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Q: Hurts So Bad When I'm On Top!!!
asked by: lollygag on November 30th, 2007
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I'm a still relatively new to the whole sex thing...and frankly, missionary just started being pleasurable to me. But my man has been wanting me to get on top, so yesterday i did. We spent a lil while on foreplay...you know "dry humping"...and I know I was "ready" i was fairly wet and getting that all too familiar feeling of "enough foreplay, put it in already!!" but when i lowered myself on him, i experienced the worst pain ever!!! It felt literally like i was losing my virginity all over again!! It was absolutely awful. He did ask me if i wanted stop, but i kept going not wanting to disappoint im. BUT my gosh!!! The only way the pain subsided was when i layed down his chest and went in and out that way. sittin straight up was too much to bear. P.S. his size is average, and missionary even when he thrusts deep does not hurt. OKAY, so my question is, is the normal for the first time your on top...do i just need to get stretched out and used to a new position?? Or is there a technique to being on top? I know he wants me to do it and like it so I want to get over this...for him ( I want it to feel good for me too, I heard it was the best way for a woman to reach an orgasm!) Thanks!
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sweet_mom
replied on December 1st, 2007
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Being on top is usually the only way for me to orgasm,but if I sit straight up it hurts like hell.
I find that if you lean forward just a little bit,not enough to be lying on his chest it makes the pain disappear.I usually link my fingers in with my bfs to hold myself in the right position.
I'm not sure why it hurts,or really what's causing the pain.
It's not just because it is the first time on top,you just need to play around with positioning.Just tell your bf to go slow and let you find your own position.There's no set technique for being on top,like any position in sex,whatever feels good for you and your partner.
Hope this helps,and good luck!
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risky
replied on December 8th, 2007
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it hurts because you are not used to that position. you just let him know, you wont dissapoint him. he wants to make you happy too while you guys are in that position.
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Tylanas
replied on December 8th, 2007
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Re: Hurts So Bad When I'm On Top!!!
lollygag wrote:
I'm a still relatively new to the whole sex thing...and frankly, missionary just started being pleasurable to me. But my man has been wanting me to get on top, so yesterday i did. We spent a lil while on foreplay...you know "dry humping"...and I know I was "ready" i was fairly wet and getting that all too familiar feeling of "enough foreplay, put it in already!!" but when i lowered myself on him, i experienced the worst pain ever!!! It felt literally like i was losing my virginity all over again!! It was absolutely awful. He did ask me if i wanted stop, but i kept going not wanting to disappoint im. BUT my gosh!!! The only way the pain subsided was when i layed down his chest and went in and out that way. sittin straight up was too much to bear. P.S. his size is average, and missionary even when he thrusts deep does not hurt. OKAY, so my question is, is the normal for the first time your on top...do i just need to get stretched out and used to a new position?? Or is there a technique to being on top? I know he wants me to do it and like it so I want to get over this...for him ( I want it to feel good for me too, I heard it was the best way for a woman to reach an orgasm!) Thanks!

Well it may simply be that this position is too deep for you. If lying down helps the do that. Don't have sex in positions that hut you.
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half-pickled-turnip
replied on December 10th, 2007
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Re: Hurts So Bad When I'm On Top!!!
I get this too, i'm no medical expert lol but i think its where his dick's pressing against your cervix which can be quite painful, i find the more turned on i am the less painfull it is wen im on top,

like some of the others have said leaning forward while on top helps, its just a matter of findin the right position for u, but something to bear in mind is that wen we get turned on our vagina becomes more n more deep allowing more willy in comfortably.

hope that helps chick x
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PenguinsRus
replied on December 10th, 2007
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He might be hitting your cervix. Try different positions or angles while in that position
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