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Emma21
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Posted: 11-23-07 13:51pm
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I;m not talking about mentally unstable
young teens. I'm talking about teens in
general in repsonse to Futureshocks
comment.
I think a mentally unstable person should
not have custody of any child so adoption
or open adoption is my guess.
oh and by the way , You give them a choice
to either adopt or abort but that is not
the question whatsoever. The question was
should they be forced to abort. In other
words the only realy choice that is being
given is to adopt. To me when someone says
"force" it means to do soemthing they do
not believe or want.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 11-23-07 16:48pm
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I'm not talking about mentally unstable
teens either. Personally (I think) getting
pregnant on purpose at that young of an
age IS a mental disease, but that's beside
the point.
The way you worded your original comment
it read as: "They should not be forced to
give birth but be forced to give the child
up for adoption instead", thus implying
you are forcing them to give birth. That's
just how I read it.
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Birch
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Posted: 11-23-07 16:54pm
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| Emma21
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I think a mentally unstable person should
not have custody of any child so adoption
or open adoption is my guess.
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Could you please clarify what a "mentally
unstable person" means to you? Thanx!
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 11-23-07 20:02pm
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| Birch
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tr> The child is an
only child, and they have at least 5
bedrooms in their home 12 or more rooms
total (not including bathrooms, of which
they have I think 4) The mother asked the
worker if she was kidding or not. The
reply was , something like, "Oh these are
the standard questions, blah blah blah.."
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Your example is very interesting. I think
the sign of a good CPS worker is not
assuming that just because a family lives
in a big house a child cannot be
mistreated. Even rich people abuse their
kids.
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The point wasn't that rich people can't
abuse their kids. The point was that some
of these people who work at cps cannot
think for themselves, and have to ask a
family with 12 rooms and 3 people total
living there, if the child has a bedroom.
They ask that question because sometimes
they run into families all living in one
room, or some similarly horrid
accommodations. I think a fairly
reasonable person can figure out that was
not the case in this instance.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 11-23-07 20:15pm
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Rich people can't abuse their kids? Yes
they can.
I understand your second paragraph, but
not your first sentence.
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young Girl
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Posted: 11-23-07 20:21pm
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i dont think anyone ever deserves to be
forced to abort
just like no person should ever be forced
to keep a child they dont want
reguardless of your
age,relationship,mental
stability,financial stability,whatever you
have a choice. the choice should soley be
based on and FOR the life of the chid.
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Birch
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Posted: 11-23-07 20:23pm
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| futureshock
wrote: | | Birch
wrote: | | Quote: |
tr> The child is an
only child, and they have at least 5
bedrooms in their home 12 or more rooms
total (not including bathrooms, of which
they have I think 4) The mother asked the
worker if she was kidding or not. The
reply was , something like, "Oh these are
the standard questions, blah blah blah.."
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Your example is very interesting. I think
the sign of a good CPS worker is not
assuming that just because a family lives
in a big house a child cannot be
mistreated. Even rich people abuse their
kids.
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The point wasn't that rich people can't
abuse their kids. The point was that some
of these people who work at cps cannot
think for themselves, and have to ask a
family with 12 rooms and 3 people total
living there, if the child has a bedroom.
They ask that question because sometimes
they run into families all living in one
room, or some similarly horrid
accommodations. I think a fairly
reasonable person can figure out that was
not the case in this
instance. |
I'm not sure I was clear...just because
someone has a mansion doesn't mean that
the kid has their own room. I don't think
CPS workers should tailor their interview
questions just because someone appears
wealthy. Maybe the kid lives in the
garage. Who knows unless you ask?
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Jincks013
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Posted: 11-23-07 21:30pm
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| Emma21
wrote: | | I;m not talking about
mentally unstable young teens. I'm talking
about teens in general in repsonse to
Futureshocks
comment. |
soo.. every person with depression
deserves to have their children taken away
from them? Everyone with OCD deserves to
have their children taken from them? Every
person with anxiety? Everyone who has an
eating disorder?
Do some research before you make broad
based generalizations.
| Emma21
wrote: | | I think a mentally unstable
person should not have custody of any
child so adoption or open adoption is my
guess. |
Do you have any factual information to
back up your opinion?
| Emma21
wrote: | | oh and by the way , You give
them a choice to either adopt or abort but
that is not the question whatsoever. The
question was should they be forced to
abort. In other words the only realy
choice that is being given is to adopt. To
me when someone says "force" it means to
do soemthing they do not believe or
want. |
Isn't relinquishing the only option you
want? You seem to think you have the right
to force women to give up their wanted
children. You want a forced action; not an
option.
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gematria
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Posted: 11-24-07 11:47am
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This whole discussion is sort of like what
I was saying in my posts on the other
topic, the one about questioning your
pro-life beliefs.
Forcing anybody to do stuff without their
consent really terrifies me, because once
it starts, who's to say it can't happen to
me or anyone else?
I never questioned my pro-life beliefs
before I had that bad dream I wrote about
in that other thread. Then when I read
that Kypros guy say he was questioning his
pc beliefs, I was glad I wasn't the only
one "questioning".
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Mommy35
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Posted: 11-24-07 13:05pm
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I don't think anyone should be forced to
have an abortion either.
I think that a person who is deemed
"mentally unstable" they should have a
psychological evaluation to see if they
are capable of caring for a child. They
should be watched very closely to make
sure they are caring for the child. If
the person takes medications they would
need to be closely monitored to be sure
they are taking them as prescribed. There
are people out there that have
schizophrenia that have terrible
delusions/symptoms if they don't take
their meds, but they are very capable
people as long as they continue with
medication treatment. I don't really
think that a person should automatically
have their kids taken away just because of
some diagnosis. There are people out
there that may have been wrongly diagnosed
and it is pretty hard to get a diagnosis
changed once it's there.
I know some people that seem to have it
all together that are awful parents. I
know people that are not all there that
are the most loving and wonderful parents.
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Cambion
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Posted: 11-24-07 13:51pm
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...and I also know people who endured
severe neglect, emotional abuse and
physical abuse because they grew up with
mentally disturbed parents. Even these
people admit they wish their parents had
never had them. I'm not saying I would
advocate crazy women getting coat hangers
stabbed into them, but the people who are
completely incapable of being parents
should be weeded out at the very least.
But, on the other hand, if that happened,
these people wouldn't be raising more
insane people in their image and that
would mean less business for nut houses.
Soooo, perhaps there's a reason people who
are severely depressed or sociopathic are
not prevented from spawning - it would put
psycho-handlers and shrinks out on their
a**es.
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Birch
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Posted: 11-24-07 19:09pm
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I was raised by mentally disturbed &
abusive parents. I have never once wished
they had had aborted me, nor am I mentally
disturbed.
Forced abortion is a gross violation of
personal autonomy, regardless of their
mental state. Additionally, since
genetics are not the sole factors in
regards to mental illness, forced abortion
towards these individuals would not
systematically remove the mentally ill
from society, and put "psycho-handlers and
shrinks out on their a**es". Also, people
without a diagnosed mental illness see
"psycho-handlers and shrinks". And one
more 'additionally', mentally ill
individuals can and do positively
contribute to society.
See a list here of individuals dx'd
specifically w/ bipolar disorder:
http://en.w
ikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_people_believed_
to_have_been_affected_by_bipolar_disorder<
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Tylanas
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Posted: 11-24-07 19:42pm
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I don't think the forced abortion concept
was to reduce the population of "crazy"
people, though I can see how you'd
interpret it that way. I believe the OP's
original intent was the concept that
parents like that cannot care for a child
properly so abuse is avoided via
abortion.
**adding in that I am not stating my
opinion on whether or not mentally
unstable people can care for a child in
this post."**
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 11-24-07 21:10pm
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| Birch
wrote: | | Maybe the kid lives in the
garage. Who knows unless you
ask? |
rofl!!!! My parents made me live in the
garage one summer while I was home from
college. Actually it was my step-mom, not
my dad. Her daughter was getting divorced
and moved in along with her kids, so there
was very little room to begin with. Also,
I brought my two dogs home, and my step
monster um, I mean step mother hated
dogs.
It was kinda fun, actually, lol!
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Jincks013
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Posted: 11-26-07 23:05pm
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*Waits patiently for the requested facts*
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sillyakchick
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Posted: 11-27-07 21:10pm
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First off, I don't think the word "retard"
is very PC here, and i really REALLY get
offended when people use that term.
For the record, my own grandmother had
moderate cerebral palsy, but managed to
parent to children by herslef, despite
being physically disabled. Back then
people called her "retarded" too, until
they actually read things that she wrote.
We need to be careful that our own
inferences of "unstable" and the like are
accurate labels. It would have been a
shame for someone to take her children
away from her because they thought she was
mentally incapable of caring for them.
I am not mentally ustable but i freely
admit that for a period of time folowing
the birth of my second child i went
through a phase of being mentally
unstable. No one could have predicted
that I would go nuts, it just happened.
It lasted a long time, too.
There are plenty of mentally divergent
people out there who are capable of
effectively parenting a child.
Should people who fall into this category
be forced to abort? I don't think so.
First, it interferes with bodily autonomy.
Second, it punishes people for crimes
they have not even committed yet.
Anyone ever see that movie, "I am Sam?"
It was a great portrait of this very
topic. If you haven't seen it, I
reccommend it.
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 11-27-07 21:34pm
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I saw it. It was excellent. I was so mad
I was in tears half of the time. You're
right, this whole topic is nonsense.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 11-27-07 21:40pm
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I saw a Law and Order: Special Victims
Unit episode once that relates to this. A
mentally handicapped adult female and male
were in love and ended up becoming
pregnant. The girl's mother wanted to
force and abortion on the basis that her
daughter was mentally a child and could
never properly care for a baby.
The episode was heartbreaking because you
could see that the pregnant woman was
completely harmless and very in love with
the child inside of her, and so was her
boyfriend. I believe at the end of the
episode the pregnant woman was allowed to
make her own decision and her mom couldn't
force her to abort. There were
stipulations of course; they were going to
receive help in raising the baby from
care-workers, etc, but they were allowed
to keep their child.
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 11-27-07 22:20pm
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That is how it should be in real life,
too.
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 11-27-07 22:44pm
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I agree.
My mom has cerebral palsy too.
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