Wow what a way to start off. I guess you could just share your experiences with sex and tell her about pregnancy and std's. All you can do is tell her your mistakes and/or experiences and hope you she takes you to heart. But, eitherway she is going to do what she is going to do. No matter how much people talked to me at that age I still had to learn the hard way....Wish you luck.

Yeah. It's tough to get through to teenagers.
I thought about having her mom take her to the free clinic. She can get a firsthand experience and get a little embarrassed as well.
Her mom took her to the police station and she had to tell the men cops what happened, which I'm sure was embarrassing too..
Her friends are trash and have corrupted her. I'm pretty sure she was the last virgin around.

Her mom had my hubby when she was only 16, so I suppose the apple doesn't fall far from the tree...

This is just really hard on her mom right now. She just found out she had MS... a lot of stress isn't good for anyone, let alone someone who is ill.

Thanks for the advice!

Yes, i think that besides telling her all the facts she needs to know, u should tell her that although you're not trying to tell her what to do, let her know that she should never do anything she's not comfortable with. Tell her to never give into pressure, and that if she's gonna do something, (stupid or not) it better be because she wants to personally, not because someone forced her to. 15 is such a tender age....

Yeah. The age of consent in Maine is 14 though so nothing legally can be done.
These little buttholes did this with their parents home.
what the heck is wrong with parents today?!

What? 14? and, EW! Shame on those parents!

14? really?

I think it is a good thing that she told her mother.

You could probably talk your ears off about what's "right" but she's going to have to learn for herself. I would make sure that she was extremely well educated on STD's, pregnancy, rape, & self esteem issues.

Fifteen year olds believe they are invincible. Hard to get through that shell.

14 is so young for the age of consent. That's crazy.

Maybe the part of her who told her mother was scared and needed someone to talk to, even if it doesn't seem like she wants to listen. Good luck with it all. What a hard situation

Well, she's sexually active now so she needs a pap smear asap to make sure she has no STI's. I think the idea of embarrassing/scaring her with the truth is a pretty good idea. There's no need to fake it; the truth about sex and the diseases and other risks is frightening enough. Did the boys even use a condom? Was she on birth control? Good god, she needs to be terrified of pregnancy right now!! It's too late for plan-B.... She really should have gotten a sexual-assault exam with is extremely invasive.

Well I know I can preach about pregnancy and STD's until I'm blue in the face.
It's going to go in one ear and right out the other.
She lives like 1,000 miles away, so that is troubling in itself.
Her brother and I had Kyleigh and she has seen first hand how hard we struggle. Even that won't sink in.
I don't know if the boys used condoms. The night this all was relayed to us, she was in the background throwing a temper tantrum...she sounded like a dying cow.

Get this:
her parents aren't even going to punish her. She gets to go out and do whatever she wants. You wanna know why? They think she did all of this because of the medication she's on. They are scared she might commit suicide if they punish her, so she's allowed to do whatever.
That's crazy to me.
That just teaches her that she can use her condition as a crutch and every time she might get into trouble, just throw that suicidal card out there and it won't be a problem.
They are going to be raising her children within the next 2 years, watch.
And she wanted to go to Duke and become a doctor. So much for that....
Friends are terrible influences in high school.

Oh, and she's been on birth control for a while now. Not sure if the boys used condoms, I'm doubting it though.
As soon as she catches the clap she'll be sorry she didn't listen to her big sister!!
I'm just more disappointed than anything. I mean I can understand losing her virginity but I can NOT understand with TWO boys. That's trampy. Skanky. I'm 23 and don't know of ANYONE who has lost their virginity by letting some boys run a train on them.... GROSS

Ah, that adds a whole other piece to the pie. The parents and the medication and apparently a mental health issue, too.

She needs a therapist.

The parents need to be taught how to parent, and the child needs therapy for her issues: aka she needs some sense knocked into her. Parents shouldn't be afraid to punish their children.

Considering every one is an individual with their own thought and reasoning patterns.

Perhaps, you can start off your conversation with her by asking why she decided to lose her virginity, and why she choose to loose it in the manner that she did?

If she didn't take the time to think about the subject seriously before, considering her actions. These questions may start the right type of thinking and get her to face up to who she really is and why she does what she does.

Every action causes a reaction.

She has one.

You know, I've been thinking and discussing this issue over the weekend with a few people.

Here's the conclusion we came to:

She wasn't a virgin when she did this.
Her friend told her the pain in her stomach was normal, but I'm assuming this scared her and that is the only reason she told her mom.
I think she made up the whole virginity thing to be in less trouble with her mother.
Think about it.
Who loses their virginity and then goes right on to the next guy?
I'm doubting she was a virgin at this point.
I had my doubts before I was even told about this.

The whole family is getting therapy.
The problem is they are blaming her "mental condition" (of being a snotty teenager) for making her do these things.
She is only learning that she can use that as a crutch to get away with whatever she wants to.

This is just so frustrating.

I dont think she was a virgin either, i never heard of anyone losing their virginity to two boys at once, and then telling their parents about it. She was probably just scared that she is pregnant or something so she told her parents about it and just said she was a virgin before so they dont think so bad of her. She is just a teenager she is using her "condition" to get out of trouble. Her parents really need to think what message they are sending to her by letting her do whatever she wants to. I think she is a teenager and she will grow out of it, but she does need to get some help.

What's her meds for?

Having considered what you posted, I tend to agree with you.

I smell cover up and pretense on her part too.