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Hi im megan im 16 and ive been thinking about haveing a baby i know its alot of work and i even talked to my mother about it and she said she would be there for me what should i do?
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replied November 19th, 2007
Someone please help me
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replied November 19th, 2007
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You get a job
get your own apartment
save some money
and get a car so you don't have to live off of mommy and daddy when you're making big girl decisions.

good luck!
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replied November 19th, 2007
i have a job and my own place
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replied November 19th, 2007
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ive known many a girl that has had a baby young
and i get the same response from most...

i love my baby...but i look back and wish i would have waited!!

im 20 and 37 weeks pregnant with me and my hubbys first and sometimes i look and say wow im soooooo happy to be having a baby but is it too soon.

financially are you ready?
do you and your partner see eye to eye on the choice?
are YOU gonna take care of your baby or is your mom?
how much schooling do you have left? (im guessin at least 2 years)
do you have a decent job to support your child?

those are just a few ?s to ask your self
no one on here can tell you what to do that is a choice
clearly for you and your significant other....
good luck and keep the forum updated
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replied November 19th, 2007
i have a nice paying job and my bf realy wants a child to i also have my own place
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replied November 19th, 2007
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What nice paying job do you have at 16? (I'm not trying to be nasty, I'm honestly curious.) Can you afford health insurance? Pay for clothes and diapers and formula and medicine and doctor visits? Between your education and your job, how much time will you have left over for your child? What are you going to do for child care? Do you have your own transportation and car insurance? Why do you need a child right now instead of waiting a few years to get more settled? Do you believe you can give your child everything it needs without relying on others?
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replied November 19th, 2007
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well its nice to hear you have a job
and that you and your b/f want the same thing
but i agree with ayamiyaki
can you afford health inssurance
diapers
formula
bottles
meds
dr. visits
other insurances

ive seen lots of girls do it so in no way am i doubting your ability
im just wondering if youve thought about all of the stuff
i know at that age i wanted one but hadnt thought of all the
money and time and effort it would take but im very thankful to my friends
that were there to tell me the things im telling you
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replied November 20th, 2007
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LilMama239 wrote:
i have a nice paying job and my bf realy wants a child to i also have my own place


Great! Why not get married, then?
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replied November 20th, 2007
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futureshock wrote:
LilMama239 wrote:
i have a nice paying job and my bf realy wants a child to i also have my own place


Great! Why not get married, then?


to want to have a baby doesnt mean you have to be/get married
marriage doesnt have to be in the picture...its a great thing but
doesnt mean its the awnser to all!!
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replied November 20th, 2007
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What i would like to know is this:

If my husband and I in our mid and late thirties who both have decent jobs are finding it difficult to pay for
mortgage
Insurance
Proper running vehicles
Extras for our children
Fun stuff
groceries
medication
etc

and a 16 year old without a high school diploma can afford her own place and has a great job, health insurance, vehicle, etc what are we doing wrong, exactly? Also, I am so very curious, why as a 16 year old do you have your own place? It just doesn't make any sense to me. Unless the national statistics are being mis-represented, this seems fairly unlikely for you to be able to do for yourself.
Would you like to know that in ONE MONTH my family spends almost 1000 bucks on INSURANCE PREMIUMS ALONE of rour home, vehicles, life ins and health?

So for those of you who manage to do this, how exactly does it happen? I'd really like to know.
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replied November 20th, 2007
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please wait until you're older. having a baby is a big decision to make and an adult decision of that. i had my son at 17. it wasnt planned but i went through with it. i dont regret it, but i do regret having him at such a young age. its been very difficult. if i didnt have the support of my family, friends and bobby i don't think i would've handled it
are you entirely sure that your boyfriend will stick around once you are pregnant? even if they say they want a baby, some guys run off and abandon their girlfriends because they are scared. are you sure you can handle being a single parent? im not saying it will happen but are you prepared to handle it if it does?
are you ready for the sleepless nights? no time to yourself? not being able to go out?
theres loads of things to consider. personally, i'd wait. you've got your whole future to have a baby. why not finish your education, get a decent job, get married, etc before having a baby?
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replied November 20th, 2007
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How would you have time for a baby if your going to school and working? Babies aquire alot of attention it's a 24/7 job.Listen to what everyone else is saying wait.There is no rush you will have plenty of time your not even an adult yet.At least get your high school diploma.
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sillyakchick wrote:
What i would like to know is this:

If my husband and I in our mid and late thirties who both have decent jobs are finding it difficult to pay for
mortgage
Insurance
Proper running vehicles
Extras for our children
Fun stuff
groceries
medication
etc

and a 16 year old without a high school diploma can afford her own place and has a great job, health insurance, vehicle, etc what are we doing wrong, exactly? Also, I am so very curious, why as a 16 year old do you have your own place? It just doesn't make any sense to me. Unless the national statistics are being mis-represented, this seems fairly unlikely for you to be able to do for yourself.
Would you like to know that in ONE MONTH my family spends almost 1000 bucks on INSURANCE PREMIUMS ALONE of rour home, vehicles, life ins and health?

So for those of you who manage to do this, how exactly does it happen? I'd really like to know.


It doesn't happen. This poster is not telling us the truth, unless her parents kicked her out and her bf parents did the same to him, and would either sets of parents do such a thing?
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replied November 20th, 2007
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Re: I Want a Baby
LilMama239 wrote:
Hi im megan im 16 and ive been thinking about haveing a baby i know its alot of work and i even talked to my mother about it and she said she would be there for me what should i do?

I thought you said you have a baby on the way?




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and im in the same situation as you im 16 with a baby on the way and i dnt kno what too expect
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replied November 20th, 2007
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another troll. damn do these people actually have lifes?
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replied November 20th, 2007
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Then get pregnant...give up your childhood.
Don't ever expect to go to partys again.
Don't ever expect to go to a normal high school.
Have fun.
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replied November 20th, 2007
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lol im guessing a troll is a fake person/someone faking
hmmm just trying to get caught up on the slang im new lol
and analisa i love the awnser hehehe totally true!!

futureshock you should be a fbi agent lol you always catch em quick
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replied November 21st, 2007
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lol! I am not even close to being as quick as the real expert sleuths around here. Smile
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replied November 21st, 2007
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ya but dang i would have gone on and on with this one lol
im soooooo gullable some one help me lol
still good eye mate
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