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Q: What to Expect??

asked by: GRRRR on December 7th, 2007

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I just found out this morning that Im pregnant (suspected for about a week) Im 24 and this is my first time.
They say im 6 weeks along according to my last period but I KNOW Im 3-4wks. I have an appointment next Thursday for a medical abortion.
I really dont have any qualms about getting the abortion, dont like kids, never wanted any and def not rite now. But Im scared of the procedure. The people I talked to at the clinic dont sound very friendly, but there is only 3 places in this stupid state that do abortions and the next closest one is 250miles away so I guess Im stuck.
Whats really worrying me is....
My b/f is 150% supportive, but he has a very demanding job that he cant take any time off of or hed risk loosing it. Ive been out of work for a bit due to problems with my back that practally cripple me so hes supporting both of us rite now and cant risk loosing his job. We just moved here not to long ago so we barley know anyone. Which means that Im going to have to go through a lot of this alone. Ive been readings some of the stories on here and it sounds horrible. Is this something Im better off not going through alone? I keep reading that the cramps and the pain are worse then when you get your period, I get cramps that are so bad I throw up from the pain, so I can only imagine what this will be like. Is it pretty much gaurenteed to be worse?
This is something I never though Id have to go through. The really sad part is we only had sex once since my last period because my back has hurt so bad, I guess like they say all it takes is one time.
Sorry for going on, I guess I need to get it out.

Replies(13)

lucy315

replied on December 7th, 2007

Experienced User

I don't have any personal experience with medical abortions, but I a am very close with two people who have had them. My cousin had a pretty bad time with hers. A lot of cramping and she was very sick. Couldn't even keep down water. But, my other friend had a much better experience. She had bad cramping, but that was it. We watched movies and talked most of the day. She found that a heating pad and lots of hot tea helped. Within two days, the cramping got a bit better, and she returned to work.

Your situation sounds a lot like mine. I know how you feel about not wanting children. I, myself, had an abortion for the same reason. And my boyfriend and I only had sex one time that month. It really does only take one time. I had a surgical abortion, and it was very quick and I had no cramping and barely any bleeding. I was out shopping the same day.

I wish I could be more help. I hope that everything goes well for you. Smile

Carifairy

replied on December 7th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Surgical abortion is easier than medical abortion.

Surgical only takes 5 minutes, whereas medical takes 4-8 hours, and you INTENSELY CRAMP through those 8 hours...

GRRRR

replied on December 9th, 2007

New User

Im thinking maybe I should see if I can switch it. When I made the appt I hadent done much more then read about them on the clinics website which makes the medical abortion sound easy. I knew one girl who did it and she complained about being sick and throwing up, nothing about hours of pain.
Im scared of any kind of surgery and I def dont want to be any kind of awake if I do it. All they offer is twilight sedation. I also run into the problem that I have no one to drive me unless they have a sat appt.

Carifairy

replied on December 9th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

GRRR- Twilight sedation is GREAT.

I have had BOTH asleep and twilight, and I felt NO PAIN AT ALL with twilight.

It was better than being totally *gone* because the recovery was easier than with general anesthesia.

MANY places offer saturday appointments..

GRRRR

replied on December 9th, 2007

New User

Did you realize what was going on at all, or have any awareness with the twilight?

I know this place has sat appt's but its a matter of how quick I can get one. Like I said this is the only place for pretty much this 1/2 of the state so they seemed pretty booked.

PenguinsRus

replied on December 9th, 2007

Moderator

"They say im 6 weeks along according to my last period but I KNOW Im 3-4wks" Did you count right? Did you count the first day of your last period as day/week one? If you are only 3-4 weeks, that means that you had sex and got pregnant three weeks after your last period, which means you found out really early (that should be too early for a home pregnancy test).

Good luck with the abortion. I would recommend going to a new place if you arent comfortable with the one you are at. If you are already traveling 250 miles, whats another 50?

You should go with a friend if you are worried.

Tylanas

replied on December 9th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

She may be saying that according to the date of actual SEX she's 3-4 but because of how doctors measure (from the last period) they're saying 6.

lucy315

replied on December 9th, 2007

Experienced User

GRRRR wrote:

Did you realize what was going on at all, or have any awareness with the twilight?

I stayed awake for mine. The only help I had with pain was a couple of shots to numb the area. The pain was pretty bad, but over VERY quickly. They had a clock in the room about head level, and I was told to count down. I actually walked out of the clinic within minutes of the abortion. No recovery room needed. (The clinic offered sedation, but I chose to be awake because I hate that dizzy feeling)

Good luck!

GRRRR

replied on December 9th, 2007

New User

PenguinsRus wrote:

Like Eiri said I going according to the date of the actual sex prob 2 weeks after my period. The date of my period is only a guess too, Ive always been VERY irregular and never totally paid attention to exactly when it came.

The place Im going to is only about 45 miles from here, the next closest one is 250 miles away.

The big problem Im running into is I dont know anyone here besides my b/f. Unless I can get a sat appt he cant come.
My mom offered to come down here, but she tends to get very overbearing and stress me out and get me more upset so I dont think I want that.
I def dont want to go far away alone.
Id rather have the surgical I think. I DO NOT want to know whats going on tho, Ill take all the fuzzy dizzy feelings. I cant deal with pain, and just the whole thought of them sucking out my insides makes me sick. Thats why I had origonally picked the medical (and it seemed easier to do alone). I think Im going to try to get a Sat appt and do the surgical

Tylanas

replied on December 9th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

Well the thing is, if you go with twilight sedation then you can't drive yourself home. If you go with just local anesthesia then you CAN drive and you won't need to stress out about finding a ride. It'll be done the fastest, they'll *know* it's complete and you can move on.

Carifairy

replied on December 11th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

GRRR- They go by your last PERIOD, not when you had sex..

With twilight I was HIGH AS A KITE, I felt nothing, and was not aware of anything, except a very happy feeling.

GRRRR

replied on December 16th, 2007

New User

Well I had the surgical this morning, it sucked but I dont think it was as bad as the medical would have been.
The sedation didnt do a thing!! Everyone else who took it seemed pretty out of it. I was wide awake with no pain relief. After moaning and groaning for about a min the Dr did something that really hurt and I practically flew outa the chair, the nurse had to hold me down.
I dont know if it was because I was moving so much and so tense but, Ive been in a decent amount of pain all day. They gave me 5mg lortab and I have to take 3 for them to do anything.
Im just happy its over with, I feel so much better. Even with how much it hurt I still think it was better then what I would have went through with the medical.

Thanks for all the help everyone!

Becky

replied on December 16th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

Glad you got it over with and are happy Very Happy

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