Help! I Think I'm Gay And Straight. Posted: 09-09-03 12:26pm
When I have sex with boys, I don't feel it
but it I look at another girl I have
dreams of her touching me and stuff. I
never tried it and hope I never will but
is there anyway I can feel sex with my
partners. I usually fake it but they
never know.
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laura27
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I Don't Think You're Gay Posted: 09-09-03 12:46pm
How old are you? Just because you
fantasize about something, that doesn't
mean you want it. Everyone, and I mean
everyone has homosexual dreams. It
doesn't make you gay, it makes you human.
Haven't had an orgasm? That's okay. It
took me six years to have my first one.
My mother will be 56 in october, she still
hasn't had an orgasm. Do you want to test
it? Well, have you ever had a crush on
the same sex? That is have you had that
anxiety ridden feeling in the pit of your
stomach whenever you see that "special
someone?" if the answer is no, then you
are not gay. If the answer is "yes" then
you are gay. If it yes to both sexes,
then you are bisexual. By the way, it
sounds like you don't like sex very much.
If you don't like it you don't have to do
it.
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crissy
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Thank You Posted: 09-10-03 14:02pm
I want to thank you for that reply. By
the way i'm just seventeen. I'll take
your advice.
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msjunglekitty30
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This Might Help Posted: 09-18-03 00:15am
So have you ever tried the opposite sex?
It's not as gross at it may sound. I am
married and enjoy having sex with my
husband. I have always had fantasies of
being with other girls. Ever since I was
a child, but I sure wasn't about to tell
anyone. Thanks to all the gay and
lesbian uprising and finding other friends
who thought the same as me, helped me to
discover that I am bi. And it is
possible to like them both. Not saying
that that is you, just saying, it's your
body. Sex shouldn't be embarassing and
you should please yourself the way you
want. And further more. My best friend
dated guys, she is 22, for years and
suddenly found her interest was in women.
Now she is happily with her significant
other, a woman and in love and braggs
about the best sex ever all the time, i'm
getting jealous
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sarahauntie
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Joined: 08 Oct 2003 Posts: 54 Location: St. Louis, Mo
Help Me to Posted: 10-21-03 14:43pm
I'm a christian, and no offence to anyone
out there, but I beleive that
homosexuality is wrong. Latley, however,
i've been having dreams about girls and
stuff. You know what I mean. Maybe it's
the college atmosphere or something, but
it's like I don't even dream about guys
anymore. I've never had feelings for a
girl, but i'm scared that when I do get
close to guy this could be a problem.
Help!
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jwig69
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Joined: 10 Oct 2003 Posts: 8 Location: Michigan
Posted: 10-23-03 14:55pm
Lady's you are all very normal, it is part
of life and you should follow your urges,
I had the same problem and my friend of
many years wanted to experiment so we did
and it was great for us we are still
friends and I am glad I did because I
learned alot about myself that haveing
sex with a man could have never taught me.
:d so have fun with it life is to short
not to experiance everything you can. And
trust me it is not all that bad.
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sarahauntie
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Thanks Posted: 10-23-03 15:13pm
I don't know how crissy is doing, but that
put my mind at ease. If I ever do try it
i'll let you know
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Forum Girl
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Joined: 15 Oct 2003 Posts: 207 Location: Orlando, Florida
Posted: 10-23-03 17:35pm
Hi crissy (and everyone else) - I think
its awesome that you have the courage at
your age to go out and look for
information and advice about what you are
feeling and experiencing instead of
keeping it inside and being ashamed. I
am 25 and am bi. Up until I was 19 I
had only been with guys. Then I met a
wonderful girl and I totally fell in love
with her. It wasn't something I had
planned or expected but it happened and it
was wonderful. She and I stayed
together for four years. After our
relationship ended I was with another girl
I fell in love with for the next two
years. That relationship ended 4 months
ago and now I am seeing a guy. It took
me up until 2 months ago to admit to my
parents that I like girls as well as guys.
My parents are accepting - my mom isn't
pleased but doesn't treat me or the people
I am with any different. Some of my
friends know, some don't.
Even though I was happily in love with the
people I was with, I was still confused
and constantly beat myself up over whether
what I was doing was right or not. In
the last few months I have come to the
realization that I have to do what makes
me happy. No longer can I do things or
not do things just to make other people
happy. I have to do what I want to do
and what makes me happy. Ultimately the
only person we have to please is
ourselves. With that in mind, I then
came to the realization that I am not
going to choose between guys or girls.
Whomever comes my way, that can make me
happy, make me laugh, make me feel safe
and warm and most importantly can make me
feel loved and will let me do the same to
them is who I am going to spend my life
with. If that happens to be a girl,
then that is who I will be with. If it
happens to be a guy, then that's fine too.
Just find whatever makes you happy. Its
not always going to be easy no matter who
you are with. If you (or anyone else)
wants someone to talk to who has been
through it - feel free to pm me: good
luck - find your happiness
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Naicol
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I Undersatnd All of You Posted: 10-27-03 15:09pm
I was once married and "giving" person
towards guys. I grew up in a christian
environment and my family has always
taught me that is was a sin. I went on
vacation to dominican republic to meet
guys and get a latin lover, I found the
love of my life, my other half and it was
a girl. I was so confused, scared, happy,
sad, everything at once. I always wanted
to get butterflies but I never thought it
would be a girl. We have been through a
lot cause our culture accepts these things
a lot better than hers. We are dealing
with it together and if I have to i'll
move to italy to be with her in peace.
She made me see that it's not right and
wrong it's all about being happy in this
one chance that we are given.
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AndrewGloriousHealth
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Panicked About Being Gay Posted: 12-30-03 05:35am
Psychologists will tell you that the
response of being panicked about being gay
due to homosexual fantasies or homosexual
dreams is quite common.
If it didn't cause such terrible panic it
would also be quite funny.
Thinking rationally about it, if you're
completely panicked that you might be gay
after a homosexual fantasy or dream then
chances are that you're not gay. Or at
least that's the most common psychological
viewpoint.
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Freak69
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Joined: 17 Sep 2003 Posts: 5 Location: Sylva
I Understand Posted: 02-03-04 15:08pm
Hi you guys, well firstly I have a
question for anyone k. Why is being bi
such a big problem in a little county, but
it's not whenever your in a city? That's
my problem i'm in a little county and no
offense to red-necks, but my town is full
of them. They are the main ones that
make a big deal out of it and I didn't say
anything to them or anyone else about me.
Anyways, I read most of the reply and
chick listen it's seriously ok to think
about girls, and don't put up a fence
saying that you don't want to think like
that. But you never know maybe in the
future you might start to actually like
girls. That sounds ludacris but trust me
about this and girl just let go of
everything and don't really try to think
about it that much cause the more think
about it the more your gonna drive
yourself crazy. So i've gtg and to the
guy that is a christian. I'm one too,
but religion is built upon faith and I
believe that you should like whoever or
what ever you want. Plus, don't be
afraid to like another guy, we cannot help
who we are. Cause we are who we are and
there's nothing that we can do to change
that. And i'm not downing you either
about the religion thing, but I do
understand where you and everyone else is
coming from.
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Princess33100
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I Understand What Your Going Though Posted: 02-03-04 15:26pm
I'm happly married I have been with my
husband for 4 years now and we been
married for 1. I have always dreamed
about being with a girl to know how it
feels and to do something different. Well
about a 6 months ago I was with a girl and
it was get but i'm not gay. Just b/c you
dream about stuff are wonder about it
don't make you gay. You only live life
once and why not enjoy it if you don't
want to be with just a girl bring a guy in
there with ya'll have fun with it and
never second guess yourself .P.S. My
husband join me and the other girl and he
really loved that
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KariM18
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Joined: 13 Jan 2004 Posts: 1436 Location: Grand Blanc, Michigan
Posted: 02-03-04 15:31pm
I am 18 years old and im in a relationship
w/ a guy who I like a lot.. . But ive
tried things with girls in the past. It
was basically all in fun and was just
sexual attraction.. I never liked them
like I have feelings for a guy.. But hey
I see nothin wrong with it, experiences
with girls (friends of mine) were very
fun. Ive also had a threesome twice and
that was fun too (didnt have sex w/ the
guy tho, just other stuff)
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niceguy
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Joined: 20 Aug 2003 Posts: 150 Location: New York
Posted: 02-03-04 15:35pm
Im a guy as you can tell by my handle but
I dont have any tendencies toward
homosexuality. In fact, guys are a total
turn off to me. When I am in the
mens urinal, I make extra sure I dont even
accidentally glance at another dude
pissing....
I think though that homosexuality is
something that should not be looked down
upon. After all, it is god who has
created homosexuals too. How can we hate
someone that god created?
On a financial note, there is a company
called triangle multimedia ltd. (symbol
qbid) thats going to come out with a gay
cable channel.
Buy a million shares now and get rich
!!!
Take care all.
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teacherspet3569
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Good For You Posted: 10-25-04 13:05pm
I think you are very mature for your age.
To understand and ask such questions is
impressive. Most girls at your age are
experience a sexual confusion. It is so
normal. Girls are beautiful and it is
normal to think about them. We compare
ourselves to each other and is natural for
women to hug, kiss and touch each other so
it would be natural to dream of them.
For women, we get out sexual cues from one
another. This has nothing to do with sin
or what is right and wrong. It is just
how it is .
This is a confusing time in your life, so
be carefull how you handle you sexuality.
It is easy to get hurt and let people
take advantage of you. Your body is
precious and only you should decide how
and when to experience sex. Good luck.
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BaBiiKiiSsEzZxo
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Joined: 28 Nov 2004 Posts: 2 Location: Illinois
Posted: 11-28-04 14:52pm
I have the same problem that she does!
When I have sex with my boyfriend, it
really doesnt do much for me...But if im
doin ummm stuff to myself, I always
fantasize about girls! And its like
really confusing cuz thats never happened
to me before! I used to always think
about guys and everything but just
recently when I think about girls, the
orgasm always happens sooner and is
better...Does that mean im bi tho? Cuz I
really wouldnt ever think about dating a
girl or anything, maybe just fooling
around, and I love being around guys too
tho, and theyre the only ones I would ever
consider dating....Wow im really confuzed
now!
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Justin_Toronto
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Joined: 28 Jan 2005 Posts: 418 Location: Toronto, ON
Posted: 01-30-05 11:06am
I have to say that I am very impressed
with the responses in this thread. Some
really good advice given. Just to
reinforce what has been said already (and
for babiikissezzxo...)
there is nothing wrong with these thoughts
or dreams, they are perfectly normal.
The issue with your boyfriend not arousing
you though, that's mental...Not physical.
This does not mean you are bi-sexual...
However the fact that you're asking tells
me that you are bi-curious. The truth
is, you will never know 100% unless you
experience and find out.
Floridagirl's advice is right on the
money. "...I then came to the
realization that I am not going to choose
between guys or girls. Whomever comes my
way, that can make me happy, make me
laugh, make me feel safe and warm and most
importantly can make me feel loved and
will let me do the same to them is who I
am going to spend my life with. If that
happens to be a girl, then that is who I
will be with. If it happens to be a guy,
then that's fine too."
