Ex-husband contacted my wife - strange? Posted: 11-19-07 15:22pm
Friday, my wife got a message on myspace
from her ex-husband. This was the first
time she has heard from him since they
divorced in 2003. She showed the message
to me that night. Mainly, it said that he
was glad she looked happy now from the
wedding pictures (We have them posted on
myspace). He then proceeded in a "fuzzy"
type of talk. He was telling her that the
dogs didn't look like they had changed
much and was basically rehashing old
memories. We were both shocked over the
message. He had just opened up a myspace
account. Several months ago, just before
we got married, she said the she could
have sworn that she saw him go by the
house one day, but she wasn't for sure.
She wondered what I thought the reason for
him messaging her was. I told her that I
figured it was because he was "testing the
waters" as to how things are now with the
two of us. It was so weird because as I
told her, it's one thing to Google an ex,
but it's totally another to contact them
when there has been so many years apart
and hard feelings at divorce, and you're
remarried. What is your take on this?
Thanks
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Maddie34
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Posted: 11-19-07 17:32pm
Eh, that was annoy the heck out of me. I'd
change my myspace to private and just
delete his "fuzzy" comment.
And watch to make sure it really wasn't
him driving by your house! That is weird..
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Kebi
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Posted: 11-19-07 20:07pm
something kinda the same happened to me...
I got married a couple months ago and my
exboyfriend all the sudden started writing
me (also on myspace) he flirt talked, and
i just never answered (here i have to say
we broke up because he started being
really freaky and tried to control my
every move. he also lied more or less
about everything that was going on in his
life, and as we broke up he kinda started
stalking me, but then i moved back to
switzerland, now i'm in the US again, in
the same area..)... all the sudden he
called me up (dont ask me where he got the
number because i got a new cell phone)
because he wanted to go to parties with
me... I was really weirded out and told
him straight up (but not rude, just
honest) that i didnt want to hang out with
him, and my husband wouldnt be too
thrilled about that either... i told him i
he shouldnt contact me anymore...
well honestly he still writes me emails on
myspace, but i dont ever go there anymore
so it doesnt bother me. just make sure
that your wife didn't put her address on
her myspace accout (because if she did
that might be the reason why he (maybe)
showed up). I agree that she should make
her account private
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young Girl
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Posted: 11-19-07 20:09pm
omg get rid of freaking myspace
its just drama
block it from your computer
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ladyT02
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Posted: 11-20-07 17:58pm
Hey myspace is cool, I met my boyfriend
there and I found a long lost relative
there too. But yea she should deffinately
put her account private. I recently had an
ex contact me thru it so I had to put it
as private and everthings fine now.
Jus keep your guards up and be careful,
lock your doors and stuff if she says she
saw him pass by.
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rooted
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Posted: 11-26-07 02:40am
Sounds like an emotional "booty call", as
my sister puts it. He's probably just
lonely and is reminiscing. Great signal,
though, that your wife is sharing these
details with you. Work with her to come
up with a solution together about how to
deal with it ... and ask her to continue
sharing and being honest.
I met my boyfriend
there and I found a long lost relative
there too. But yea she should deffinately
put her account private. I recently had an
ex contact me thru it so I had to put it
as private and everthings fine now.
