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to Go Or Not to Go? Posted: 11-30-07 12:07pm
Hey ladies. I've got a slight problem,
and I'm not sure if I should go to an
upcoming concert or not.
Mike's ex is going to be there. Normally,
I don't mind being around someone's ex,
but she is absolutely crazy. They broke
up about two years ago (after only dating
for a few months and seeing each other
maybe 5 times the entire time they dated
due to distance), but she still holds a
grudge against me.
She writes "anyone not named Sarah" under
her myspace on who you want to meet. She
writes in her livejournal about how if she
ever sees me again, she's punching me in
the face. She puts pictures of me on her
journal and says how she is so much
prettier than I am and wonders what he
sees in me.
I tried to talk to her about it in a civil
manor, but instead of working it out with
me, she just posts that convo in her
journal too and makes fun of me.
Obviously, talking it out with this
doesn't work.
Mike stopped talking to her once she
started acting crazy, but she still tries
to get in contact with him all the time
years later. I have no problem with him
being friends with his ex's. He is still
friends with some of his other ex's and
its totally fine with me; just this girl
is crazy.
Anyways, long story short, I find out
she's going to be at a concert we were
planning on going to. Should I still go?
I feel like she shouldn't control our
lives, and if we wanna go to a show we
should just go! On the other hand, I
wouldn't put it past her when she says
she'd punch me the next time she sees me.
It's a small venue, so chances of seeing
her are high. I know if she did lay a
hand on me she could get in trouble, but
at the same time, since its a show, she
could claim it was an accident or someone
pushed her into me or something. I also
don't want to put Mike in an awkward
position. I know he would stand up for
me, but I don't want to put him into
something like that.
What is your opinion? Should I risk it
and go with the chance of getting
hit/things blowing up, or should we just
skip it and find something else fun to do
that night?
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Rosie H
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Posted: 11-30-07 12:35pm
I think you should go. Do not let her
pyscho a** make you miss this concert.
Just keep it cool while you are there and
let her come to you. If she punches you
or hits you first then pop her one. This
may not be the best advise, but its what I
would do. The best and safest thing would
be to stay away from her but she needs to
know you are not messing around.
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PenguinsRus
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Posted: 11-30-07 12:39pm
I'd rather not hit her. Even if she hits
me first, I'm not really one to fight; I
think it's juvenile and unnecessary. I
would rather not get in trouble with the
law and the who did what firsts.
I do want to go, but at the same time I
really just don't know if its worth all
the potential trouble. I don't want to
get hurt, or have her go after Mike or
anything drastic happen. I could just be
being overly paranoid about it, but I know
she has had a past with violence/hitting
friends/ex's, and I don't want to risk
it.
You know, its funny. She has it in her
mind that I took him away from her when
she cheated on him twice, once with his
best friend, and I didn't date him until
months after they broke up. I don't see
how it's magically my fault. I can
understand being jealous or upset, but not
taking it to the extremes she does. Oh
well.
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Rosie H
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Posted: 11-30-07 12:44pm
yeah, people like that have to place the
blame on everyone but themselves.
