well ive been married for just over 2 years but been together just over 6 years this year has been a really bad year for me due to not being to well with a bad back that was so bad i couldnt walk for 9 weeks and then in april i ened up haveing an emergency operation which i still havent recovered from but while it was so bad my husband was awfull to me he would go out and not come home for 2 /3 days at a times i couldnt even get to the bathroom on my own he was out with his mate and his mates daughter and the rest of there freinds yes i did/do think something was going on i was so angry at times i would nearly crawl to get to the house where he was which is a pigsty people call it the dog pit i couldnt understand why he would leave me and to go there the morning of the day i got rushed in hospital i crawled to that house to get him has i was so ill i needed help i didnt want to ask my family to help me has they didnt know what was going on he did come home with me stright away couple of hours later a doctor came out to see me i was that ill i didnt even know when i needed to use the bathroom that same day i had an emergency operation i had the op begged them to let me come home 5 days after has i was so worried he might not get to the hospital with it being weekend and my family would of known something was going on i came home friday day i couldnt walk and my nice husband went to work but instead of coming home he went to that house yet again this went on for weeks i couldnt do anything all i wanted was to get myself right but with him acting the way he was i wasnt getting any better infact i was getting more depressed by the day well things have have changed now he dosnt bother with them people but im finding it hard to forgive him some days i feel like telling him to get lost but i love him im still haveing problems and went to see my surgeon on monday hopeing for some good news but theres nothing more they can do has my spine is badley damged i just felt i needed to get this off my chest im glad i found this site