Ok guys please answer me I'm a girl and I want to know HOW to hump. Pillow I do it but I don't feel anything so pleeaasse be specific!!! And what's straddle?? I just started masterbating and can't get a toy but if u have any tips please tell me and be specific cause I don't know where the clitoris or anything like that is sorry for being so stupid
Nastyshoes100, Rather learn about your own anatomy first. Get a book from your library, ask your mom or another ADULT women you know and respect.
There are many ways to explore and enjoy your own body. Becoming reliant on pillow humping early on in your development is not the best thing you can do. It will likely cause you stress and problems in your sexual relationships later on. Rather learn to use your hands and fingers first.
theshadowhorse, just like sleeping on that pillow does not cause excess skin on your face, masturbation does not. The way you look down there is determined by your genes. Size, length, color, symmetry are not affected by masturbation. And the chances that you look abnormal are very very very very small. Their is a HUGE range of normal.
YES! I'm not alone - but I might be on another thing. I've had to graduate from pillow humping to humping my forearm 0.o basically I just straddle the meat of my forearm (left one since I'm right-handed) and grind myself against it. I have to shift my shoulder down to reach but it's faster and very satisfying - let's call it efficient - does annnnnybody else do that? Since I figured out how to do that I've reserved the pillows for sleeping.
Well Susan it'd become a lot more difficult to get anything done with a pillow. And I know what you mean but this way is a lot closer to dry humping my partner so it works out great. Only thing is I can never get anywhere with just fingers - never been able to.
I've been humping pillows for masturbation since I was about 7 or 8 and still do it now (i'm 1, I have been sexually active for nearly 3 years now and am in a long term relationship but I can't orgasm any other way and never have. It's so frustrating, does anyone know a way to move from the pillow humping to using fingers and still orgasm?
I have tried just using my fingers more and have also tried vibrators, both of which feel good by I can't climax from them.
I really don't want this to affect my sex life.
when i switched from pillows to fingers, i had to switch from laying on my stomach to masturbate, to laying on my back.. the other adjustment i've had to make is clenching my butt cheeks (sometimes reeeeeeaaaaaaaallllllllyyyyyyy hard, which is actually a bonus, because they get a daily workout - buns of steel, anyone? ) when i start, i always start out gentle, kind of teasing, and get myself wet - then i keep dipping my finger inside me just to get it wet and bring it back to the clitoris. i use a circular motion, starting slow and gentle (whole body relaxed) and working up to fast and hard (clenching butt cheeks!) when i'm ready to orgasm. works like a charm!
EllB, Only you can solve your orgasm difficulty. It is not easy graduating from pillow humping to a more 'natural' way of experiencing orgasms., especially if you grew up humping pillows. Your body grew accustomed to that way of pleasuring yourself and your nerve pathways got developed to carry these stimulation signals to your brain. Your brain is also instinctively associating you straddling your pillow with sexual pleasure.
The first thing to remember is that your clitoris is your primate orgasm organ, just like a man's penis is his primary orgasm organ. This is not saying that you cannot orgasm any other way. Just that this is by FAR the most likely way you will orgasm.
The second thing to keep in mind is that masturbation is much more than just rubbing your clitoris. There are a lot of tension building up in your genitals and body during masturbation. When you are riding your pillow, this happens automatically as you are on yur knees and using your upper leg muscles top rub yourself on your pillow.
When you flip over on your back, this change.You will now have to do things to increase the tension in your genital area. You can tense the muscles or pump your legs open and closed. You also have to concentrate on letting the tension build and build. If you need to read a story, look at pictures or watch a video, by all means do so. But do NOT relax your lower body muscles until you go over the edge and start to orgasm. Also do not think of other things. CONCENTRATE on the feelings in your genitals and making the tension increase.
It will take some time for you to change the way you orgasm. Don't give up. Try different strokes, different pressures, different speeds. What is important is to not directly touch your clitoris. touch it through your clitoral hood, around and beside it. Humping a pillow does not directly touch your clitoris but provides very broad indirect stimulation of your clitoris. So using your flat hand to stimulate your genitals might help.
This helped me so much. I have been masturbating since the age 5 but at the time I didn't know what it was. I haven't told anyone that because its crazy to think of a 5 year old masturbating, ya know? But know that I know other people started at that age kinda makes me feel more secure. Also, the face that so many people hump pillows just makes me feel so much better about myself. I mean, in porn you always see girls getting orgasms from dildos or their hands. I can't do that. I've had a orgasm from a dildo like 2 times in my entire life. But it wasn't NEARLY as strong as humping a pillow xD
Now I just feel so much better about myself. This really helped THANKS!
I have humped pillows since I was around 5, I remember my mom making me take some kind of oatmeal bath cause I did it so much. I did it in school right in front of everyone EVERYDAY ahahaha. I still do it though, I have NEVER been able to cum from sex; anal, oral, vaginal etc. I have been having sex for 6 years now.