YES

me and travis have been together for a year almost (in 7 days!!!)
and lived together for 11 months.
we have spent only ONE night apart (he decided to leave and drive to houston 4 hrs away to go to a party at his friends house at 10 pm he left and i didnt want to go OR want him to go...but he did )

anyways that night i stayed up until 4am crying and mad and sad that he would leave
it scared me
it was our first night apart

that night i fell asleep around 4 and woke up at 5 30 sweating and shakeing. i went downstairs to get some water
i dont remember the entire dream but i do remember bits and pieces from it, that he called and he wasnt comming back.

I'm glad I'm not the only one this happens to!

I'm thinking maybe its a subconscious thing that my mind knows he is gone when he never is so its looking for support and care somewhere and giving me nightmares so I can find that support?

Stupid mind. Why can't it be the other way around and I have the nightmares when he is here to comfort me? haha.

yeah i think thats what it may be too

when your sad or stressed dreams are a way for your body to react to that. the mind is a very powerful thing.
i think the nightmares are because you DONT WANT to be alone. and you miss him so much. it triggers the nightmares because hes not there with you.

i know how it feels to have to be alone in a bed at night stareing at the space where the person you love more than ever is supposed to be laying.

when does he come home?

We both go home tomorrow night (right now I'm in PA visiting my parents, and he's in CT visiting his. We live together in NY). We get in at about 10 pm. We planned it so our buses get in at the same time.

I can't wait to be back in his arms. It's hard being away when you are so used to spending every night with someone.

It's important and good to visit family and it's good we don't forget about them and the importance of it and all, but damn do I miss him.

We usually try to visit our families together (go to his parents house a weekend out of one month, and mine a weekend out of the next, etc), but this time we couldn't do it since our families really wanted us there for their own Thanksgivings.

as much as it hurts its probably good to be apart as well.
sometimes you need that

i know it would hurt me a whole bunch to go to my moms and leave travis for a weekend but someday it might have to happen just so we can get away. ya know? its not good to be togtether ALL the time lol

Yeah, exactly. That's why I know its good and all. You need to be away sometimes to be able to appreciate being together.

I mean, we aren't together 24/7. I go to college and I work. He is gone 10 hours a day (8 hours for work and 1 hour commute on each end). We sometimes go and hang out with friends and have girls night out/boys night out and little things like that.

I think I'm just not used to 3 days at a time. It's hard. I shouldn't be complaining though since I know that so many people have it MUCH worse, like those with husbands in the military. It must be so hard on them.

but ugh I miss him. haha. I think having it be on our anniversary too was another thing that made it hurt a bit more. Who spends their anniversary apart when they live together?

yeah 3 days is a loooong time lol

I know how you feel honey. I had lived with my husband for a year and never spent a night without him. In July I went back home (17,000 miles away) and I was there for 5 days. I missed him more than anything and to make all matters worse I got something like five or six total hours of sleep the whole time I was there. It was so great to be home. Then to make all matters come back to life I went back home about a month ago to go be in my sister's wedding and see the family I hadn't seen in over a year and a half. It was really hard to be away from him even more then because we had just gotten married 20 days before I left to go. When I was at the wedding I was very happy for them but the whole time I couldn't think of anything except how bad I wished he was there with me. I have grown to appreciate him more and more every time I go back home without him. As hard as it is it really does make our relationship stronger. As it will yours too.
I hope that everyone has the happiness that we do. We actually spend almost all of our time together, because we work together and live together. So the only time we are apart is when I go back home without him. But it hasn't cause any problems with us or anything. Its really great and has worked out well for us. At only 19 I am happier in my life than I ever thought that I would be.

im in austin texas

cool!! just curious.

yeayuhhhh

texas is the $*it lol

I'm no psychologist. However, is it possible that your subconscience is reflecting your insecurities about being alone through these horrible nightmares?

Some people believe that dreams have no validity. I agree, to some extend.

However, I do believe that dreams, although not all, are messages from our subconscious selves. The usually help us to face fears or acknowledge fears we would otherwise deny on a conscious level.

Hence, perhaps you should ask yourself if you are afraid to be alone. Did you have a traumatic experience in the past when you were left alone.

It is possible that you did and consciously buried it, while your subconscience brings it back up every time you are left alone.

Just a theory....

It is an interesting theory. As far as I can remember though, I was never afraid of being alone. In fact, growing up I was always independent. My dad was an alcoholic/drug addict, and my mom didn't know how to handle it and she fell apart all the time, so I had to take care of her constantly and at the same time try to figure out ways to handle him. I was pretty much all grown up by the age of 8.

Maybe that backfires and now that I have something stable it makes me scared subconsciously to be away from it? I'm not sure.

We are back together now. Falling asleep next to him again last night felt better than Christmas.

I am indeed happy for you that he has return next to you.

In the future, remember, all of us have those really disturbing dreams. Just take deep breaths and rely on your independence to get you through it.

You'll calm down in time, which you probably know by now.