Mainly because men go into the act of sex already aroused (ie:erection). Sometimes I can orgasm quickly if I'm already aroused when intercourse begins, sometimes I need some stimulation before. Also I find relaxation has a lot to do with it. Sometimes women feel pressured to orgasm to make their man fell like "he's the man" but in my experience trying to force orgasm just delays it or makes it impossible.
Think about the size of the sex organs. The head of the penis is maybe 20x bigger than the tiny little clitoris head. It makes sense that the penis would get much more pleasure more quickly. My wife can orgasm much more quickly when we have sex quickly and forcefully. The more hitting of the clitoris by moving fast and hard the faster she orgasms. Sometimes in just a minute! Give it a try. Other times she just plucks it quickly and can orgasm in 45 seconds or so.
men have to be a little patient and i do mean man. when i wuz a boy i didnt care or know any better but when i became a man i learned how to make luv. hard dirty soft n sweet i can do it all now. you got to want to please a women. stimulate her mentally emoitionally and physically all at the sametime. foreplay is a must and all the things i just mention are acts of foreplay. slow and steady wins the race and having a little self control helps alot. men do go in aroused already so u gotta have a lil game. i luv pleasing my women and would never ever cum b4 shes done. u got to train yourself guys. if u feel like your gonna cum dont let her know that. get in her ear tell her u want to lick her give her some oral let that penis cool down a bit. pop off one or two that way and then u can go back up again start stroking that kitty. man up for gods sake please your girl. my girl can get anywhere from one to four orgasms in a session. so i know i gotta put in some work. fingers, lips, toys, tongues, kisses, get in that ear with sexy talk u got help guys dont just use your penis. i could go on and on but the bottom line when my girl tells me i can cum then im done.
do u know where your G-Spot is and do u like it
do u want him to prolong foreplay, then make it both ways
mother nature lets men finish quick but if u experiment and go near that point and stop and then return he can get over that urge and control it, but u need to know when he is near and stop and try more foreplay or change positions etc
(Since this is in the PE thread) If he is suffering from premature ejaculation, he will have to have that looked at first. All solutions depends on him being able to last for a few minutes at least.
Do you orgasm during masturbation? By rubbing your clitoris?
Most couples does not get enough stimulation to the woman's clitoris. This is normal and due to the mechanics of intercourse and your anatomies together.
It does not have anything to do with love, lust or arousal.
Either you or him need to rub your clitoris during intercourse until you orgasm. Use a position like doggy or one with your feet in the air to allow easy access.
You can also get on top where you control the depth, angle and tempo. Lean forward and grind down so that your clitoris gets stimulated on his body. Up and down, in and out are not the only motions. Grind/rub forwards and backwards, left and right or even in circles. With you on top, there is also easy access to your clitoris for fingers or a small vibrator.
Reaching orgasm by rubbing your clitoris is normal, as is not orgasming from just intercourse. If it was me, I would definitely just face up to the awkwardnes and talk to him about it. Do not wait to get in bed with him. Discuss this at some other time when you are relaxed and private and non sexual. You should also offer to show him how you masturbate to orgasm. It might sound and feel strange at first, but you will not be able to wipe the smile from his face for the next week. You can even take his finger and use that to masturbate with. That way he will learn where, how, how hard you like to be touched.
That is the way men learn about female sexuality. He was not born with a vagina and clitoris so he does not have any idea how things are for you.if some woman did not tell or show him this before, he is totally clueless.
If you do not do that, you will begin to resent sex with him and get frustrated, and he will begin to think it is him and become very insecure. I am sure you will much rather go for a little discomfort now and the live happily ever after option than be frustrated for the rest of your relationship.
You can also ask him to show you how he masturbates, and tell you what his special fantasies are.
Have to tell all that sex is much more fun when it's "not normal"...Too often we forget that we all come from "animals"....Saying this, being who and what we are is one heck of a lot more fun than acting like "ladies" all the time...As for me, I let it all hang out...Funny as it is, even after all these years he loves me to death....Take care...
I found all these threads very good.
I am a men and I know how to please my wife and she knows how to please me during intercourse. We take a time during our sex activity and we try the best to stimulate one another.
Sometimes she do an oral stimulation on me, which is very good. Rarely I use my fingers because she does't like that too much.
I use Cialis but I noticed that I can not wait too much because my penis start loosing hardness but we do a good job.
Female body requires more time for stimulation of the orgasm and also we have two kinds of orgasm: clitoral and vaginal. But everything is really possible, the question is just in a desire! If you try,you can get orgazm faster than your man. There are many different stimulants : gels, lotions, sex toys, everything depends of imagination!
I agree with Maryme;
There are two different kinds of orgasm.
Many women just wait for their man as the person responsible to get they stimulated and the one in charge to get them reach their orgasm. The good guy should wait for their women and both reach the orgasm together. Please ladies, don't rely only on your man.
The phrase "Sex - is a base of healthy relationships/marriage" has sense. Last year my boyfriend and I had got some problems with relationships (include sex). We've decided to variegate our sex life. It's really a good way to make sex much better. We've bought lots of sex toys (some of them have appeared absolutely useless) and created many role games. Ask if someone has lack of imagination)). By the way, as I remember, we've bought all this stuff here.