High Chance of Genetic Conditions Posted: 12-04-07 07:05am
OK So I'm married to my first double
cousin
Last year my wifes sister had a child with
Prader Willie Syndrome-due to close
marriage also. THis has given me a scare.
I now realise that chance of gene
condition affecting our child is probably
about 10%, by looking at all familiy
history or even more!!!! (from expert)
I will also see another genetic specialist
as well!!
Also wife's got issues getting pregnant,
on waiting list to try IVF treatment, but
do I go ahead with this or call the whole
thing off, get a divorce and both get
re-married to other ppl?
What do I do?
of course we love each other, but having a
child with defects (on purpose) is surely
wrong?
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Posted: 12-05-07 07:28am
Wow, don't even know what to say to that.
Are you serious?
If you are, I wouldn't risk having
children if you are pretty sure that there
will be a genetic condition.
What is a first double cousin just out of
curiosity?
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sillyakchick
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Posted: 12-05-07 08:14am
Many people go on to love each other
whether they do or do not have children.
In my opinion, this should not be a cause
for divorce. Obviously in your case, I
believe this marriage is illegal, but I
won't pass any moral judgement on you for
that. That's your own business. Yes,
you have a greater chance of having a
child with a genetic condition, due to the
existence of Prader-Willi in your family
already. Is it unfair to have a child
with genetic defects? I guess that
depends on the level the child is
affected. Many people with developmental
disabilities go on to lead normal lives.
But I think Prader Willi is pretty
debilitating. In the end, the decisions
lie with you.
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MrsLtd
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Posted: 12-05-07 09:43am
What about having the IVF but with a donor
sperm or with your sperm, but a donor egg?
It would cost more, but would be worth
it if you really want to have kids.
I was gonna suggest the same thing as Mrs.
Ltd. At least if you use a donor egg or
sperm the two will no longer be related.
It will cost more but if money is an issue
than go with a sperm donor because it will
be less than an egg donor.
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worriedspouse
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Thanks For All the Kind Words Posted: 12-06-07 04:01am
Erm.....not illegal where I live.....if it
was I'd never be in this mess!!!!!
Anyway, donor sperm/egg is not an option
(religious reasons!)
but i think divorce is the only
option!!!!!
its gonna be hard....but necessary
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sillyakchick
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Posted: 12-06-07 07:49am
Sorry, it is here. Are you certain that
your love for your spouse cannot outweigh
your desire to have children? Or arrange
an adoption? You can do some genetic
counseling ahead of time and the physician
should be able to tell you exactly what
your chances are. I thihnk you can do
chorionic villi testing during the
pregnancy to tell you if there are genetic
amoalies as well.
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mc4ever02
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Posted: 12-06-07 08:35am
I'm a little shocked that a doctor would
even perform IVF if they feel there is
that high of a chance for genetic
problems.
I know that simply being treated for
infertility they normally run a host of
tests to make sure they actually ETHICALLY
can help you get pregnant. Most clinics
have an issue forcing a pregnancy that
could result in the genitic disorters.
Have the doctors relayed their concern? If
so, what was they're advice.
I feel that a child comes from love. You
want a child with your partner because
that is a part of both of you. What you
are speaking of is simply getting someone
pregnant, not having any concern with how
you feel about that person. That would
seem to go against most religions as well.
What your saying really doesn't make any
rational sence once you think about it. Is
this something you have just discovered?
If so, I suggest giving it time before you
make such a massive decision.
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mominashoe
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Posted: 12-06-07 10:13am
In this instance if you want children, you
should consider divorce before anything
unexpected and life-changing happens
between the two of you. To prevent
inter-familial related disorders, it is
not permissible to marry a second cousin
or closer.
