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Q: Bi? - to Know For Sure?
asked by: jago25_98 on April 13th, 2004
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I know, an age old question.

How to you know if you're bi, or just open minded and horny?

People sometimes ask me if i'm gay, to which I have to say "just a little bit" or just lie for simplicities sake.

I feel about 80% straight and 20% gay. Is this possible and if so how do I try to explain this to the uninitiated?

How can I know for sure? I don't mind being labelled if it's accurate.
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Forum Girl
replied on April 14th, 2004
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Have you been with a guy before? (i'm assuming you are a guy - I apologize if I am wrong). So if you have been with both a guy and a girl, I would say you were bi. If you have only been with girls but want to be with a guy - i'd say you were bi curious. If nothing else you can say you are open minded - you don't discriminate. That's what I do. I've been in love with both guys and girls. There is nothing that determines if you are xy and z then you are definitely gay and if you are ab and c then you are definitely straight. Its your decision and its your decision what your label is. Go with what you feel like. And have a good time :d
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jago25_98
replied on April 15th, 2004
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Haven't been with a bloke before. If I get the opportunity I don't know what i'd do you see. Suck it and see I suppose :p

problem is, people don't know how to handle `open minded`.

I'll try it anyway
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Forum Girl
replied on April 16th, 2004
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As for never being with a guy and not knowing what you will do - who does know what they are going to do the first time they have sex? You just kinda go with the flow - do what you think feels right or what you think will feel good. Go slow - go fast - do it - don't do it - whatever feels right.

Now as for what people think - that's a bit more complicated. Most people are tolerant of "open mindedness". However it can be to very different degrees. For example - my parents know that I have been with girls before. I confessed it to them one night and with the exception of one short conversation with my mom - its never been mentioned again. They know, but we just pretend it doesn't happen. And that works for them. On the other hand, the guy i'm seeing absolutely loves that i'm into girls (what guy wouldn't??) and he loves to talk about it constantly. And I have friends with varying degrees of tolerance inbetween. You just have to figure out their comfort level and go from there.
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blackkittykatx6x
replied on May 31st, 2004
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Hey sweetie...Yup it's possible...I feel like i'm 60% into girl and like 40% into guys. Yeah a lot of people have problems with open minded people but I think that that is very stupid and ignorant for someone to hate someone because of how they are. Well g2g love love!
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caribbean
replied on September 30th, 2009
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i agree kitty im 60% into women and 40% into guys even though i have to kids. its what ever floats your boat.
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W0LF
replied on October 5th, 2009
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Your sexual preference is really determined by your sexual partners. If you're a man sleeping with men only you're gay. If you're a man sleeping with women only you're straight. If your a man sleeping with some mix of the two you're Bisexual. If you haven't gotten around to having sexual contact with either gender you're a virgin, no preference applicable.

If people hassle you about not being homophobic you need to realize that this is their problem not yours. When you look ashamed when people question your heterosexuality you empower them to fear same-gender relationships. When you make fun of them or shake your head pityingly you send a message that they are defective people for trying to make one type of relationship superior to another.
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