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I Want My Wife to Have a 3some With Me And Another Guy.

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Hi there,
I am cracking up!
I have been with my wife for 14 years now and married for almost 9.
We have a lovely 5 month old son together whom which I love with all my heart.

For years now I have fantasized about my wife going out say,on a works night out and getting banged hard by another guy"really hard" and of coarse him cumming up her and also him banging her up her arse and cumming over her face etc while wearing black high gloss tights etc.

This may sound weird but I really am just a normal guy and this turns me on so much, I also dream of riding her up her arse while she sucks another guys penis and the other way around too.

I lost it 5 years ago and while banging her I told her how I felt and what I dreamed about,I got really emabarssed about it but the thought of it turned me on so much I came every time and she even said things like "I'll fxxk them harder" and stuff which drove me wild.

I am really up for it but my wife just won't deliver the goods in reality and its driving me insane,I want this so much and she is so stunning looking and a fantastic fxxk, I just can't believe that in all this time that a guy hasn't approached her and to say even flirted with her which I want to happen so much,Time is ticking and we aren't getting any younger as I am 34 and she is 29.

I don't know if she thinks that I will leave her if she does it,even if she bangs another guy and even has a fling,I would end up literally bangining her every night as the thought of this turns me on so much,this would make me so turned on and satisfied but I think she thinks that I would leave her for it.
Any suggestions?
I am so desparate for this to happen it's driving me insane.
I know a lot of guys would get jealous about their wife shagging another guy but this is what I truely want to happen,I turns me on so much and has done for years.
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replied November 30th, 2007
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Hoe does she feel? Would she sleep with someone else? or is it the fear thats stopping her?
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replied November 30th, 2007
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If she doesn't actually want to sleep with someone else then that's something you're just going to have to come to terms with. I think you're a little obsessed with the idea; and it sounds like it's coming to a point where it will interfere with your sex life and every day activities: an addiction. That's not good.
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replied November 30th, 2007
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I agree, if she doesn't actually want to sleep with someone else it's just not gonna happen and you shouldn't push it. Talk to her about it openly. If she's not up for it, don't push it.


In the meantime, Is there perhaps another way you can live out this fantasy? Maybe some role playing? Dress up like someone else, have her call you another name, etc.?
I'm sure there's porn on this subject. Watch that together?
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replied December 11th, 2007
Honestly, i think these things are better left as a fantasy. My husband has expressed similar fanatasies, but I wonder how serious he would actually be if i agreed. We are also young and when he talks about it, he just says, "someday". I go along with the fanatasy and the someday but i dont know if it will ever happen. Have you ever heard of those all inclusive resorts in Jamaica, "hedonism"? When we talk about this fanatasy, we say that one day we will take a trip to one of these places and have our threesome fling there so that it is with a stranger who we will never have to see again.

If it means that much to you, i would keep communicating about it, but if your wife is against it, I would suggest you leave it alone or you may start to make her really uncomfortable. Good luck
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replied December 11th, 2007
That's Strange.
I though making love was supposed to be with who you are married to. A sign of showing how much you care about the other person.
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replied December 11th, 2007
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Why does she not want to do it? Maybe you need to talk about this and have more open communication before you have a more open relationship.
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replied December 11th, 2007
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shoot I wouldn't do it. I might play along in fantasy or role playing, but I wouldn't ever sleep with anyone who wasn't my husband even if he wanted me to.
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replied July 17th, 2009
Well if you want to loose you wife then do it, you may not be as good as the other guy, I think you may be the one that wants to fxxk the other guy, ever thought about that. Go ahead be stupid, and when you come home and find her stuff gone and you are alone I guess you fxxked yourself.
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replied October 11th, 2009
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I have the same fantasy and we actually went through with it after we had been married for 8 months or so. It was real intense, and although I loved it and still fantasize about it, it was more painful in reality than the fantasy, and she was quite upset with herself and also with me for persuading her to do it. Our relationship was quite bad for a while after that (I think it played in her head that if I really loved her, why would I make her do that?). I guess its difficult for a woman to understand this strange fantasy. It may also affect how manly she thinks you are, as why would you let another man near your woman? However that was 10 years ago, and we are still together. I try not talk about my fantasy too much, and when she is in a good mood, she may bring something up like 'oh, I remember so and so who had a much bigger penis than you', stuff like that. I am hoping that spontaneously something will happen when the circumstances are right. I drop hints that I would love a 3some for my 50th birthday (not far off). Maybe she will have got her head around it then, and being more mature it wont have a bad affect. But proceed with caution - sometimes fantasy and reality are very different, guys are built differently to girls, careful what you wish for, things may work out not in the way you intended. Good luck!
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replied July 11th, 2011
AN EXTRA GUY FOR WIFE SAVED MARRIAGE. And 3SOMES are fun.
I am not sure if I would do this unless you can handle it if your relationship breaks up. Nor do I think it is a great idea for women who may get pregnant and not be sure who father is. But I do not see how any woman would not enjoy it, I am over 50 and only ever had sex with husband until recently. But because of his ED due to diabetes, this has changed, and we have 3some quite frequently. I wish we had discovered 3somes years ago.
Our marriage was about to end, due to us both becoming irritable and grumpy,we had virtually no sex. Marriage was not in trouble cos of the lack sex per se. But because we were iritable & fighting a lot. Hub said a couple of times perhaps I wanted lover. I said I loved him and would never cheat
We saw a TV show where a couple had a male friend help them, they said its not cheating,was with hubbys consent
A young friend of hubs at our houseone night the subject of male issues came up,Andy is 42, said he had been asked by a couple our age 52 to "help them out" He makes love to the lady, and then sometimes aroused by the situation the hubby would also make love to her, though briefly. The mood between them changed and they were closer than ever. I said about the TV show,but we would never do that. I gasped when hubby said "well perhaps we should darling,you sure deserve it,how do you feel"I saw a twinkle in Andy eyes & was aroused by hi interest.But did not want to hurt Hub, A long silence, he said "I think you have made that clear, Andy,Ive seen the way you look at my wife I know u find sexy". He led me to the bed,kisses me &fondles my breasts,I forgot Andy until I realised the hands on my back & thighs not hubs It felt so good both massaging me all over as my clothes came off Soon I was naked in Andys embrace and we made love for half an hour.Some of the time holding hubby hand ( and something else). I had a quick shower and sat naked between them on the bed. To my delight hub embraced me and we made love as Andy watched. All3 still naked we had coffee & talk for another hour Asked hub later if any regrets. Said he was worried what might happen, but was relieved when he saw just how much pleasure I was getting. It had even turned him on to see his virgin bride being so naughty & sexy. I was scared but did not show it, showing off my body to Andy and "exploring Andys penis" while hub was holding me and touching my breasts I had only ever see hubs in real lif�©, Hub knew no other man had ever touched me. Now Andy has sex with me every 2 weeks in our bed with Hub always present. & when on holidays in Florida for a few weeks, hub agreed & we had a quite few new "friends" back to our hotel room for 3somes & some who now visit when in town. Almost every week we have another guy have sex with me while hub is present. I usually pay attention to him at the same time with my mouth or hands. When young, hub was jealous type But times change & he knows my love for him is not less by this sex.
I am a more confident sexier woman & hub likes that too and encourages me to wear more revealing sexier clothes, and loves me flirting with men at parties. I love the freedom and know that I can do anything I want as long as I am honest. Especially on ho;idays, if I see a guy that I really fancy, I say to hub, I would not mind doing him. he always says go for it. And he loves watching me seduce the guys. When they ask about sex I tell them I will have to ask hubb, which ususlly shocks them, I then say as long as hub can watch, I have never had a guy say no to that, in fact it seems to make them more interested and give them an extra thrill. I have asked hub if he wants to have sex with another woman, He says no, he just loves me being so sexy.
And he really enjoys having such a sexy woman, now that I have had so many men, about 20 in 2 years. He pointed out that we do this because of his ED,
But he also said even if his ED was cured he would still like to continue our 3 somes as he just loves watching me be such a sexy woman when I have 2 men all over me.
We talked to Doc,he said he had many patients doing the same as us. And in each case it had a positive effect on the hub as well,& the hubs were having more sex & were enjoying it more as the relationship was happier.As the arguing had gone WE have never been closer or loved each other more.
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