How serious is this relationship? And whats your definition of crush?

If you're in a serious relationship with someone then I don't really see why you would have a crush on someone else? I guess to me it just doesn't follow. I don't really think it is right or wrong, but if you were really into your relationship then why on earth would you spend time thinking about someone else? If you were in a relationship with someone that you weren't really serious about then I could see how this would come about though and I suppose its fine as long as the relationship is all around casual to begin with. In my current relationship I don't think I'd be too pleased to know if my guy had a "crush" on another girl.

With a crush do you mean you recognize that the person is nice and you could be physically attratched to them or what?

A harmless crush is probably okay. To me, a harmless crush is someone you are physically attracted to and nothing more. If you have romantic feelings for someone else, that is bad.

if this guy is starting to take up your mental space then that is a problem. It is ok to be attracted to a man. We are only human right? But be careful.

This happened to me before. My boyfriend and I have gone through a lot lately and it started when he lost his job (injury at work) and I had to pay for everything. He turned into this lazy guy who didnt help me at all. He regained his teenager traits and just was not the same person. There was this older man at work that was very handsome. I started seeing things in him that used to be in my hubby. I started to think about him outside of work. Once this happened I completely stopped talking to him and stopped being around him. It was easy as that. My hubby means more to me to even think about liking another man. So yeah, definately put a stop to this infatuation. If you love someone enough it wontbe a hard thing to do....

Rosie,

Did your hubby finally straighten out his life after the injury?

Ah I remember that!

He hurt his knee right?

Yeah things did work out. He started work yesterday. I kicked out his buddy from our apartment a couple of weeks ago. Its only him and I now. Once his friend left (he was living w/us for 3 months) he totally changed. He became for considerate and when I asked him to help out he didnt hesitate. He has done a total turn around without his buddy there. I think his buddy was his way out of responsibility. I think he got a little scared because we have gotten so serious in our relationship. Doug was his way of escaping the reality and becoming a pre-teen again. LOL. But it was really bumpy and we worked it out. His actions are starting to back up what he promised me. So for now, thats enough for me.

Thanks guys for rememberin and caring to ask.

As long as you dont act on it, your fine.. a crush is just that a crush.. its not like your cheating on your bf.. i think its only natural to find other ppl attractive, even if u have your soulmate.

I think that probably anybody that feels it is ok to be in a "serious" relationship, and have a emotional attraction with somebody else, probably feels that way because they either are, or have been in that situation already. It seems like a contradiction, how can one be in a Serious relationship, and feel things for another at the same time? It makes about as much sense as the term married bachelor, or kind of pregnant, pretty ugly, yadda yadda, whatever those kind of terminologies are called.

If it is a physical crush because one think he/she is hot, no biggie, if somebody is attractive, there is no denying it.

Thanks U guys. I was juz curious bout other people opinions....

it is absolutely normal to be attracted to other people while being in a relationship the only thing is , is that you dont act on those feelings.
you just have to know when not to cross the line.

good evening from the uk aunt weewee im sure your crush is harmless enough a crush is a crush right!!! no one gets hurt with that emotional feeling as long as you keep it that way.
we have a saying in the united kingdom ( just because you are on a diet doesn,t mean you can,t look at the menu).
enjoy your day and be happy.