I've been seeing a girl now who is a
carrier of HSV-2 and HPV but hasn't had an
outbreak in 7 years. She told me a month
into our relationship and it didn't change
the way I feel about her. Up until this
point all we have done is kiss and because
of our faith we are waiting until marriage
to have intercourse. Things are
progressing well, but what I want to know
is what exactly is safe and unsafe actions
we can perform?
I don't want to sound perverted or crude
but are things like oral sex or even
stimulating her "down there" a potential
risk for me? Or could they cause her to
have another outbreak after 7 years? What
if I have a sore on my finger? There's a
huge stigma about this and I am just so
ignorant. I know a great infectious
disease doc that we could both talk to,
but she is the one for me, I love her, but
I want to figure out how to balance safety
with pleasuring her.
I'm surprised her GYN hasn't done more
education with her, nor even a blood work
up, but she is not comfortable. Can
someone lead me to a site or explain what
the risks are for various things outside
of intercourse?
Thank you.
