id shoot him in the testicles

why?

because my bf said he wanted to tell me something then he was like no i cant tell you its embarrasing and i know you will get mad so i pressured him for two days which was probably wrong of me then he finally told me i didnt know what to do but i guess i forgave him but i cant forget it. he wants to do her bc he thinks she looks good bc he loves pregnant women but i just cant let it go

no thats messed up and disrespectful
thats your frkin sister!!!!!! i cant believe youu are even still with this guy?!

yea i know i was really upset and i didnt know what i wanted to do but i cant let him go. i dont even want him around my sister anymore bc of that, its weird for me. i know he would never ever try to do anything but i still cant believe he was thinking that.

Wow !!!! Thats so wrong. I dont know what I would do if my hubby said that. It definately would be impossible for me to turn my head on that one. Does he have some kind of fetish with pregnant women? Maybe because shes pregnant hes suddenly attracted to her. Pregnant women are beautiful, to me its when a woman is a woman. I dont know....Man this is tough

yea it was really hard for me to hear it and he only said it bc he likes pregnant women he just thinks she looks good i guess, hes not attracted to her in any other way

This is weird. Why did he ever think it was a good idea to tell you this? I just don't get people sometimes.

Um, have you talked about this with him on more than one occassion? I mean does he know how much that comment made you uncomfortable?

idk he didnt want to tell him but i nagged him until he did tell me because i didnt want him to keep whatever he was thinking from me. this is the only time it has ever come up. its only because shes preg and i know he wouldnt do it but still its the fact that he said it, i couldnt believe my ears, but im getting over it but i know im never going to forget what he said.

yeah there are just some things you just dont tell. I see attracted men here and there and I think wow hes cute. But the though leaves my head. I do not go home and tell my man oh I saw 2 cute guys today....I dont know.

I guess you could ask yourself some qurstions.

Do you think she is attracted to him?
Do you get any bad vibes from the two of them together?
Do they hang out all the time or more than usual?
What does your heart tell you?

He could just be too honest for his own good. ???????

no i know my sister would never do that, shes not attracted to him and she doesnt even know he said that, they are never together by themselves or anything like that and i know he would never make a move on her or anything. they never hang out. the only time we are around her is if she comes home on the weekends. i want to stay with him but at the same time i know im going to always feel weird when my sisters around us and i told him that if he loved me he should never even thought about that. but at the same time i cant tell him what to think about and you cant always control what you think about

leave him
hes going to cheat on you
he really doesnt give a crap about you
why would u sit there when u know he feels that way and said those things? come on now. dont be a silent scared rabiit. get the strength to respect yourself enough to leave

seriously

Ok, have you ever felt that he has been anything other than a good boyfriend to you? Does he always make comments about other girls often? This creepy comment aside that is...

I agree with rosie, maybe he is just too honest? You were nagging him-- I do it too!-- and unfortunately he is either too honest or not quick enough to think of something else to say other than the truth-- all assuming this is his first offense on the creepy/inappropriate comments.

No he has always been a good boyfriend, and he does not make comments about other girls often. He is very honest and always tells me what he is thinking and in a way that is a good thing, though I may not want to hear it, atleast he is honest with me because he knows that means a lot to me. And I did nag him until he told me so it was my fault also. Also I talked about it with him last night and this morning and he said he understands why I think it is a big deal but it was nothing big to him and he asked me what i wanted him to do for having thoughts that all guys have.

Well, this is certainly a little more than just a comment about another pretty girl. I'm with Maddie on this one. Has he ever said anything like this before where you might think he has a fetish about pregnant women? Or was it just a comment out of the blue?

As a man, we do have sexual thoughts about almost every member of the opposite sex, but, as you said, the thoughts leave our head almost immediately, especially if another distration pops up, like a football game. And you sure don't tell your SO about how attractive someone is and how you'd like to "do" her!

But, maybe he was caught off guard or something to make him tell the truth and blurt out a very inappropriate thing. Has he ever said anything like this on other occasions?

It's almost as if you say something you're thinking and then say. "Did I just say that out loud?" Even after talking with him, it is evident that he does not attach the same importance to this creepy comment as you do. Luckily, you are not yet married to this guy because you have the option of dropping him (always a tough choice when love is involved) or of staying and reevaluating whether he is marriage material for you. Over two years together is a long time to get to know someone.

At any rate, the comment was completely out of bounds and it sounds like you are dealing with it. Ask yourself, if I love him, and, if we were married, would I let this remark go or be very concerned about him hitting on my sister in the future? It's your future and you have to decide whether this guy has the character to be a good husband and father to your children. If you appreciate honesty, then be honest with yourself about him.

By the way, nice egyptian hyrogriphics for your username.

lol about my user name, they are supposed to be hearts idk why it looks like that on here. but thank you for the good advice and thank you all for trying to help me. im not really worried about him hitting on my sister in the future, its just weird for me when she is around us now. he thinks its not a big deal but i tried to make him realize what he would feel like if i said something like that to him but of course thats not the same thing. and i would never do that. he knew it would upset me so he didnt want to tell me but i pushed him until he did. this is the only time he has ever said something like that. thats my problem. i do love him very much, we have been through a lot together over the past 2 years and i do not want to give up on us. he truely is everything i have ever wanted but then this, i just dont know what to think. i guess i just want him to realize that what he said was wrong, but at the same time i cant tell him not to think about something you know. i told him it was disrespectful to me and if he loved me that shouldnt have crossed his mind but idk. so our relationship is kinda in question right now. idk if he wants to be with me anymore because i cant let it go.

Men will always check other women out. It has nothing to do with love or commitment. They are visual creatures and they look at women all the time. Its like a second nature to them. I am not saying this to bash guys because women are the same. We just arent so obvious. The sooner you realize this the better off you will be.

Now the whole things with your sister. Just be cautious. Look out for weird behavior and listen to your gut feeling. If you honestly think you can trust him then trust him and drop this. if you are still having funny feelings about it then chances are there is something funny going on. Be true to yourself. Just try not to over anylise this whole thing. I know when I over anylise my mind goes to so many places. One thing can turn into something totally different.

Okay. I can buy that. You're comfortable with everything between you except this one little nagging comment. The power of words is a funny thing. He probably feels like you made him tell you a thought he was having even though he knew it would upset you.

I know we all have inappropriate thoughts at times, men and women alike. I think in that situation, I would have told a white lie to you so as not to hurt your feelings and, most importantly, not to make me look like a creep. It's a shame that he doesn't realize the importance of this type of comment (you know, sort of incestuous) to you.

I know you are in a confused place right now. You have invested more than two years in this relationship and been through a lot with him. The fact that you love him very much is important and, if you'll excuse an old man's advice, please keep the lines of communication open. The fact that you two can talk about this is a big step. It's unfortunate that the remark itself seems to be one not easily forgotten because you each would be reminded of it every time you see or talk to your sister.

My advice to you is to decide if you can ever let this go. If you can forgive and trust him, then forget the remark and get on with consummating your union. But, if you can't let it go, make a decision for a clean break and get on with your life. Let me just say while I have never said anything quite so stupid to my wife, if two people love each other, all words said in anger are forgotten with the passage of time. That's why so many couples break up today, because they can't forgive and forget. Communication and a sense of humor are the two things every marriage needs. Look at your relationship and see if this one remark is too important to you to forget with time.

I am a little concerned that he doesn't recognize the how you think it was disrespectful. And I thinkI would've admitted I was wrong to have said that to you. I'm assuming you have not and never will tell your sister about the remark.

Good luck with your decision.

How did this all come up? Did he just, out of the blue, admit it?

I have forgiven him. As you said, I look back at the past and this is no big thing. He said he was sorry and thought most people say sorry and may not mean it, I know he did. And he does understand why it upset me. So I have decided to get over it and we are fine now. Not worried about anything like that anymore. Thank you all for your help.