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Q: Advice On No Ejaculation On oral sex
asked by: bedfor on December 4th, 2007
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Hi there

I've posted this on the Men's forum too, apologies, but was hoping for both points of view. Just wondered if anyone has encountered this and any tips- thank you v much.

I've been seeing my boyfriend for about 6 weeks now. He gets an erection very quickly and whilst at the beginning he'd climax v quickly when I'd hardly touched him, now it seems to take a while. I am not v experienced at sex and we have not full intercourse which I know he wants but he has agreed that we take our time. I give him oral sex and enjoy doing it, but dont think I do it very well since it takes a while for him to climax. I am trying to read more about what he would like. It might sound a silly question, but is it normal for him to take a while to climax? Does it mean he's turned on enough to get hard but not enough to climax? I really like this guy and want to please him. He is a generous and sweet lover to me and I want to be able to please him the same.

Many thanks

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Rosie H
replied on December 4th, 2007
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My boyfriend can take 20 minutes to climax with oral sex and other times only 5 minutes. I think its perfectly normal. Ask him what he likes. I can tell you what my guy likes but your boyfriend could like something totally different.
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bedfor
replied on December 4th, 2007
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Hi there

Thanks Rosie H for your response which reassured me. Although I know my bf might like different things which I am in the process of finding out, I'd appreciate any tips you have on what you do...

Many thanks
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Rosie H
replied on December 4th, 2007
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Honestly, I watched porn. I would see what they did and then I would do that to my hubby. There were some things that he didnt like and others he went crazy for. You can tell by his body language and the noises he makes. Try to be open and not too shy. I looked him right in the eye and went down on him. After I was done I asked him if he liked what I just did. I literally did things to him and asked him questions. I think the trick is to explore and do what you think feels good.
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haille
replied on December 6th, 2007
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Well Said
Rosie H wrote:
My boyfriend can take 20 minutes to climax with oral sex and other times only 5 minutes. I think its perfectly normal. Ask him what he likes. I can tell you what my guy likes but your boyfriend could like something totally different.

Excellent suggestion...I couldn't have said it better myself.
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Tylanas
replied on December 6th, 2007
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Many men take a long time to orgasm from oral sex; my ex did too. 30 minutes sometimes!!!
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haille
replied on December 9th, 2007
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Get Out of Dodge!
Eiri wrote:
Many men take a long time to orgasm from oral sex; my ex did too. 30 minutes sometimes!!!

Personally, I not very into oral sex. I do it, upon request, I tend to go for other methods of stimulation. For me, oral sex is played out.

However, 30 minutes...how do you do it! I would get lock jaw.

You got skills.
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Tylanas
replied on December 9th, 2007
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Re: Get Out of Dodge!
haille wrote:
Eiri wrote:
Many men take a long time to orgasm from oral sex; my ex did too. 30 minutes sometimes!!!

Personally, I not very into oral sex. I do it, upon request, I tend to go for other methods of stimulation. For me, oral sex is played out.

However, 30 minutes...how do you do it! I would get lock jaw.

You got skills.

Lol. My biggest pain was always in my neck. I don't deepthroat so I don' really have to worry about that, and I use a combination of hand stimulation and oral so it's not always mouth-on lol.
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bedfor
replied on December 12th, 2007
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Hi guys

Thanks for your posts which reassured me that it was not just that I was completely rubbish at it! I think I've worked it out a bit re hand and oral at the same time etc...my bf is very happy...just took some practice...He is very sweet to me.

One more Q though, i think he'd like me to put my finger in his anus...not sure if I like that idea...is it ok to that?

Many thanks
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haille
replied on December 14th, 2007
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Even Better
Rosie H wrote:
Honestly, I watched porn. I would see what they did and then I would do that to my hubby. There were some things that he didnt like and others he went crazy for. You can tell by his body language and the noises he makes. Try to be open and not too shy. I looked him right in the eye and went down on him. After I was done I asked him if he liked what I just did. I literally did things to him and asked him questions. I think the trick is to explore and do what you think feels good.

How could anyone not understand the simplicity of your response. This is exactly my personal motto, explore and discover what feels good. This is the only way to know. The good thing is sometimes you discover things that you would have never imagined nor known had you not chosen to let go of your inhibitions and explore, pay attention to feelings, body language, and your entire environment. Soon, people will be asking you for advice. These suggestions are great give them a shot. Then, let us know of your success yes
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haille
replied on December 14th, 2007
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Re: Get Out of Dodge!
Eiri wrote:
haille wrote:
Eiri wrote:
Many men take a long time to orgasm from oral sex; my ex did too. 30 minutes sometimes!!!

Personally, I not very into oral sex. I do it, upon request, I tend to go for other methods of stimulation. For me, oral sex is played out.

However, 30 minutes...how do you do it! I would get lock jaw.

You got skills.

Lol. My biggest pain was always in my neck. I don't deepthroat so I don' really have to worry about that, and I use a combination of hand stimulation and oral so it's not always mouth-on lol.

There are two words you used that I would like to address specifically, deep throat and stimulation. These words are exactly why I don't really go for the oral sex. Any attempt to deep throat encourages a gag stimulation. For me, there's not much that is sexy about that. Embarassed
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