Hurts So Bad When I'm On Top!!! Posted: 11-30-07 22:13pm
I'm a still relatively new to the whole
sex thing...and frankly, missionary just
started being pleasurable to me. But my
man has been wanting me to get on top, so
yesterday i did. We spent a lil while on
foreplay...you know "dry humping"...and I
know I was "ready" i was fairly wet and
getting that all too familiar feeling of
"enough foreplay, put it in already!!" but
when i lowered myself on him, i
experienced the worst pain ever!!! It felt
literally like i was losing my virginity
all over again!! It was absolutely awful.
He did ask me if i wanted stop, but i kept
going not wanting to disappoint im. BUT my
gosh!!! The only way the pain subsided was
when i layed down his chest and went in
and out that way. sittin straight up was
too much to bear. P.S. his size is
average, and missionary even when he
thrusts deep does not hurt. OKAY, so my
question is, is the normal for the first
time your on top...do i just need to get
stretched out and used to a new position??
Or is there a technique to being on top? I
know he wants me to do it and like it so I
want to get over this...for him ( I want
it to feel good for me too, I heard it was
the best way for a woman to reach an
orgasm!) Thanks!
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sweet_mom
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Posted: 12-01-07 00:20am
Being on top is usually the only way for
me to orgasm,but if I sit straight up it
hurts like hell.
I find that if you lean forward just a
little bit,not enough to be lying on his
chest it makes the pain disappear.I
usually link my fingers in with my bfs to
hold myself in the right position.
I'm not sure why it hurts,or really what's
causing the pain.
It's not just because it is the first time
on top,you just need to play around with
positioning.Just tell your bf to go slow
and let you find your own position.There's
no set technique for being on top,like any
position in sex,whatever feels good for
you and your partner.
Hope this helps,and good luck!
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risky
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Posted: 12-08-07 14:09pm
it hurts because you are not used to that
position. you just let him know, you wont
dissapoint him. he wants to make you happy
too while you guys are in that position.
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Tylanas
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Re: Hurts So Bad When I'm On Top!!! Posted: 12-08-07 14:21pm
lollygag
wrote:
I'm a still relatively new
to the whole sex thing...and frankly,
missionary just started being pleasurable
to me. But my man has been wanting me to
get on top, so yesterday i did. We spent a
lil while on foreplay...you know "dry
humping"...and I know I was "ready" i was
fairly wet and getting that all too
familiar feeling of "enough foreplay, put
it in already!!" but when i lowered myself
on him, i experienced the worst pain
ever!!! It felt literally like i was
losing my virginity all over again!! It
was absolutely awful. He did ask me if i
wanted stop, but i kept going not wanting
to disappoint im. BUT my gosh!!! The only
way the pain subsided was when i layed
down his chest and went in and out that
way. sittin straight up was too much to
bear. P.S. his size is average, and
missionary even when he thrusts deep does
not hurt. OKAY, so my question is, is the
normal for the first time your on top...do
i just need to get stretched out and used
to a new position?? Or is there a
technique to being on top? I know he wants
me to do it and like it so I want to get
over this...for him ( I want it to feel
good for me too, I heard it was the best
way for a woman to reach an orgasm!)
Thanks!
Well it may simply be that this position
is too deep for you. If lying down helps
the do that. Don't have sex in positions
that hut you.
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half-pickled-turnip
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Re: Hurts So Bad When I'm On Top!!! Posted: 12-10-07 19:06pm
I get this too, i'm no medical expert lol
but i think its where his dick's pressing
against your cervix which can be quite
painful, i find the more turned on i am
the less painfull it is wen im on top,
like some of the others have said leaning
forward while on top helps, its just a
matter of findin the right position for u,
but something to bear in mind is that wen
we get turned on our vagina becomes more n
more deep allowing more willy in
comfortably.
hope that helps chick x
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PenguinsRus
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Posted: 12-10-07 19:36pm
He might be hitting your cervix. Try
different positions or angles while in
that position
