Teen Pregnancy Forum - Who Are Teen Mothers?

Teen moms, we know who we are. We are individuals,each with our own story and our own dreams. We are women who had babies in our teens. We know who we are.....But do you?? We hear people talk about us on the street, in the store. We read about "teen mothers" in the paper. We wonder, "who are they talking about?" this is what we hear and read:"babies having babies!", "i hope you're babysitting!", "your life is over now!", "how old was she when she had him/her?" "they think their babies are just dolls they can dress up and show off!", "they will be moms forever!" they dont know us. Do you? If you did, this is what you would learn...We are individuals, and our lives are not over. Many of us stay in our high schools, vocational schools and college, and we intend to finish. We are confident that we can reach our goals. We look upon parenting as a challenge, not an obstacle; we are committed to our children and dont take the job of parenting for granted. We seek information and help when we need it. Of course we like to show our babies off. (what parent doesnt?) we are rightfully proud of them, not ashamed, and we know they are not dolls. We love the individuals they are, and we are excited and pleased to see them grow and develop. We are excellent role models for our children because we are working hard to attain our goals.Our children are not doomed or deprived because we are young. They are happy and smart and loved and cared for very much. You'd see that if you really took the time to observe before you judged us because of our age. So please, dont talk about us as we pass. If you are so concerned, talk with us and listen. If you are a parent, you'll find that we share many of the same concerns, joys and challenges. And most of all, acknowledge and appreciate us for our commitment to the challenging job of parenting. We know who we are. We are mothers, just like you. We are building good lives for ourselves and our children. You can continue to view us as statistics, or as part of an epidemic social problem, or you can look beyond the stereotypes and know us for who we are...
We are young mothers, each of us with our own story and own dreams

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smith8500

replied on April 10th, 2004

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Hey

Ok, no one liked it Crying or Very sad

lol,
chanda

bellax0femmina

replied on April 10th, 2004

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I loved it! I am not a teen mom but I feel that everyone in the world should read that!! Theres nothing that I dotn agree with! People need to realize that age has nothing to do with how much we can love or care for somthing.. And being a teen mom doesnt mean your life it over, it just makes it a little harder to acheive goals.. Which in a way is good because it makes those goals more appreciated. Teens in a way are also better care givers for babies and/or kids because of all the energy we have =)..

So I dont know about everyone else but I love it! Im sure other peopel would like it too but they just havnt gotten the chance to read it! Laughing

<3
gaby

kitty_55

replied on April 11th, 2004

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I hate how people always talk about girls being too young to be moms but I think that 85% of all teen moms are good take care of there kids and love them. But there is that 25% who dont give a sh*t about there kids.

When im older my goal is not to go to collage cuz I know im not smart enough..Im gonna take a hair dressing course and when I grad 2005 or 2006 I want a kid after I grad so I will have a carrerr and have as job to support my child. If I do get preggy b4 I will still be able to do what I want to like the hair dressing prohgram. And if not I will wait till the kid is in school so I can go back to school..

JillMarie

replied on April 11th, 2004

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Thats great chanda! I cant believe you do this stuff for us when you dont have any kids! You are so caring!! Smile

I luv ya!!!

smith8500

replied on April 11th, 2004

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Hey

I have so many friends (here that live by me) who are teen mothers, and yes, they struggle, they fight to support their kids, but i've never see a mother love their child more than a teen mother. We have the trashy teens who have babies and are still whoring around and stuff, but i've also seen some 20, 30, 40, and 50 year old mothers who are whoring around too. Love is unconditional......Unconditional means no conditions. Not age, sex, race, religion, or creed! And I love my teen mothers! Even if i'm not one!
Love ya girls,
chanda

Mesmerizeu15

replied on April 12th, 2004

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Chanda- you are a great person, and it takes a lot to post something like that. You are just looking in from the outside, but for you to believe what was written it takes a lot. No many people realize what we are going through. But you do, you understand our struggles our heartships and our pain. God has been good to you!!

smith8500

replied on April 12th, 2004

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Hey

Thanks stacie. I don't write everything by myself though...I just want ya'll to know. Some I find on the net.
Love,
chanda

insurancegirl

replied on April 12th, 2004

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Mesmerizeu15

replied on April 12th, 2004

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I understand, that is why I said it takes alot to understand and believe what you read!

smith8500

replied on June 12th, 2004

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Hey

I am bringing this back up for those newbies to read since they've never read them.

Riversmommy

replied on June 12th, 2004

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I never saw it either!! That was when I wasnt living here! Thank u chanda! That means a lot b/c I was at the mall earlier w/ river and this older couple came up to me asked how old I was I told thme 17 and they were like I will pray for u...Im like I dont need ur f&%### prayers wat I need is u ppl to stop f%$&# judging me! Raven thaught it was funny! Lol!! Thank u chanda that really does mean a lot to me makes me stronger about myself!

smith8500

replied on June 12th, 2004

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Hey

Awe! Jeni, I am glad I made you happy! You are an awesome mother!

KissyBai912

replied on June 13th, 2004

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Sorry alison but I have to point out that 25% and 85% makes 110% lol....I think u meant 75 and 25? Or 85 and 15? Sorry I notice weird stuff....Leave me alone.....

LuckySeven

replied on September 11th, 2009

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well let me just say that I am now 30 years old. I was pregnant with my first son when I was 17/18. I spent my Jr year of highschool big and pregnant. I spent my Sr year of highschool a mom. I graduated with a 1 year old son in tow. Was it easy? No, but I did it. My life wasn't over! In fact, looking back and looking around at so many ppl now, I'm glad I had my son when I was young! I'm now 30 years old, and I have 5 children. I am done. When I am 40, I'll have my life back and be young enough to enjoy it still! I was young enough that I could relate with my kids. Fit enough to chase them around. Young enough to remember the B S that I tryed to use when they use it on me. And the weirdest one of all, I know most of my childrens teachers, becasue it wasn't that long ago that they were my teacher! It makes the teachers feel old, but hey, I remember the things they tought. The work they gave. And (sometimes unfortuanatly) they remember me, and therefore keep a closer eye on my kids because they remember the BS I pulled on them too.
There is nothing wrong with being a teen mother. I had the support of my parents. I had the support of my school which helped out by having all teen moms only go half days so they could take care of their babies. I had the help of my best friend who came to my house every morning to watch my son so I could go to school. I was one of the lucky ones who got married right after graduation. It's been 11 years we just celebrated. If you are going to pass judgement on someone for their decissions, you should walk a mile in their shoes too! I have some friends that I was "old" compared to having my first. I had 3 friends that had their first child at 13/14. They were and still are good moms. Some woman who are of an "acceptable" age when they have their first child are worse mother then their teen counter parts. Thats not saying they all are, but it is true of some situations.

LuckySeven

replied on September 11th, 2009

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LuckySeven

replied on September 11th, 2009

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