Okay so I did something reallly stupid and i know i did an i feel terrible...
So heres the story. A year ago jan.. or dec. I was dating this guy and we had, had sex a couple times (always with a condom) One time when i came over he said to me : you came over, and your determind to not have sex huh?" I said ya, I dont want to have sex. And he persisted on trying to get me in the mood and tryed to take off my clothes and stuff, and i said no (said it a couple times) than i finaly just gave up and felt terrible, broke up with him and had avoided him until now, I went through a really hard time and felt like it was all my fault. And just blocked it out. One of my close freidns is now dating him, she called me up and asked to hang, so i got excited and went over, i didnt know he was goin to be there. and when i got there she just left! Left me alone with him and i felt so abandoned i couldnt belave she did it. He tryed kissing me and i turned away, i explained to him that i have a bf and nothing was going to happen between us. he still tryed and i was to afraid to just leave. and he started trying to put his hand down my pants and i stoped him, than he pined my hands to my side and continued trying.
i was almost in tears and the whole time i was just wishing i was with Aj. after trying for a like an hour he finaly geve up.. for a few.. but he kept trying all night (i spent the night) but nothing happend pass him trying. I felt just terrible and went home after he left. showered and still didnt feel clean. I just kept seeing him on top of my kissing me and stuff it was horrible. that happend like a week ago, im better now. When i sign online i sign in invisible so he wont talk to me, idk what happend but i signed on visible and he started talking to me and it was like the room just went black like no one else was around me and i got really scared again and i know it sounds stupid but wanted to run away from my computer. but i finaly got off. I dont wanna tell the police or anything up untill recently i didnt know it was rape the first time. .. I just need ppl to talk to. Sorry its so long
1. Attempted rape is reportable to the police and you can get a restraining order against him, especially since this is the second time he's tried to rape you. I know you don't want to but you really NEED to. Why? You need to protect every other girl who he could potentially rape. You need to help protect them from this monster and you can do it
2. You can block people on AIM Just do that, then he can't message you. Or, get a fresh start by making a new username and only giving it to your real friends
I'm sorry such a horrid thing has happened to you; this boy belongs in jail; THEN he'll learn all about trying to force people to have sex! >:^(
Lol ya, i just dont feel i should go to the police... idk if its the same for you guys... but talking just helps alot... i was just freaking out for a few when i wote that.... does it seem strange that im basicly afraid of my computer.... I just want to get over everything...
Because, now i realize thats what he does, the girls that go with him are okay if he's just a one night stand. When they go over there, they expect to be pounced on. I was stupid to think he wanted anything more than sex from me. I dont even know why i thought we might have a relationship. He's just not a one girl guy. he always has a bunch.
This had nothing to do with ur story...I'm sorry I just really feel like I do t have anyone to turn to. I'm depressed...my husband was very forceful during an argument, I know I was getting out of hand verbally. He grabbed my wrist and slammed me down on the sofa. It's been 1 week and he still will not appologize or own up to the fact that he did something wrong. I'm hurt...inside. I told him how I felt today. He said that he was angry at me too because I always expect him to appologize after a fight. But it's always his fault! Why should I appologize for something I didn't do!!! Now he says he did what he did because I needed to snap out of my anger. He says that when we r arguing if he says that's enough and I don't listen, I now know what can happen, and maybe I will learn my lesson. Does this sound bad to anyone else other than me? Is this a red flag? Or am I just being childish and think it's all about me! (the argument started because I caught him masterbating...he hadn't touched me in a month...I got upset...) please anyone talk to me...
to slimchance- no this does not sound normal or selfish on your part, he seems like a bully and childish because he can't talk to you in a sensible manner. Next time you want to argue with him- don't. Just be calm and sensible, if he still gets angry and shouts at you and calls you names or whatever, just leave the room. If this carries on and he doesn't learn his lesson then you need to talk to someone professional- marriages should not be like this. I'm only 21, have never had a relationship but it's common knowlwdge you don't treat loved ones like a piece of meat.