Hi there, thank you for posting your question. My answer is not intended as a substitute to visiting your own doctor but I hope I can be of some little help.
Premature ejaculation is complex and difficult to cover in a short piece like this. First of all, it is difficult to agree on a definition. The one I use is this: Premature ejaculation or PE, is ejaculating too quickly either during the sexual arousal phase before intercourse commences or within a few seconds after penetration.â Some texts use the much vaguer definition of âejaculating at a time either party engaged in sexual activity would not have wish for.â
So be clear in your mind if you are looking for a solution for your PE that that is the problem that you actually have â that you are ejaculating during sexual arousal or shortly after the commencement of intercourse. Otherwise you may waste an awful lot of time and trouble.
What doesnât work to solve PE?
Most of the stuff on offer on the Internet is useless irrespective of the compelling way that it may be presented. This is a minefield of hoaxers, conmen and quacks. The exercises do not work. The numbing gels do not work. The restricting rings are painful and do not work. Only two things are of any use in resolving PE. One is a certain prescription medication. The other and perhaps best of all is behavioural therapy.
What does work to fix PE?
Behavioural therapy can be done through a Sex Therapist as a couple or can be learned at home through masturbation. The secret of success is to learn to recognise the "point of no return". This is the point during sexual arousal when you recognise the you are going to ejaculate if stimulation continues. You have to STOP all stimulation at that point, let things settle down and start to build up again. This is how you learn to control the timing of ejaculation which is the key.
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