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Q: Should I Do Something?

asked by: Dannzibelle on November 21st, 2007

Supporter

Well i know that i should but doing something could put me and Mika at risk. Basically theres a guy who lives in my town who deals weed and E to Dom's 14 year old brother, that's bad enough but he has a daughter who's barely a year who lives with him and he always has people over smoking weed and snorting coke etc around her.
Someone Dom knows was talking to him the other day and was saying 'how funny' it was when this guy got his daughter high. He hot boxes rooms wither her in them for christs sake! Whenever i see her she's always in clothes too small for her that are dirty and she looks so skinny and ill all the time.
I really want to go to the police but everytime the police go to his flat he's already been tipped off so he's moved all evidence out of the flat. Also he's been in prison for ABH and GBH and the last person who threatened to do this to him he stabbed in the liver, he got away with it though becaue they wouldn't press charges because they were too scared of him. I want to say something so that poor little girl gets the love and care she needs but i don't want to put me, Dom or Mika at risk. What would you do?

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Replies(14)

Mommy35

replied on November 21st, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

I think if you make a call to social services or the police it is anonymous

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mamaTT

replied on November 21st, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

You do not have to give your name if you call, just tell them what's going on and that you are very concerned for the childs well-being. Call from a public phone that way they can't trace the call back to you.

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Shanyan

replied on November 21st, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

I am not sure how it works in England......but where I am from you can make a call to Social Services and it is kept anonymous. Maybe because you haven't personally been to his flat maybe he wouldn't even think about the call being made from you. He might think that it is one of the losers that he sells drugs to.

I feel for you with this tough decision........and I also feel for so bad for this little girl and I really do hope that the authorities get her the help that she needs.

You have to do what is right for you.......and what you feel is right in your heart.

I wish that I could make the call for you....you have a very tough decision to make.
Good luck hun!

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Emma21

replied on November 21st, 2007

Experienced User

I hate hearing these things. It makes me literally ill . Poor little girl. I think you should do the right thing and make the call.

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Tazzy D

replied on November 21st, 2007

Advanced Support Team

i think that you should report it, but just dont say anything to anyone. dont even talk about it like it bothers you to other people around you. that way someone cant say well i know blah blah was saying something to blah blah about you... but i think you should report it, because what if this was your child

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Hollyberries

replied on November 21st, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

I would call social services, or whatever they call it where you live. I've done it to one of my really really good friends. I hated doing it, but i couldn't sit there and watch her smoke up with her 1 year old daughter in her arms, and pop pills after. It's sad.

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Marianne0558

replied on November 21st, 2007

Supporter

You need to do whatever your gut/heart tells you to do.
If a child is in danger, something needs to be done.
Anonymous call to social services would be the best route, IMO.
Either that or live with the guilt of knowing how that baby is living and not doing anything to help.

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sick_mama17

replied on November 21st, 2007

Active User, very eHealthy

Similar situation with one of my neighbours. Report it to social services, they will investigate and hopefully remove her from his care. You dont even need to tell Dom about it, then theres no way anyone would know. Wheres her mum?

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Dannzibelle

replied on November 21st, 2007

Supporter

Her mum lives with them, she smoked weed, drunk and popped pills while pregnant apparently. If this was Mika i would hope that someone would call to keep her safe. I got a number for social services from my health visitor this afternoon so i'm going to make the call tommorow and my health visitor said that she'll get the child's health visitor to pop round to check she's doing okay

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mamaTT

replied on November 21st, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Good for you. I hope they do something for the child. She doesn't need to be living in that kind of environment.

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Dannzibelle

replied on November 21st, 2007

Supporter

Me too. I'm just hoping he somehow doesn't get tipped off this time, their baby deserves better

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AyaMiyaki

replied on November 21st, 2007

Especially eHealthy

Don't tell anyone you're going to call. Keep it nice and quiet. He can't be tipped off if no one knows.

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Dannzibelle

replied on November 21st, 2007

Supporter

AyaMiyaki wrote:

Don't tell anyone you're going to call. Keep it nice and quiet. He can't be tipped off if no one knows.

My mum was with me when i spoke to jayne but she has no idea who this guy is so theres no problem there

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Katrinadoodle

replied on November 21st, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Do you have a silent witness line set up in your city?

You can call them, and they keep it all anonymous.

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