feel like I'm deformed - what to do?

yo yacob i could have written that exact post for myself. ive been smokin pot for like 4 years n have had a really bad self image for a while now. i dunno, ppl tell me im good looking but i never belive it, even though girls look my way or attempt to get to know me. i always end up screwing it up because my self image is so bad. i started gettin real smashed when i drink now and am skipping class alot to, which makes it worse cus im pretty damn close to just dropping out.

i dont really have any answers for you rite now, cus im the same position myself, but just do what im doin and try to hang in there, and when your alone and feelin like takin ur mind of things make sure yur bong is nearby.

Now, you may laugh at me. That's O.K. Being funny dosn't hurt. I am 53yrs old. When I was younger, I didn't do drugs. But, I did have a self image. It made it hard to be with girls.
Now, I am this ugly old horny goat, who will go after any grown lady.
My self image is too good for my looks. I am a realist, also.
Now, What do you guys have to do?
You have to repeat this fraze over and over again, until it becomes you.
I AM ONE SWEET HUNK OF MANCANDY!
I AM ONE SWEET HUNK OF MANCANDY!
I AM ONE SWEET HUNK OF MANCANDY!
I AM ONE SWEET HUNK OF MANCANDY!
I AM ONE SWEET HUNK OF MANCANDY!
The ladies will start to reinforce your new self image!
I hope this works for you.

thanks guys. i really appreciate your feedback. seriously. its good to know some people care out there

hey, whats up.
I know where you are coming from
Ever since I started smoking, my self esteem has gone to sh**, and I've noticed that my depression gets worse and worse. I used to smoke when I was depressed, but when I was high, I would get even more depressed. I started skipping work and class to smoke. I don't even smoke to get high anymore.. I just do it out of self mutilation. I kind of take it out on myself cuz I think im ugly, or something like that. If that makes any since at all...

Contently, I'm always looking in the mirror. I don't know how to get over this horrible self image I have. People say I'm good looking, but I never believe it.

Not much advice (I'm sorry). But just to let you know, I'm going through the same thing. Maybe we are just over-analyzing our image? I don't know what it is, but I'm sure now, since you are going through the same thing that it has to come from smoking. At the same time though, I don't want to give up smoking, but I know that it's pulling my self esteem down.

Have you ever notice that there one be some mediocre girl that everbody would think was hot. There would also be this pretty, quiet, researved girl that no one paid attention to.
I know, it's all phony. But, you got to pretend, and practice at being someone special and good looking. In this area, girls, and guys are no different. If you have to change your wardrobe, do it. If you keep practicing at talking to the girls, you find some of them will have things in common with you. Stop judgeing yourself. Let the ladies decide what is good looking. Everone has flaws. Actually, you guys are lucky. Girls don't look at appearences as much a boys do. You guys are much better inside than most guys. You guys have the sinsativity a lot of girls will appreciate. Some girls will see your appearences as having more character, than ugly.
I think as I get older, I am turning into the Silver Fox. I am aging well. I am getting a lot of destinguished charactor to my face. If I live a little longer, no woman can resist me.

yea same thing wit me

oh guys this was me a few months ago except i'm a girl. yeah i was smoking pot about every day/everyother day. i'd had some depression before- but you know how it goes, i'm at college i'm partying i'm trying my damn hardist to be happy.

anways i'd get high and obsess about my body and my face. to an absurd degree. i would spend hours obsessing. i did it when i wasn't high as well, but smoking pot made it worse.

Smoking can lead to anxiety, despite popular opinion. I started to lose touch with reality and was extremely paranoid about what others thought of me. sounds to me like you're suffering from anxiety as well. nip it in the bud. hopefully this wouldn't happen to you but I spiraled out of control from anxiety (of feeling like hell but trying to have a happy facade.) the caca hit the fan and i had to take a medical leave from school.

my advice? first off, as painful as it is-- you really really really should stop smoking pot. it's hard to do when it's around- trust me i know. but it's extremely important.

obsessing about looks just sucks- and mike is right- guys have it easier. i had the same deal... people constantly telling me i'm gorgeous knockout but i didn't believe them. i hated myself, guilted myself, beat up on myself for everything- and after i had no real reasons to think myself a monster I turned to scrutinizing my appearance. honestly i think it was the change of environment that helped with that.

I'm dealing with my caca and getting better everyday (on meds hahaha). My best piece of advice, and I don't know how well it will translate non-verbally... find your humor. it sounds like you guys are taking things really seriously. listen to youtube stand up comedy (daniel tosh...awesome) or when you get that nagging voice in your head try saying it outloud so you can hear how ridiculous it is. self-depricating humor is better that just being self depricating. trust me it works WONDERS. make fun of yourself, find sarcasm. I believe and have experienced that finding the little special ways i'm funny and sharing them is god's grace. humor is god's grace. and i don't even believe in god so there you go.

i replaced pot with cigarettes so i think i'm gonna go visit the cancer forum now.

yea i quit looking for herb (it still finds me though). I'm taking a medical withdrawl from school to get my "caca" together. i appreciate everyone's support. it feels good to have ppl who care =)

I highly recommend the sabbaticals from school. I've done it on multiple occasions, and life keeps getting better as a result.

My suggestion for most of you would be to stop smoking pot. That seems to be a major factor in your negative self image. If you really want to feel better then why do you keep doing things that make you feel worse. It doesnt make sense. Try to get health physically and mentally. Like a previous poster said, try excerise. Or get a hobby. Get out of your mind for a while. I would also suggest seeing a therapist that strictly helps people with self image. A lot of therapists out there only want to talk about your childhood. Now dont get me wrong cause thats where a lot of stuff comes from, but you need help with your life today. I hope the best for all of you. I too struggle with self image and its really hard to stay "feeling good" just keep going and try not to beat yourself up so much. Look for the good things about you instead of focusing on the bad things cause no ones perfect

hey, I just talked to my therapist today about this very issue, since I thought I might be experiencing the same thing.

He said to lay off the weed for a while and see if there are any differences in self esteem or depressive moods. He never told me to quit, and I'm not telling any of you to quit either. That is entirely you're decision.
But see how it affects you if you stop smoking for a while, then you will know for sure weather or not it is the pot.

hope that helps

It's a life long battle. It started in my childhood. I had a really fat, retarded cousin. I was constantly told that I was just like him. In the future, I only believed the negative things people said about me, never the positive. I have that under control, now. It took many years. My first hint that they were lies, I was very intellegent. But, I continue to fight it today. You have to keep working on the positive. There has to be some good features about you, find them, accentuate them. You have to work.