Joined: 11 Jun 2007 Posts: 1136 Location: Phoenix, AZ, USA
Thanks: 17
Thanked:7
Dreaming of Ex-boyfriend Posted: 12-04-07 10:26am
This has been happening a lot lately. I
have always had dreams about my ex Victor
ever since we broke up. We have been
separated since I was 18. Three years.
Right now he is in prison. Lovely huh.
My first dream was : I was at my moms
house and he came over. I saw his face
and thought my god he looks so good. He
had just got out of jail. He asked me if
I wanted to take a walk. I looked around
to see if anyone saw him ask or if they
would see me say yes. I said yes and we
went walking. That was the dream. But by
me saying yes I was inviting him back into
my life. It was like a first date. But I
looked around to see if Daniel was there
(my current hubby)
Last night I had another one about Victor.
Again he was out of prison and
established in his new house. I went over
to visit. I think we had sex, its kinda
unclear. I just remember kissing him and
feeling so alive. I never felt like I did
with that first kiss. Again Daniel didnt
know and I didnt want him to know. We
talked and talked all night.
I woke up with a feeling of longing to see
how Victor is and to see what person he is
after all these years. I dont know what
this means. I have seen my ex in the past
and have felt nothing. I dont know, I
just had to get this off my chest.
So what do dreams really mean?
|
PenguinsRus
Supporter
Joined: 05 Nov 2007 Posts: 1223 Location: New York, NY United States
Thanks: 30
Thanked:8
Posted: 12-04-07 10:29am
Some say dreams mean nothing, and others
say it means everything in the world that
you are thinking and don't want to admit.
How was your break up with Victor? Did it
happen in a bad way or a good way? Maybe
you never got closure, so you're looking
for it in other ways (your dreams).
How is life with Daniel right now? If
things are kind of rocky, maybe that would
be a reason for having these dreams.
|
Rosie H
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jun 2007 Posts: 1136 Location: Phoenix, AZ, USA
Thanks: 17
Thanked:7
Posted: 12-04-07 10:37am
My break up with Victor was one of the
most painful things for me. I left him
because he gave me herpes and didnt tell
me he had it. He cheated on me and used
me. I was 15 when we 1st got together and
he was 23! So it was all bad, but I still
loved him. And no I do not have closure.
I want to know why he gave me this disease
and why he thought it was ok not to tell
me. I didnt want this.
Daniel and I have had a lot of problems in
the last couple of months. We are going
through some things and its hard. So
maybe thats it. I just feel kinda guilty/
|
PenguinsRus
Supporter
Joined: 05 Nov 2007 Posts: 1223 Location: New York, NY United States
Thanks: 30
Thanked:8
Posted: 12-04-07 11:04am
That is horrible that Victor would do
something like that to you. I am really
sorry to hear that
If I were to guess, I would say the recent
problems with Daniel along with the lack
of closure with Victor are causing it.
I wouldn't feel guilty about it, though.
You can't help what you dream about.
Hopefully things with you and Daniel will
start to work themselves out. I just
noticed now you said you are longing to
see Victor and what kind of a person he
is. Chances are, if he acted that way
towards you in the past and he's in jail
now, he hasn't changed.
I can understand the longing and
curiosity, though. I know that I
sometimes wonder about ex's and what they
are up to, too. It is a normal thing to
feel when you really loved someone.
|
Rosie H
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jun 2007 Posts: 1136 Location: Phoenix, AZ, USA
Thanks: 17
Thanked:7
Posted: 12-04-07 11:13am
yeah thanks for the support. In real life
I know what I want and what I dont want.
he has tried to be my friend for a long
time. But I dont even give them that. I
want true friends in my life. I dont
assiciate with people that are like him.
I have been hurt too many times to waste
my time and love on someone who doesnt
appreciate it.
|
Hart74
Moderator
Joined: 06 Apr 2007 Posts: 532 Location: Woodlands (not like there are woods anywhere near) Garden City ,
Thanks: 9
Thanked:7
Rosie H Posted: 12-06-07 20:38pm
In my opinion, since now you're having
problem with Daniel somehow you must have
think about Victor and it coincidently
came in your dream I guess deep down you
must be thinking about how you miss the
time you had and since he is the first guy
the feeling of special is there.
|
haille
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Nov 2007 Posts: 81
Unresolved Issues Posted: 12-09-07 14:34pm
PenguinsRus
wrote:
Some say dreams mean
nothing, and others say it means
everything in the world that you are
thinking and don't want to admit.
How was your break up with Victor? Did it
happen in a bad way or a good way? Maybe
you never got closure, so you're looking
for it in other ways (your dreams).
How is life with Daniel right now? If
things are kind of rocky, maybe that would
be a reason for having these
dreams.
I agree, and I think there are some
unresolved issues that may be lurking sub
consciously.
|
Rosie H
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jun 2007 Posts: 1136 Location: Phoenix, AZ, USA
Thanks: 17
Thanked:7
Posted: 12-09-07 15:30pm
yeah thats probably true. dreams can mean
different things too. You could dream
about something and it means something
completely different. I am not too
worried about it though, cause all it is
is a dream. Thanks for all of your replys
|
Aryeani
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 128 Location: Edinburg, Texas, United States
Posted: 12-10-07 15:44pm
I agree that there may be some unresolved
issues. I've gone through the same thing
before. I started having sex dreams about
my ex-Adam. It was really confusing, but I
finally figured out that because our
breakup was so harsh (it was kind of one
of those quick and confusing things where
you're left very confused) that there were
things left unsaid. Maybe there are some
things you need to tell Victor and
something that you might need to get done
to get past him for good?
|
haille
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Nov 2007 Posts: 81
Same Sheet of Music Posted: 12-14-07 10:42am
Aryeani
wrote:
I agree that there may be
some unresolved issues. I've gone through
the same thing before. I started having
sex dreams about my ex-Adam. It was really
confusing, but I finally figured out that
because our breakup was so harsh (it was
kind of one of those quick and confusing
things where you're left very confused)
that there were things left unsaid. Maybe
there are some things you need to tell
Victor and something that you might need
to get done to get past him for
good?
I definitely can see where you are coming
from with this one. It makes absolute
sense. In my case, I just wanted my
chance to make him hurt as much as I did.
They offer you no justifiable reason. You
see no signs of unhappiness; then, bam,
break up. Who wouldn't be thrown for a
reel.
I feel you on this one.
|
Hart74
Moderator
Joined: 06 Apr 2007 Posts: 532 Location: Woodlands (not like there are woods anywhere near) Garden City ,
Thanks: 9
Thanked:7
Aryeani & Haille Posted: 12-15-07 22:14pm
Guys I was in the same boat with you both.
And the worse part is I dreamt about him
|
strawberi
Supporter
Joined: 10 Dec 2007 Posts: 42 Location: Manila, Philippines
Re: Same Sheet of Music Posted: 12-17-07 05:31am
haille
wrote:
Aryeani
wrote:
I agree that there may be
some unresolved issues. I've gone through
the same thing before. I started having
sex dreams about my ex-Adam. It was really
confusing, but I finally figured out that
because our breakup was so harsh (it was
kind of one of those quick and confusing
things where you're left very confused)
that there were things left unsaid. Maybe
there are some things you need to tell
Victor and something that you might need
to get done to get past him for
good?
I definitely can see where you are coming
from with this one. It makes absolute
sense. In my case, I just wanted my
chance to make him hurt as much as I did.
They offer you no justifiable reason. You
see no signs of unhappiness; then, bam,
break up. Who wouldn't be thrown for a
reel.
I feel you on this
one.
I still dream of my ex sometimes. He
broke up with me almost 2 years ago. I'm
still single, never dated ever since the
break up. We've been together for 7 yrs,
had plans of getting married after med
school and then one day he says he wants
out. So, I understand how it feels to
have unresolved issues. We never really
talked about it again. There's so much I
wanted to say but couldn't mainly becase
it hurts my pride to make the first step.
|
Becky
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Jan 2006 Posts: 6225 Location: London, England
Thanks: 0
Thanked:7
Posted: 12-17-07 10:44am
I dream about my ex somtimes. he is still
very much in my life cause of the kids and
i have sex dreams about him
