiri said I going according to the
date of the actual sex prob 2 weeks after
my period. The date of my period is only a
guess too, Ive always been VERY irregular
and never totally paid attention to
exactly when it came.
The place Im going to is only about 45
miles from here, the next closest one is
250 miles away.
The big problem Im running into is I dont
know anyone here besides my b/f. Unless I
can get a sat appt he cant come.
My mom offered to come down here, but she
tends to get very overbearing and stress
me out and get me more upset so I dont
think I want that.
I def dont want to go far away alone.
Id rather have the surgical I think. I DO
NOT want to know whats going on tho, Ill
take all the fuzzy dizzy feelings. I cant
deal with pain, and just the whole thought
of them sucking out my insides makes me
sick. Thats why I had origonally picked
the medical (and it seemed easier to do
alone). I think Im going to try to get a
Sat appt and do the surgical
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Posted: 12-09-07 20:31pm
Well the thing is, if you go with twilight
sedation then you can't drive yourself
home. If you go with just local anesthesia
then you CAN drive and you won't need to
stress out about finding a ride. It'll be
done the fastest, they'll *know* it's
complete and you can move on.
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Carifairy
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Posted: 12-11-07 22:22pm
GRRR- They go by your last PERIOD, not
when you had sex..
With twilight I was HIGH AS A KITE, I felt
nothing, and was not aware of anything,
except a very happy feeling.
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GRRRR
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Posted: 12-16-07 00:30am
Well I had the surgical this morning, it
sucked but I dont think it was as bad as
the medical would have been.
The sedation didnt do a thing!! Everyone
else who took it seemed pretty out of it.
I was wide awake with no pain relief.
After moaning and groaning for about a min
the Dr did something that really hurt and
I practically flew outa the chair, the
nurse had to hold me down.
I dont know if it was because I was moving
so much and so tense but, Ive been in a
decent amount of pain all day. They gave
me 5mg lortab and I have to take 3 for
them to do anything.
Im just happy its over with, I feel so
much better. Even with how much it hurt I
still think it was better then what I
would have went through with the medical.
Thanks for all the help everyone!
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