I Want My Mom - not spoken to my mother in 3years Posted: 11-18-07 13:15pm
im a young girl and never had a good
relationship with my mom but always craved
one. i have a twin brother who had a
relationship with all my family and got
on great with every one really. since then
4years on i havent spoken to my mother in
3years and dont no what to do. i would
love a relationship but they say its
beecause of my partner which i no has
nothing to do with it as it was the same
for my sister when she moved out with her
partner they didnt speak to her in 1year
but now they over it. my mom i dont agree
with what she was doing at the time i
moved out and that was cheating on my step
dad she was cheating on him for over a
year and me being detective found out and
thats when all that came about so my
mother moved out i moved with my mom
thinking id get the great relationship i
wanted with my mom. I DID for about
3months then my brother and sister gave in
to the idea that my mom had found new love
and my sister kept visiting and my brother
moed in. tis was great because my mom
being my mom tried to show off to her new
partner and look like she actually did
care about us all and got on no argueing
nothing just nice and peaceful, but the
big problem was i was missing my little
brother who my mom had with my step dad
and she hasnt seen him now in 4years. so
when my sister kept coming round found out
she was pregnant and her partner at the
time kept texting me saying he wanted to
sleep with me and all the rest of it so i
said no and just confided in my moms new
partner and told him he told my sisters
partner he new and then my sisters partner
told my sister what he had done and
regretted it so then i got the blame which
isnt a supprise really because i should
have told her but i got the blame for
everything bearing in mind that while all
this was going on i was 16. so i
retailiated and started stopping out all
night with my mates going clubbing it was
fun but i still wasnt getting what i
wanted. MY MOM.
so id just left school got the interet and
was talkinng to my friend when she said
she had to go and meet some one i didnt
ask who it was i just went for a bit of
fun. 4years later here i am with that
person as my parner lol love happens at
the wierdest times but my mom and her new
partner didnt like him thats no supprise
though and i went out 1 night had to be
back by a certain time and wasnt so they
grounded me i was 17 and wasnt going to be
grounded so i had a call off my mom saying
if i wasnt going to be back then not to
come back and i didnt. i stayed the first
night and my friends then the next night
with my partner's mom been there ever
since and we moved got our own place but
i have no contact with any of my old
friends or my family except my dads mom.
im so lost and havent a clue what to do,
do you think its worth getting in touuch
or staying out of it i would like to no
your views sorry its so long.
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Maddie34
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Posted: 11-18-07 16:20pm
I'm sorry, I had a hard time following
this. How long has it been since you've
been out of your house and away from your
mom?
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Strawberry juice
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Joined: 17 Nov 2007 Posts: 8
Posted: 11-20-07 14:10pm
its been 3 and a half years since ive been
out of my house and away from my mom but
its never been a good relationship. what
was hard to follow about it?
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Fairy Godmother
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Hi Sweetie! Me Fairy*Godmother Posted: 04-04-08 19:07pm
Was a bit of a challenge to follow, but I
got it down. Let me tell you from my past
expereinces. I lost my father to cancer 2
years ago today. We had not spoken in 3
years, becasue of a new wife who basically
kept my father away from anyone (he was on
so many meds did n;t know his own sister).
longs story short....SOmetimes you have ot
bite hte bullet and be the first one to
call her. You should call her and talk to
her and tell her you miss her and would
like to see her. You are her daughter. I
have a daughter who will be 25 and our
relationship is getting better and better
because of this lesson I learned.. When
you do loose someone you love in death)
and you have been that person who called
first and tried to have a
relationship....in the end its a lots
easier because you can say at least I
tried. I was hte one who tried over and
over to have a relationship with my Dad.
But, that never happened. I did at least
try.....and I am at peace with that. If
you don't at least try, and your Mother is
too stubborn to call you, you will know in
oyur heart....YOU at least made an effort.
I do hope and pray she will welcome you
back into her life and try to have a good
relationship with you......If you werermy
daughter I certainly would! HUGS!
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MMAFighter
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Sep 2007 Posts: 373 Location: WA, USA
Posted: 04-04-08 19:38pm
It must hurt to not have a mother figure
around, I'm sorry
so id just left school got the interet and
was talkinng to my friend when she said
she had to go and meet some one i didnt
ask who it was i just went for a bit of
fun. 4years later here i am with that
person as my parner lol love happens at
the wierdest times but my mom and her new
partner didnt like him thats no supprise
though and i went out 1 night had to be
back by a certain time and wasnt so they
grounded me i was 17 and wasnt going to be
grounded so i had a call off my mom saying
if i wasnt going to be back then not to
come back and i didnt. i stayed the first
night and my friends then the next night
with my partner's mom been there ever
since and we moved got our own place but
i have no contact with any of my old
friends or my family except my dads mom.
im so lost and havent a clue what to do,
do you think its worth getting in touuch
or staying out of it i would like to no
your views sorry its so long.
