My husband sounds very much he might be Bi polar (his mother was)...He owns his own business, has been fairly successful. He has always been a hard worker until recently (past two years) everything has seemed to slide. I understand the stress of owning a business, but he is failing to manage things properly. We've had fun time and he does a lot for me (more than the normal husband, lavish gifts, trips, very romantic ...). But, then he will blow up over the smallest things or carry some issue for days, being mad.

He's been gambling for the last year or two...out of control. Bus. is failing, our marriage is failing, he just doesn't come home some days. I've tried counseling, he won't go. I threatened selling our home, divorce...nothing works. He comes home says we'll work it out and behaves for a month, only now it's only a week, then only 3 days, before there is major trouble.

It's like he just doesn't even think of me, just leaves work early goes to the bars with his "friend" then goes gambling or whatever and I don't get even a call. Two or three days later he calls, all apologizing, and says he's "just stupid, and he doesn't mean to hurt me" Doesn't he make a choice at the time? I don't get it!

He says he wants to make it better, doesn't want a divorce, loves me...but can I really believe that? It's all so confusing! He can be very verbally abusive as well when he is "mad" I love him very much, he can be the greatest, most giving romantic, fun, smart man I have known, but lately the bad out weighs the good.
HELP !!