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Phil22
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Kids
Posted: 11-21-07 21:48pm
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i was just wondering if kids can be gay or
lesbians or bisexual
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Posted: 11-21-07 21:50pm
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what do you mean "kids"?
how young?
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Phil22
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Posted: 11-21-07 21:55pm
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i was just curious any age was just asking
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Posted: 11-21-07 21:56pm
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i dont know
different people think different things
some believe kids are "born gay" some
think they grow up to become that way
we really dont have a way to know
me personally i found out when i was 11
that i was Bi.
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Posted: 11-21-07 22:01pm
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Well here's the thing... Children are not
sexual beings. They cannot have a sexual
preference. Is their sexuality already
determined? In most cases yes. That
doesn't mean they are gay or straight at a
young age; they are just a kid. Your
sexuality does not manifest until you hit
puberty.
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marvel
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Posted: 11-22-07 01:18am
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I think that 'homosexualness' manifests
itself differently in kids. It has nothing
to do with sexuality as much as it has to
do with preference... preference for
friends... what they play with (not
sexually.. I mean toys, games etc. etc.)
and how they choose to express themselves.
Many kids who do things that are not
characteristic of their gender end up
being gay. Unfortunately many people
consider this a "warning sign" and not
simply a natural way to grow up, so it is
often discouraged (which can lead to
problems later on down the road). I would
say that this is a huge reason why so many
young or 'just outed' homosexuals have so
many problems with self image and
confidence... or why many have problems
coming out in the first place. Much of it
boils down to the rigid gender roles we
have.
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Flurries in the air
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Posted: 11-22-07 01:43am
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i have a friend. he has been doing balley
and like being friends with only girls and
just doing girly things ever since he was
like 2. And not because he didnt have guy
friends just because he wanted to do what
girls did, he liked it more. So i think
some kids r born gay some arent.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 11-22-07 12:24pm
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As I said, sexuality is determined by
genetics but NO child is born straight OR
gay - because children do not have sexual
urges. Homosexuality or Heterosexuality
are words referencing a sexual preference.
A child cannot be gay or straight.
The child may show tendencies that will
manifest as straightness or gayness at
puberty, but as a child they are not
actually gay OR straight.
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homerx
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Posted: 02-15-08 17:50pm
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| Eiri
wrote: | As I said, sexuality is
determined by genetics but NO child is
born straight OR gay - because children do
not have sexual urges. Homosexuality or
Heterosexuality are words referencing a
sexual preference. A child cannot be gay
or straight.
The child may show tendencies that will
manifest as straightness or gayness at
puberty, but as a child they are not
actually gay OR
straight. |
True. And like you said, when you do reach
the age of being sexual, you are who and
what you are and no one or nothing can
make a straight kid gay or a gay kid
straight or a bi kid straight or gay, etc.
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Posted: 04-17-08 12:06pm
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I agree with Tylanas. Kids can't be gay or
straight, because these terms have to do
with sexual urges, which kids can't feel
until puberty.
What flurries is talking about, a boy
playing in a girly way, that is not quite
the same thing.
Yes, there is a chance the boy will be gay
later in life, but there is also a chance
that he won't.
What he is though is effeminate. He is a
male who happens to enjoy the more
feminine things. Some males are this way
and are sexually attracted to women, and
some are sexually attracted to males, or
to both sexes.
Me myself have no problem with this, I
think that as long as a person is not
harming anyone or themselves, then they
should be free to enjoy themselves.
I think though a parent or grownup who
does make a big deal about a boy being
effeminate will only make the boy feel
ashamed for enjoying the things he enjoys,
which in effect could cause problems and
resentments in the parent-child
relationship, and also could cause some
life-damaging psychoses in later life.
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Posted: 04-17-08 12:21pm
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Ani_stasia, I agree...a child should never
be stifled from being there authentic
self..what they are is who they are and as
long as they feel love and loved then its
all good.
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Posted: 04-18-08 23:39pm
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| Tylanas
wrote: | | Well here's the thing...
Children are not sexual beings. They
cannot have a sexual preference. Is their
sexuality already determined? In most
cases yes. That doesn't mean they are gay
or straight at a young age; they are just
a kid. Your sexuality does not manifest
until you hit
puberty. |
I'm not so sure about this one.
When I hit puberty, I knew it, because I
was having fantasies about girls at the
time. Over the course of the next few
years, however, I began getting more
attracted to guys, and if anything, up
until my first boyfriend, I always had
thoughts about girls, even if the majority
of my thoughts were about guys.
Could I be bi? Maybe... however, I do not
see myself dating another woman in my
lifetime. I could be thinking of things
in more of a "what if"-type situation, but
we are all only human.
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Posted: 04-19-08 11:00am
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I must be premo-ultra-uber-gay...I have
never had a fantasy about a woman or a
girl even when I was young....always
fantasized about men even when I was
having my first sexual thoughts.....not
one...unless you count a couple of dreams
about Madonna and what can I say, its
Madonna! 
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Posted: 04-20-08 20:24pm
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I was head over heals for women up until
probably 9th grade. Then something
happened and the penis switch came on, and
it won't turn off. I'm not complaining!
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