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Q: Girlfriend has HSV-2 and HPV - what are risks to me?

asked by: Bono Vox on December 6th, 2007

New User

I've been seeing a girl now who is a carrier of HSV-2 and HPV but hasn't had an outbreak in 7 years. She told me a month into our relationship and it didn't change the way I feel about her. Up until this point all we have done is kiss and because of our faith we are waiting until marriage to have intercourse. Things are progressing well, but what I want to know is what exactly is safe and unsafe actions we can perform?

I don't want to sound perverted or crude but are things like oral sex or even stimulating her "down there" a potential risk for me? Or could they cause her to have another outbreak after 7 years? What if I have a sore on my finger? There's a huge stigma about this and I am just so ignorant. I know a great infectious disease doc that we could both talk to, but she is the one for me, I love her, but I want to figure out how to balance safety with pleasuring her.

I'm surprised her GYN hasn't done more education with her, nor even a blood work up, but she is not comfortable. Can someone lead me to a site or explain what the risks are for various things outside of intercourse?

Thank you. Smile

Replies(6)

Rosie H

replied on December 18th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

if she has a sore in or on her mouth dont do any sexual activity. You can pass a mouth sore onto the genitals. Even when there is no outbreak you can still pass herpes, the chances are slim but it can still happen. If you want to have sex or do sexual activities but dont want to get it the have her get on daily medication, even if she hasnt had an outbreak. Also use condoms and dental dams. Just cause she doesnt have outbreaks doesnt mean that you wont. She could be a carrier and pass to you and then you could have and outbreak once a month. You just dont know.

I have never heard of getting a sore on you finger. But you can get them on your genitals, mouth, butt, and thighs. I hope this helps please ask as many questions as you need to.

princess1972

replied on June 25th, 2009

New User

I'm confuse....I was just diagnose with hpv and hsv

I'm confuse....I was just diagnose with hpv and hsv. However, when my dr gave me more info pertaining to my dianoses she kept referring to hpv. is hsv one of the diseases that is associated with hpv?

jkel124

replied on July 8th, 2009

New User

Yes you are at risk, and considering most marriages don't last you would be surely contracting a permanent disease and a relationship that is likely to not be permanent. It would make more sense for 2 people with HSV to be in a relationship.. Seems no one values being clean anymore. What if you pass this onto children? Would you blame your kids for hating you once they were of age to understand the virus and how it is spread?

alicea

replied on September 30th, 2009

New User

Idiocy

To jkel124

That is a completely ignorant and cruel thing to say to someone. For all you know, YOU probably have HSV. I was very safe and had very few partners my entire life and I contracted HSV-2.It can hit anyone at anytime, and is not life-threatening or debilitating. Get yourself educated before you make such heartless and generalized statements. You should be ashamed of yourself.

jaslene

replied on November 1st, 2009

New User

HSV living

I agree with Alicea! =) You do need to educate yourself about these things. We are all victims of victims and crap happens.I do not have any STD's but a man I am dating does. It did not change the way I feel about him. I am educating myself and getting information on how I can have a healthy relationship with him. If he ends up as my husband, I am wiling to take the risk.

smartass

replied on November 3rd, 2009

New User

Play with fire enough and you will be burned! If you marry and your partner has HSV, sooner or later you WILL get it. It can be passed even if there is no outbreak.

Just because you may wear a condom, does not mean the rest of the area is not touching your partner unless you wear Suran wrap with a hole in it and then use condoms. If flesh touches flesh and is rubbed on each other as in a sex act, then there is cell and DNA transfer. Just watch CSI.

It took 17 years for me to give it to my wife and we were careful. I had only had 2 outbreaks since we were married. It was not transferred during an outbreak. Like I said, you WILL be come infected, it is only a matter of time.

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