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alleybabe_16

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Virgin...boyfriend Wants Sex, not on birth control
Posted: 12-06-07 21:22pm

ok i'm a virgin. my bf who is a few yrs older than me and he wants 2 have sex. he has been w/ 4 girls.
my parents do not know i am dating him so it is hard 2 get away 2 see him.
one of my friends is prego and i am afraid if we do "do it" then i might. i'm not interested in takin birth control so...
what do i do?
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Tylanas

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Posted: 12-07-07 02:34am

You will definitely have a huge chance of getting pregnant if you have sex.

Are YOU ready for sex? Listen to your heart. Don't do it just because your boyfriend is asking. To me, you don't sound ready. If you're not ready to take birth control then you're not ready for sex.
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PenguinsRus

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Posted: 12-07-07 10:42am

If you don't want to take the pill, then try other forms of birth control. Try using a condom.

As Eiri said, though, make sure you are ready for sex. Don't do it just because he wants you to.
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Jude-Love

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Posted: 12-07-07 11:18am

Not interested in birth control? Then you aren't serious enough to start thinking about having sex. At your age, preventing pregnancy/STDs should be your top concern when thinking about whether or not to have sex. If taking precautions to prevent it is too much for you to deal with, wait to have sex.
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alleybabe_16

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Posted: 12-08-07 17:45pm

i'm 16...i think i'm ready
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Posted: 12-08-07 17:49pm

alleybabe_16 wrote:
i'm 16...i think i'm ready

You're not!

If you can't think rationally, by protecting yourself, then you really aren't mature enough yet.

Try picking up a book on STD's.
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Jude-Love

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Posted: 12-08-07 17:54pm

alleybabe_16 wrote:
i'm 16...i think i'm ready


It has nothing to do with your age. If you aren't "interested" in birth control, you're not responsible enough to be "interested" in sex.
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Tylanas

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Posted: 12-08-07 19:10pm

Bingo to the ladies above.

Being "ready" for sex means:
1. Being willing to protect yourself against pregnancy
2. Being willing to protect yourself against STD's
3. Being willing to handle the though choices in case you DO get an STD or pregnant.
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haille

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Re: Virgin...boyfriend Wants Sex, Not On Birth Control
Posted: 12-09-07 14:12pm

alleybabe_16 wrote:
ok i'm a virgin. my bf who is a few yrs older than me and he wants 2 have sex. he has been w/ 4 girls.
my parents do not know i am dating him so it is hard 2 get away 2 see him.
one of my friends is prego and i am afraid if we do "do it" then i might. i'm not interested in takin birth control so...
what do i do?

Pregnancy is not your only concern in this case. You should also consider whether or not you would like to contract any sexually transmitted diseases as well.

If you don't want to take birth control, as in birth control pills, there are several other methods that you can use.

However, the condom has more than one purpose. It not only prevents the possibility of pregnancy. It also prevents the possibility of transmitting sexuall transmitted diseases.

Remember, you only have one life to live. Thus, you should value and consider everything carefully with regards to your body and its health extremely thoroughly.

Allow no one else's needs or wants to have priority of your health.
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sweet girl sexy

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Posted: 12-18-07 22:00pm

That is funny to listen to yall talk about protecting aginst pregnancy, sex is a act of love it shouldent matter if you get pregnant or not, yes sex is very pleasuring but that is not what it is about, as far as the STD's yeah it great to protect but once agian if you are married then that should be no supprise if your partner has an STD! Just giving an oppinion not talking down on anyone.
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Tylanas

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Posted: 12-19-07 16:11pm

Yes, sex is pleasuring and that IS what it is about. It is not ONLY for making babies.

Love is not required for sex, so what about people who have sex that aren't in love? Your whole comment about "pregnancy doesn't matter" doesn't hold an clout.

And why shouldn't I be surprised if the person I am married to has ab STD? I'm not planning on marrying someone with an STD without prior knowledge of it. He and I will be tested prior to marriage, so if he suddenly develops one, YES IT WILL SURPRISE ME.
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Posted: 12-23-07 07:41am

I agree you should not be so careless about birth control. It is not that hard to go out and buy a condom. You say he has been with 4 girls already... that means he could easily have an std already. Do you really want to risk having an incurable std for the rest of your life. ALso what are you going to do if you 'do it' and get 'prego'? Think things through before you make a decision that could affect the rest of your life.
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alleybabe_16

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Posted: 12-23-07 21:41pm

i kno...we "WERE" planning on using condoms. but it doesn't matter anymore cuz i broke up w/ him
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womaninpain

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Posted: 12-23-07 22:16pm

You might not be interested in taking birth control but it's the best way to go and you don't have to take pills there are many other options out there. As well you should use condoms at all times because pregnancy is not the only thing you could get out of the deal here. He has already been around and it has been proven that men can carry diseases and not know about it and transmit them to you. I personally ended up with Chlamydia that I got from my boyfriend and he didn't know that he had it, I didn't know how long I had it for because it stayed dormant in me for a long time as well until the day he was tested he never had any kind of symptoms. Make sure he straps up and you do use another form of birth control because that is what will keep you safe.
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