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alleybabe_16
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Virgin...boyfriend Wants Sex, not on birth control
Posted: 12-06-07 21:22pm
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ok i'm a virgin. my bf who is a few yrs
older than me and he wants 2 have sex. he
has been w/ 4 girls.
my parents do not know i am dating him so
it is hard 2 get away 2 see him.
one of my friends is prego and i am afraid
if we do "do it" then i might. i'm not
interested in takin birth control so...
what do i do?
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Tylanas
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Posted: 12-07-07 02:34am
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You will definitely have a huge chance of
getting pregnant if you have sex.
Are YOU ready for sex? Listen to your
heart. Don't do it just because your
boyfriend is asking. To me, you don't
sound ready. If you're not ready to take
birth control then you're not ready for
sex.
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PenguinsRus
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Posted: 12-07-07 10:42am
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If you don't want to take the pill, then
try other forms of birth control. Try
using a condom.
As Eiri said, though, make sure you are
ready for sex. Don't do it just because
he wants you to.
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Jude-Love
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Posted: 12-07-07 11:18am
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Not interested in birth control? Then you
aren't serious enough to start thinking
about having sex. At your age, preventing
pregnancy/STDs should be your top concern
when thinking about whether or not to have
sex. If taking precautions to prevent it
is too much for you to deal with, wait to
have sex.
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alleybabe_16
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Posted: 12-08-07 17:45pm
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i'm 16...i think i'm ready
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michelle1981
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Posted: 12-08-07 17:49pm
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| alleybabe_16
wrote: | | i'm 16...i think i'm
ready |
You're not!
If you can't think rationally, by
protecting yourself, then you really
aren't mature enough yet.
Try picking up a book on STD's.
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Jude-Love
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Posted: 12-08-07 17:54pm
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| alleybabe_16
wrote: | | i'm 16...i think i'm
ready |
It has nothing to do with your age. If
you aren't "interested" in birth control,
you're not responsible enough to be
"interested" in sex.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 12-08-07 19:10pm
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Bingo to the ladies above.
Being "ready" for sex means:
1. Being willing to protect yourself
against pregnancy
2. Being willing to protect yourself
against STD's
3. Being willing to handle the though
choices in case you DO get an STD or
pregnant.
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haille
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Re: Virgin...boyfriend Wants Sex, Not On Birth Control
Posted: 12-09-07 14:12pm
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| alleybabe_16
wrote: | ok i'm a virgin. my bf who
is a few yrs older than me and he wants 2
have sex. he has been w/ 4 girls.
my parents do not know i am dating him so
it is hard 2 get away 2 see him.
one of my friends is prego and i am afraid
if we do "do it" then i might. i'm not
interested in takin birth control so...
what do i do? |
Pregnancy is not your only concern in this
case. You should also consider whether or
not you would like to contract any
sexually transmitted diseases as well.
If you don't want to take birth control,
as in birth control pills, there are
several other methods that you can use.
However, the condom has more than one
purpose. It not only prevents the
possibility of pregnancy. It also
prevents the possibility of transmitting
sexuall transmitted diseases.
Remember, you only have one life to live.
Thus, you should value and consider
everything carefully with regards to your
body and its health extremely thoroughly.
Allow no one else's needs or wants to have
priority of your health.
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sweet girl sexy
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Posted: 12-18-07 22:00pm
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That is funny to listen to yall talk about
protecting aginst pregnancy, sex is a act
of love it shouldent matter if you get
pregnant or not, yes sex is very
pleasuring but that is not what it is
about, as far as the STD's yeah it great
to protect but once agian if you are
married then that should be no supprise if
your partner has an STD! Just giving an
oppinion not talking down on anyone.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 12-19-07 16:11pm
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Yes, sex is pleasuring and that IS what it
is about. It is not ONLY for making
babies.
Love is not required for sex, so what
about people who have sex that aren't in
love? Your whole comment about "pregnancy
doesn't matter" doesn't hold an clout.
And why shouldn't I be surprised if the
person I am married to has ab STD? I'm not
planning on marrying someone with an STD
without prior knowledge of it. He and I
will be tested prior to marriage, so if he
suddenly develops one, YES IT WILL
SURPRISE ME.
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purrfection
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Posted: 12-23-07 07:41am
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I agree you should not be so careless
about birth control. It is not that hard
to go out and buy a condom. You say he has
been with 4 girls already... that means he
could easily have an std already. Do you
really want to risk having an incurable
std for the rest of your life. ALso what
are you going to do if you 'do it' and get
'prego'? Think things through before you
make a decision that could affect the rest
of your life.
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alleybabe_16
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Posted: 12-23-07 21:41pm
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i kno...we "WERE" planning on using
condoms. but it doesn't matter anymore cuz
i broke up w/ him
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womaninpain
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Posted: 12-23-07 22:16pm
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You might not be interested in taking
birth control but it's the best way to go
and you don't have to take pills there are
many other options out there. As well you
should use condoms at all times because
pregnancy is not the only thing you could
get out of the deal here. He has already
been around and it has been proven that
men can carry diseases and not know about
it and transmit them to you. I personally
ended up with Chlamydia that I got from my
boyfriend and he didn't know that he had
it, I didn't know how long I had it for
because it stayed dormant in me for a long
time as well until the day he was tested
he never had any kind of symptoms. Make
sure he straps up and you do use another
form of birth control because that is what
will keep you safe.
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