sick_mama17
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Age Gaps In Relationships
Posted: 11-19-07 15:14pm
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Some people think age doesnt matter,
others think its sick if its more than a
certain amount of years between you. So
what do you guys think about this? And
would you walk away if you yourself felt
something for someone much older/younger
than you, or go for it or what?
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Posted: 11-19-07 15:15pm
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I feel like age isn't an issue, but
maturity is. I know some 30 year olds who
act like they are 15, and some 15 year
olds who act like they are 30.
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Becky
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Posted: 11-19-07 15:19pm
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i am 23, my boyfriend is 37. i used to
think age gaps were a big deal. I never
went out with anyone more than 3 years
older than me.
Then i realised that age is just a doing
it number
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Posted: 11-19-07 15:21pm
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Doesn't really mean much to me. My sister
is 20 and her husband is 31
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Posted: 11-19-07 15:22pm
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To a point, I don't think age matters.
Now, if a 21 year old hooks up with a 90
year old, I think there is something wrong
with that.
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Posted: 11-19-07 15:22pm
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As long as they're both over 18, have at
it.
The biggest gap between me and a boyfriend
was 3 years... and my fiance is 6 months
older than me, almost exactly. But, I
wouldn't not date someone I liked just
because he's a lot older than I am.
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sick_mama17
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Posted: 11-19-07 15:25pm
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You arent going to grow old together
though if you're say 25 and hes 55. Doesnt
seem like you be together that long, but
say he lives to 75 thats 20 years together
which is long come to think about it.
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Posted: 11-19-07 15:28pm
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I have dated women much older than myself,
as much as 23 years older. In those
instances, I didn't know how old they were
at first because they didn't look their
age. They looked much, much younger.
Dating is fine, but marriage is another
thing. I was extremely wild over the woman
I dated that was 17 years older than
myself, but I also thought of the facts
like, when I would be 43, she would be 60
and such. It might be fine while you both
are fairly young, but as the years go by
and there is a lot of age difference, I am
sure the problems would ensue. A 43 year
old is going to be able to do much more
than a 60 year old. What about when one
gets into the geriatric age and the other
is still working? IMO, 10 years would be
the most for marriage.
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Re: Age Gaps In Relationships
Posted: 11-19-07 15:29pm
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| sick_mama17
wrote: | | Some people think age doesnt
matter, others think its sick if its more
than a certain amount of years between
you. So what do you guys think about this?
And would you walk away if you yourself
felt something for someone much
older/younger than you, or go for it or
what? |
I don't feel like age is a big issue. My
bf is almost 5 years older then me and
what matters is that we can mentally be on
the same page. I've dated a man as much as
10 years older then me, it diddnt work out
tho cuz I was to nieve and just couldnt
relate well with him. I don't think age
should matter younger or older so long as
you can connect and function together and
make a good team. Unless its a pedifile
type of relationship age difference then
someone needs to go to JAIL!
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Posted: 11-19-07 15:32pm
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if its a 15 yr old kid and a 35 yr old man
or something
then yeah
that freaks me out
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Posted: 11-19-07 15:41pm
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to me, age doesnt mean a thing. my mum is
12 years younger than my dad and they've
been together nearly 23 years now
but there comes a point when it is wrong
like a 15 year old going out with a 35
year old etc
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Posted: 11-19-07 15:55pm
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my husband is 7 years older than me.
edited to add....that I love him so much,
that I can't imagine my life without him.
So no, I don't think age really matters
that much.
The only time I think it might be iffy is
if the girl is like 15 and the guy is 30,
he might just want to have sex. Or yeah,
if the guy is like 90 and the girl is way
young, you know money has to be involved
or something like that.
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Posted: 11-19-07 16:08pm
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I certainly don't have a problem with age
gaps. My husband is 5 years younger than
me, but you wouldn't be able to tell it.
We have been together for 5 1/2 years and
from the time that I first met him, I
though he was older than me. He is way
more mature for his age and more mature
than me sometimes. When we hang out with
friends that are his age (his friends from
school) I tend to regress back to that age
and not act my age (ie. partying,
drinking, socializing). Sometimes that
can be bad, but for the most part, it
makes me feel young, so Im not hung up on
the fact that Im 5 years OLDER than
him....
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Posted: 11-19-07 16:57pm
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I'm 2 years younger than my husband. I
think that it doesn't matter to an extent.
LIke someone said before, a 20 year old
and a 90 year old is just weird and fishy
to me.
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Posted: 11-19-07 17:02pm
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Nick is five years older than me. My dad
was extremely upset when we started dating
because "he is a grown man and grown men
dating girls under eighteen only want one
thing". Wrong. So wrong. Nick and I are
pretty much the male/female versions of
each other. It's amazing the connection
and bond we have together.
In some instances, age differences just
weird me out. A now sophomore that I went
to school with is dating and having sex
with a 28 year old man, and I just find
that really odd, and kind of disturbing.
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Posted: 11-19-07 17:03pm
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Age does matter. People go
through phases at different points of
their life. My very best friend is married
to someone almost 15 years older than her,
and they're in marriage counseling now.
He's had time to go to school and
establish a career and now he's ready for
babies before he gets much older. She's
going through school now and wants to
establish a career and doesn't want to put
it on hold to be a mother. They're at
completely different points in their life.
Oh, also, he sometimes acts more like her
father than her husband.
I'm not saying this is what all
relationships would be like. Some people
can make it work. But saying age is just a
number is not true. Not true at all.
Aaron and I are two years apart.
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Posted: 11-19-07 17:13pm
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| AyaMiyaki
wrote: | Age does
matter. People go through phases at
different points of their life. My very
best friend is married to someone almost
15 years older than her, and they're in
marriage counseling now. He's had time to
go to school and establish a career and
now he's ready for babies before he gets
much older. She's going through school now
and wants to establish a career and
doesn't want to put it on hold to be a
mother. They're at completely different
points in their life. Oh, also, he
sometimes acts more like her father than
her husband.
I'm not saying this is what all
relationships would be like. Some people
can make it work. But saying age is just a
number is not true. Not true at all.
Aaron and I are two years
apart. |
I think it has more to do with maturation.
My friend dated a guy her age. She was
ready to settle down and he was just
interested in drugs and traveling.
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Posted: 11-19-07 17:15pm
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I am 35 and my hubby just turned 28
however we get along unbelievably well and
couldnt imagine a life without him 
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Posted: 11-19-07 17:17pm
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I think a lot of maturity comes with age
and experience. There are some people who
mature at a young age, but most need to
see life to really have a handle on it.
Even mature people look back on themselves
ten years before and shake their head.
Relationships work when both people are on
the same or similar ground in what they
want. Big age gaps usually bring unequal
ground with them*.
*Notice I said usually and not always.
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Posted: 11-19-07 17:50pm
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My boyfriend is a 21 months older than me.
I don't think I would date someone more
that a few years older than me.
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