I am sorry for your loss. I can imagine how hard it is to hear all this but it also is not fair for her since this is a really huge deal and life altering thing. Maybe you cna just stay away for a little while and gather your thoughts.

i try to stay away but then she txts me tellin me all about her scan and how they found out she havin a girl i cant even bring myself to txt bk i know thats bad but i cant

Take the time you need to heal.

HOnesty might work really well here-tell her how happy you are for her, but this miscarriage is very difficult for you to come to terms with esp since your due dates were similar. Let her know that she has your support, but you need to take some time to heal. I am sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I don't have any advice (I think what the ladies have already said about covers it) But, I did want to say that it is completely normal for you to feel this way. You can be happy for her and sad for you at the same time. It doesn't make you a bad person. It might help to talk about it. Have you looked into local support groups?

I do agree, if you are honest with her, I'm sure she can understand. She might not understand the pain you feel. But I'm sure she can relate to being constantly reminded of something you are trying to move past.


~Big hug~