Ending a long relationship really sucks. Keep in mind, though, that you are more important than any relationship, boyfriend, money or opportunity. You will survive. It hurts, but this will, in the end, make you a stronger person. It's true!

There are many people who are here who you can message at any time if you need to talk. Myself included!

yes, we are here for you if you need to talk or vent. So how are things going? What exactly happened that made you think its over?

It hurts in the beginning but it'll gets better as time goes by. I agree with Marvel "you can message at any time if you need to talk" Include me too

Well i know it may sound crazy and stupid on my part. But see it is like this, we were never really together i guess, but we were. Anyways he got someone pregnant while we were talking and i didn't think to much of it, i was young and dumb and in my first relationship add he was all i ever thought i would want to be with. And it was right when we first started talking. Well she had the baby and we were still talking, and we still kinda talk but not much. He spends all of his time with her and the baby, not just the baby but her. Its so hard to explain. Well anyways i got on myspace today and looked on her page and she has a blog that says they are doing good and pretty much that they are together. I didn't know it but it sucks. I just can't explain it. I just want to die. I can't take it. He is all i think about. I'm just tired of living i have no one to talk to. I don't talk to my dad anymore because the guy is black and my dad don't like that and he also has porn on the internet i don't like that. My mom is biploar and we don't have a relationship. I just feel like i am alone in this world. All i want is to be with someone who loves me for who i am. And to make me happy. Life just sucks is just about all i can say. thanks for all the comments back.

He is doing you the biggest favor he can possibly do by going and being with this girl. Ending a long relationship with your first love is the hardest thing. When I met my first love he already had a child and I was 16 he was 18 he was playing games back and forth between me and the mother of his child for 2 years. About a year and a half into our relationship she got pregnant again and he said she was lying and just trying to stir up trouble...low and behold not only was she pregnant but the baby came out looking just like him. I still hung on and stayed and went back and forth with him but things never changed. I slowly got over him and it was hard I did a lot of crying but started going out with friends and met awesome people. He will always have that place in my heart thogh. Fast forward 13 years later I am married and have a 7 year old child with the love of my life. He has 4 kids with the mother of his children and they are not together, he has 1 child with someone who was my child hood best friend (obviously not my friend anymore) and another child with another girl that he isn't with so a total of 6 kids that he doesn't care for at all...I see myself as lucky because I could have been one of those girls. It takes time and no one knows how long but you have to allow yourself that time to grieve but you have to break away completely and literally detox yourself from him and the situation, it will be hard but you will get through it I promise. If you need to talk pm me.

can anyone please help me? im with my1st love over 2 years, we met while i was in college, things mmoved extremely fast and were wer living 2gether 2 months into the realtionship-i got very attached!! the realtionship has had its ups and downs like any other realtionship, iv just recently had a baby hes 2 months old and the best ting that ever happened 2 me but since then the realtionship has gone dead, i just feel so trapped, im always crying and feel like evry day is doom, hes puttin so much pressure on me wanting to move to dublin to go college, everyone is telln me im mad to go and let him go home at the weekends, the problem is i just dont trust him-he is a big charmer, so i can just imagin him up there with different girls, theres 2 much 2 say my heads just all over the place

bettyboo302,
life does suck! but i think about the bad choices i made in my life. and when i m in pain i cry to God for him to help me and blame him, when it was me that made the bad decision, and me that cries when it all hit the fan.
you shouldnt be with a guy who has a girlfriend, or just had a baby. and if you were with him, i wouldve conditioned my mind "this cant last, it has to end". the way you describing the stroy, of course you would be the one that's hurt.

you can make your own love story with a guy that is going to love you do death, who wants to marry you and have a child with you.

Im going through the same thing. I met the love of my life 8 months ago and everything was perfect. We moved in together very fast and just absorbed our lives with each other. We lost contact with friends, and did everything together. We had a huge fight one week ago, and have since broken up. He got all his things from the apartment we shared and this man who claimed to love me so much now treats me like dirt. I feel like I cant move on. Im constantly calling him, and texting him, wishing he would come home but he's mean and non responsive. He says he tried with me & its my behaviour that finally pushed him over the edge. I cant eat or sleep now in the apartment without him and I dont know what to do. I felt like maybe if I would've gave him space in the beginning he would've realised what we had & maybe came back but now i've pushed him too far. Any advice for how to move on from someone you love so much?

i know you dont feel it right now but you will start to loathe this man:) and in time will wonder why tears where ever shed. He sounds like a coward and you are much better than that! a million times better! there are PLENTY more fish in the sea and you just need to grab a good set of wellies and go fishing try keep yourself occupied get yourself out with friends, join a gym, club! It sounds horrible right now but eventually you will see the silver lining
Whats for you wont pass you and Karmas a b****, it will give him a good kick one day:) Good luck x