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Q: Big Problem...pls Take Time to Read!

asked by: KariM18 on April 13th, 2004

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Hey everyone how r u? Im ok.. Not the best tho!! Im havin a big problem.. Ok.. I wanted to name my son carson (some may like it, some not) but either way. .I really really do and want to be able to choose his name.. But a while back I told my gramma that 'grant' was on my baby name list when I was still deciding (thats my grampas name) well then at the next family get together she told everyone outloud that I was havin 'lil grant' and my gramma and grampa were talkin about it forever and about how happy they were etc. (even tho I never said his name was grant! I just said I was considering it).. Anyhow.. So I started goin along with it even tho I couldnt really see myself calling him that.. But I felt like I had no choice because they were soo happy! All my friends like carson too and they said they dont like grant as much. I talked to ryan (the dad) last nite, and he said he doesnt like grant but he likes carson. Its not up to him tho but still. Anyhow. .Then of course, I find out grampa has cancer..And thats the news he got last week. So my mom is like "how could u do that to him? U cant tell them that ur not naming him that now!!!" and making me feel terrible.. So iguess I should just live with it wether im ok with it or not? I dont wanna hurt them, thats the last thing I wanna do.... ~confused~ the last thing I want to be is selfish and I love my grandparents...

Replies(12)

bellax0femmina

replied on April 13th, 2004

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Hey, I understand how confusing that must be! I dont know how much you like this idea.. But how about naming the baby carson grant? Just a thought Laughing

anyways, good luck with whatever you decide to do!

<3
gaby

JillMarie

replied on April 13th, 2004

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I had the same carson grant idea! But I do think it sounds kinda funny! Maybe you could pick a different first name to go with grant as a middle name! Thats hard though!

Darling

replied on April 13th, 2004

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I know you dont want to disappoint your grandpa but your family has absolutely no right to pressure you like that and make you feel guilty about your decision regarding a baby name. It's your child and although yes naming him after your grandfather would be nice, im sure having it as a second name would be sufficient. It's you thats going to have to call him that name for the rest of his life so don't let your family guilt you into doing what they want. Last time I heard it was you that has the belly carrying that baby and if they have something to say about the name they should bite their tongues! I hate how family gets so uptight about things like that. Haha sorry im in a bad mood but best of luck!

lilmama2b_oct04

replied on April 13th, 2004

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Originaly my first duedate that they gave me was the day that my stepdads mom died, her name is gloria so I was gonna have the middle name be glory or gloria if my baby is a girl and I was talking to my stepdad about it and he seemed really happy about it (but hes not happy about me being pregnant but he just has to deal with it lol). But now my duedate is sept 18th so I dont know if I should still name my baby after her, I wasnt really that close to her but she was a cool lady lol thats sounds kinda funny... But anyways, I dont know if I would be able to name(first name) my kid after somebody, it just wouldnt feel right. Maybe you could explain to them that you were just considering that for a name but you dont think you would feel right calling him grant and just explain to them about how you feel, they should understand what your going through since they had to name babies before and know how hard it is... I think carson grant sounds cute. And personally I think its more respectful to have the middle name after somebody instead of the first. Im sure they will be just as happy if it was the middle name too, hes still being named after you grandpa right? Thats what they are happy/proud of.

insurancegirl

replied on April 14th, 2004

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nikki_caro

replied on April 14th, 2004

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Caron grant or grant carson, but call him carson either way if you like it better. Im sure hes be happy if it was in the boys name either way

Scarf

replied on April 14th, 2004

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Hmmph..I agree that your family has no right to pressure you like this...Its not their child!! Anywho..Ever thought of 2 first names? A lot of people have it. That way you will have the name you want without hurting your grandfather..Just let him go by carson though. Hehe. Good luck!
Shannon xoxox

KariM18

replied on April 14th, 2004

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See, only one prob. . My cousin is already kevin grant and my grammas exact words were "we are so happy to have a real little grant, kevin has grant as his middle name but its just not the same".. She said shes even making me a booklet with my grampas baby pics and 1 part of the booklet will say 'big grant' (my grampa) and the other part, 'little grant".. I was thinking.....Someone shoot me...... Plus, ive always wanted to go with my dads middle name (matthew) cuz we have a family thing I wanted to follow, my gramma, my mom, me and my sis all have the middle name marie, so if it was a girl her middle name would be marie.. Then my dads dad (grampa who died) had the middle name matthew, same with my dad, and my brother too so I always wanted to have my son have the middle name matthew too. But I just feel trapped and I know its wrong for them to make me feel that way but they already have, and now that my grampa has cancer I feel so much worse to break his heart or let him down!! I try to think about calling my baby grant.. And I just dont 'feel it' at all.. Thank you so much for takin time out to read this girls and thanks for ur replies!

Scarf

replied on April 14th, 2004

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Carson-grant matthew *insert last name* is cute! ..Maybe? :d
shannon xoxox

JillMarie

replied on April 14th, 2004

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I know this sucks but if I was in your situation I would just end up naming the baby after him! I wouldnt want to but I would just so I dont hurt their feelings. Maybe you could name him grant matthew of whatever. And you call him by his middle name and let them call him how they want. My great grandma still calls my uncle sam because that is what she wanted my grandma to name him. She even writes it on the tags at christmas or whatever! Laughing

KariM18

replied on April 14th, 2004

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I just talked to my dad and my dads like "name him what u want! People are aloud to change their minds!!" . So I dont know. .Its just I really dont even liek the name grant for my baby...Who knows. . I mite have my mom slip into their convo like "what if kari changed her mind and didnt name him grant? Or.... 'kari likes the name carson too...'.. And see what she says so maybe I could see how they might react? So I will try that. But in the end, I wont hurt my grandpa. .So whatever happens, happens. Thanks everyone~ thanks jill for replyin again!

JillMarie

replied on April 14th, 2004

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Well thats cool your dad is on your side! Will your mom be mad? I hope not!

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