I'm sorry to hear that

Addictions are so hard, because the person who is using is obviously ruining their life, but what they don't see is how bad they wreck everyone elses lives around them.

I'm sorry you are going through it, and I'm sure you'll find a way to help

I have tried since i was 13 to help them. The only thanks I have ever gotten is degradation. At this point I have a life to live and can no longer try to save them. My mother called me telling me how this is all my fault. I told her I would press charges if she contacts me again. As for my brother, there is nothing a relationship with him can offer. He is mentally and physically abusive to everyone around him and at this point I think he NEEDS to be in prison and maybe get some help for his problems.

That's horrible I'm really sorry to hear that Dani and I'm here to talk if you ever need anything.

Thanks! Apparently he was released and my mom went running to comfort him. I told my dad I want nothing to do with it anymore. I have too much going on.

I just feel like I am being selfish and that I should do something more but if history is a sign it won;t make a difference. ugh, someone help me.

I think helping him and running to him when he's in need just enables the behavior to continue. Sometimes what is needed is tough love.

Your not being selfish at all. You said yourself that you have been trying to help him since you were 13. Now it's time to live your life and let him do whatever with his.

Thanks. My boyfriend is of the same mind at this point. He wants me to cut the negativity out of our lives. I have already told my mother to stay away from me. Now he will need to as well.

im sorry danielle

Addiction can be over come with time! Don't lose hope. My brother too had an addiction problem and he's been clean foe nearly 4 years now! And also Ryan had an addiction problem as well and has seem to over come a major battle with it. I'll keep your brother and family in my prayers! May I ask how old your brother is?

He has been "battling" for 8 years. He doesn't care and he never has. He is 25 with a 6 year old daughter he neither sees nor supports and quite frankly she is better off without him. His problems extend beyond the addiction. He steals things from others all the time (his house is full of stuff and he has no job to pay for any of it) He hits his girlfriend and her dog on a daily basis. The situation is to the point that he is better off in prison (again!).

I think he needs to be dropped by everyone to get the point. He knows someone will always come to support him. As long as my mom does the same stuff as him it will never change. Things were going great for awhile when they didn't speak but now they do and she has him hooked up with her drug connections. Some mother huh?

I'm so sorry to hear that! I sure do hope things get better!

I'm so sorry babe. Aaron's brother has addiction problems as well, so I know a bit of where you're coming from. You can PM me anytime if you need to vent.

Thanks everyone. i am off to bed. I am also avoiding my mom on messenger.

Thats awful im glad you have your boyfriend there for you.

Back for a moment.

My boyfriend has been my rock so much through all of this. If it weren't for him I would not be sane right now and for that I am so grateful. I honestly do not think he truly knows how much he has helped me.

i'm sorry to hear that

thats really awsome danielle! im glad you have support like that in your life! you must be so thankful for him!