My husband sounds very much he might be Bi
polar (his mother was)...He owns his own
business, has been fairly successful. He
has always been a hard worker until
recently (past two years) everything has
seemed to slide. I understand the stress
of owning a business, but he is failing to
manage things properly. We've had fun
time and he does a lot for me (more than
the normal husband, lavish gifts, trips,
very romantic ...). But, then he will blow
up over the smallest things or carry some
issue for days, being mad.
He's been gambling for the last year or
two...out of control. Bus. is failing, our
marriage is failing, he just doesn't come
home some days. I've tried counseling, he
won't go. I threatened selling our home,
divorce...nothing works. He comes home
says we'll work it out and behaves for a
month, only now it's only a week, then
only 3 days, before there is major
trouble.
It's like he just doesn't even think of
me, just leaves work early goes to the
bars with his "friend" then goes gambling
or whatever and I don't get even a call.
Two or three days later he calls, all
apologizing, and says he's "just stupid,
and he doesn't mean to hurt me" Doesn't he
make a choice at the time? I don't get
it!
He says he wants to make it better,
doesn't want a divorce, loves me...but can
I really believe that? It's all so
confusing! He can be very verbally abusive
as well when he is "mad" I love him very
much, he can be the greatest, most giving
romantic, fun, smart man I have known, but
lately the bad out weighs the good.
HELP !!
