Joined: 01 Dec 2007 Posts: 8 Location: Hangzhou City, Zhejiang Province, China
Asked My Ex-gf Return to Me, She Said "give You a Chance&qu Posted: 12-06-07 06:45am
Besides a baby face, I love her because
she is a healthy person and I am a bp guy.
She can stand more stress and presure than
me.
It was me who forced her away last time.
But now when I asked her to be my gf
again, she admited. I will love her more
than before.
But one thing, I am more mature than last
year, I will try to avoid having sex with
her (last year we cohabited). Personally I
think that we should have sex after we get
married.
Pre-marriagement love should be spiritual,
isn't it?
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peacemaker
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Dec 2007 Posts: 8 Location: Hangzhou City, Zhejiang Province, China
Additional Question--- Posted: 12-06-07 07:24am
I feel a kind of security inside of my
mind since my ex-gf commited to return.
Meanwhile, I feel the self-motivation of
striving is fading gradually. (Of cos not
very serious, just a slight feeling)
There is a love saying in China, that is,
"Love can make a person mature, love also
can make a person lack of ambition."
All in all, my mind is in peace, far
better than when I am alone.
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puzzld
Supporter
Joined: 19 Nov 2007 Posts: 220 Location: gulf coast =), USA
Posted: 12-06-07 13:19pm
that is a good saying!
be careful though... try not to put your
happiness completely in another persons
hands. it is better to be happy and
motivated by our own sense of worth.
my husband is like your gf, he is stable
and can handle pressure better than i
can... for now he is a caregiver
by nature and that is good for us.
we waited until our honeymoon to have sex.
even though we did it before we were
married. it was about a 4 month wait...
but worth it. different for everyone
though.
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peacemaker
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Dec 2007 Posts: 8 Location: Hangzhou City, Zhejiang Province, China
Puzzld, Should We Find Some Other Potential Lovers For Backup? Posted: 12-06-07 19:14pm
I agree with this: "be careful though...
try not to put your happiness completely
in another persons hands. it is better to
be happy and motivated by our own sense of
worth. "
Now I've got a new idea, should we find 2
or 3 potential lovers for backup
preventing our loves betray or ignore us?
I have a beautiful female pen-pal who tell
me that she has upto 5 backups! She is in
love with a handsome and capable young
man. (She and her bf are normal person.)
In fact, I feel a little nervous now
because my gf's cell phone has been ceased
temporarily since last night because she
didn't pay the phone bill in time.
In addition, another main reason for
finding 2 or 3 potentials is: It can
inspire us, help us to keep an agressive
mind to life.
Any comments appreciated.
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puzzld
Supporter
Joined: 19 Nov 2007 Posts: 220 Location: gulf coast =), USA
Posted: 12-10-07 21:19pm
very interesting peacemaker! i think if
you are not married and if she understands
that you are available to other women then
i say GO FOR IT!!! before i married i had
a few potentials myself. nothing wrong
with that
new people always inspire me too. i like
the way you think peacemaker
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peacemaker
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Dec 2007 Posts: 8 Location: Hangzhou City, Zhejiang Province, China
a Waitress of Night Club, Good Enough!!! Posted: 12-11-07 06:03am
Yesterday, I went to visit her from my
city (Hangzhou) to hers (Shanghai). After
almost 7 hours journey, I reached the
destination, I was shocked! I was totally
shocked! She works as a waitress in a
night club! Before face-to-face
confrontation she just tells me that she
is working as a servant in a magnificant
restaurant. No wonder she told me that she
earned so much every month in telephone!
What's more, she was so cold to my
visiting. She left me in the rain for half
an hour, and she said that " I need to
work, you can wait for me somewhere and I
will find you after I finished my duty."
Of cos, it is less important than the
first point.
The constructive suggestions to myself:
1. Turning the attention to something else
constructive; having myself engaged in
something can help me out. Such as
studying, working and finding other good
girls to contact with;
2. Make oneself to realize that feeling
sorrow, upset for a one-way love (esp. to
a club woman) is not necessary at all.
Thanks for watching, friends.
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puzzld
Supporter
Joined: 19 Nov 2007 Posts: 220 Location: gulf coast =), USA
Posted: 12-11-07 12:12pm
it is unfortunate that she lied about her
job. being a waitress in a night club in
the us isn't a big deal for some men. is
it a mens club??
good luck with turning your attention to
something else. that is a smart thing to
do you can do it!!!
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peacemaker
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Dec 2007 Posts: 8 Location: Hangzhou City, Zhejiang Province, China
Posted: 12-11-07 20:26pm
Last night I had a sound sleep. Thanks for
your attention about my personal affairs,
Miss Puzzld.
"being a waitress in a night club in the
us isn't a big deal for some men. is it a
mens club??"
In fact, I myself do think that it is a
big deal. Imaging that she is hugged,
kissed, (even have sex, I guess) by other
men, I feel disgusting! I think that she
is dirty and prone to develop AIDS!
he is a caregiver
by nature and that is good for us.
