i am not too sure of what you are trying to ask here but it sounds like you want to have sex with you virgin girlfriend and dont want to hurt her. if that is the question your solution is simple. no matter what you do she will have slight pain however there are ways to make it less painful. one thing is to take it easy. let her get used to the size of your penis and dont do it as hard as you can. have sex a few times so that she can get used to the size and so her vagina can adjust. another thing you can try is to use lots of forplay to make sure that she is good and lubricated. you could also try a personal lubricant such as idglide or ky but make sure to use water based so that you dont wreak the condom. and the last thing you could do is try other things such as your fingers first so that again her vagina can adjust to accept something bigger. hope this helps and i hope you can acheive whatever youa re trying for

That's not true- it doesn't have to hurt. Sex should never hurt, not the first time, not ever.

It does hurt many girls, however, because they think it should, so they tense up, or they are scared, so they aren't well lubricated, or for a VERY SMALL percentage of girls, they have an intact hymen that will break.

If you make sure she is relaxed and comfortable, well lubricated (it would be nice to buy some ahead of time and use it) and do lots of foreplay before you start. If you do all these things, it shouldn't hurt.