I think you should talk to him first and give him the chance to be honest with her. I know he already had one chance. but men will try to get away with anything that they possibly can get away with and now that he knows you know what he did if you ask him to be honest with her maybe he will surprise you and actually do it. They have a way of pulling their heads out of their butts when they really want to. If he knows how bad it hurt you then its quite possible that he will do what he can to fix it. I'm by no means making up excuses for him, but thats the truth. Hope everything works out. PM me if you want to talk.

psht
sounds like he thinks hes player
dump him
if hes lying to some sl*t over the phone i cant imagin what hes doing in real life

Texting her back is up to you, I personally don't think I would. Only because I have a huge problem with going behind your partner's back(just because he did doesn't mean you should). Did you ask your guy to send her something saying the truth? I mean if it bothers you-- understandably so-- then just talk things over with him. You're fuming right now and I can honestly relate to that. But tell your guy you want/need him to tell this chick the truth. See if he'd do it right there-- I know that would put an end to any doubt I had on whether he did it or not-- and make sure he knows darn well how much this hurt you.

If he ever does anything like this again, then you really need to rethink your relationship with this guy...

This is the first time he.s done that. there are only a handful of people that he considers close friends and he introduced me to them, so they all know. But he told this girl he didn't have a girlfriend and it bothered me. I don't know how guys think, I guess they jus wanna feel like their not attached But absolutely if this happens again I will let her know on the spot that he does have a girlfriend and to back off, and I.ll give him a choice, either be honest with me or chose what he wants to be, with me or by himself. Thanks for the advice everybody, xmas is coming up so I.ll keep a close eye on him and this chik, cause she did say she was coming down for xmas.

dont wait to do something until its too late

BIG RED FLAGS come on now! can you see that?! hes obviously hiding the fact that hes in a relationship for some reason! thats not right!

Yeah, I didn't mean drop the subject. This needs to be talked over and probably more than once. Stop making excuses for this guy and make sure he NEVER does this again!

So I talked to him about it. We sat down and I asked him to lemme kno what was up. So she livès in Texas and has 2 kids and a husband. They knew each other thru middle school and supposedly were friends. And that she knows that me and him are together and live together too. So I asked him why she was comin on tohim despite bein married etc? They used to mess around when he was stationed in Texas. (why is it that I'm always havin problems wit texan women? Lol I.é his baby mama lol my best friends are texan so don't you guys go and get all angry at me. I was referring to the two chiks I.ve been having problems wit
) Texas is awesome I.ve been there.

Anyways she knows so I told him if she kept buggin him why he lead her on by saying he was single. He said she knew we were together and she kept insisting so he had a talk wit her over the phone telling her to back off cause he was getting annoyed. That's when she found out he was wit me. Quess she tried being funny and kept asking him over and over. He even showed me txtz and when he had called her. So I'm glad that she knows that were together and I told him If she does it again and I'm gonna txt her back letting her know who I really am. So its all good for now,..

Well, I'm glad everything worked out for you!
I love hearing about people actually TALKING about their problems. For some reason people always either avoid communication or they just don't come back to follow up on the situation on here.

well my husband is talkin to a girl over the phone. i have talk about it with him and he told me that he confuse. i don't know what to do .

what does he mean confused? About who he wants to be with or what?
How old is your husband? Why is your husband talking to girls?--or do you mean women?
how long have you been married?

From the txt I read he was annoyed that even tho she knew me and him were serious and living together she kept asking if we were together and making moves on
him. But if you husband is talkin to a girl and doesn't seem annoyed then you should really sit down and think if your gonna continue your marriage
. Jus a suggestion

ok, i have had this same sorta problem.. my now fience's ex would always text him, and it would piss me off!! well we shared a phone and when she would text him, i would sometimes act as if i was him and see what she had to say, or i would just freak out on her..
if i was you, i would have texted that girl, and tell her straight out, you are his gf, and you dont want her textin him..
but its ur choice.. do what you feel is right

I have been there on this one! So here are my thoughts on this...and after I will tell you exactly what happened to me so you can understand....

He is going to tell you what ever he thinks you want to hear and what ever he knows will make you happy and calm you down in order to make things right....you wont' know the truth until you call her...don't text her, call her. Ask her what's going on and what he told her at the same time introduce yourself as his girlfriend. Dont' attack her because it isn't her fault and there is no need for it but talk to her nicely and explain the deal. After you have asked all you ask and find out all you need to know confront him.

I say this because I was once told this and found it to be the key to solving issues like this...it's quite obvious that I have beeen with not one but 2 cheaters in my life and they were both serious relationships- "Never confront anyone until you have all of the facts and can leave them speechless" I swear by it and I don't accuse or confront until I have found out all I need to know. This was actually advice from my first boyfriend's brother.

Now I will tell you that the first time I actually ever used that advice (because it is so hard to do really) was when I was 22 years old, 6 years after I was actually given the advice. It worked out perfectly..no things werent great but I got my answers and there were no games and it solved the problem fast and I left him speechless...

Here is what happened...my boyfriend (now husband...this was years ago and he has learned since trust me) was cheating on me and I had a feeling. The "witch" even called and I picked up the phone...he told me she was a friend from high school that he was trying to hook up with a friend...I found other signs of things lots of them...she lived in another state...and he went to visit her....supposedly visiting family...anyway there were a lot of signs and things just didn't add up. Well one day not one but 2 people he knew kind of told me about him being with this girl and going to see her...that was it. I actually had her number and at that point found it was the last straw and I needed to find out what was going on...so I called her. I played dumb and told her that the number was on my bill and asked who she was, then I asked if she was a family member of my bf because it would only make sense that he would call there...she really was dumbfounded...she knew about me because we had a child together but didn't know that we were together, she wouldn't share information about their relationship but I told her by saying that she wouldn't share the info she just told me all I needed to know b/c if there was nothing going on then she would have just said it. She really didn't seem to care that he was with me at that point and decided she would stay with him and thats when things got rocky with she and I and then of course he and I. I hung up with her and called him and he said "Hey baby" my response was "hey baby? Sure you got the right girl on the phone or are you talking about your witch?" Well he was speechless....didn't know what to say, I basically told him the jig was up and I know it all and that it was over and I hope he was happy and that she was worth it. That was that I got my answers. We split up and they lasted about a year until she bad mouthed me and he left her anyway....but my point of this whole thing is that in the past so many times he had cheated and I didn't have all of the information I would run to him and question him about it and cry to him and tell him that he will never be able to make kids again if he did it and he told me all I wanted to hear when I knew that he was lying to my face...I couldn't do anything abou it b/c I didn't have all of the facts and confronted him before having them so I had no real grounds and he won...this time was so different because he was completely caught.

We actually split for 2 years over that and had nothing to do with each other what so ever. He realized what he lost and actually admitted it all to me years later, every girl, everything he did, and it hurt but I told him I knew all along...

So do I think you should call her? Absolutely, just to find out the truth and let her know you exist. If he gets mad tell him that he gave you no reason to believe him, and if he was lying then who cares if he gets mad he was wrong.

Then just remember for next time with anyone else always find out your facts first because they all do the same thing in telling you what you want to hear.

I really wanted to txt her rite there and then, to let her kno who I was and how things were between me and him. But Iread everything carefully and saw she was the one making the moves on him. He kept trying to end the conversation and she kept pushing it, so rite there and then I decided to confront him. since then I noticed this girl just talks crap, she never even txt him for xmas or new years cause she knew I had found out so she backed off. I found out cause my boyfriend told me that she finally left him alone. So everything now is calm thanx you guys your advice helps me keep my eyes open