I would think he is pshyco and would look for a divorce.

It depends on your relationship. Personally my relationship is monogamous and involving other people in our sex life is not an option - therefore I would be exceptionally concerned if he tried to organise somthing like that and I don't think we'd be together much after!

Have you discussed this kind of thing before and agreed to it or not?

well i would think this was something he desire and personally i probably would try it. i wouldnt knock it think about it but if your totally not comfortable about it dont do it because that something u can't take back. what work in someone else relationship doesn't work for everyone. when my husband first told me he wanted to have anal sex. the first thing came to my mind was "is this dude gay?" but then i gave in and found out i enjoy that more than regular sex. so take baby steps. have you tried anal? do you like it? maybe you can let him try having sex with you with a vibrater and his penis. I asked my husband to do that because he wont share me with no other man.

sorry i had to move this to realtionships forum because it was in womens chat

i'd be really freaked out, but i guess it really does depend on the relationship... wow but i'd be so weirded out by my husband... i think sex is something between the couple and shouldn't involve other people...

You really have to experience a threesome to be able to decide, it is very enjoyable but full of hidden traps jealousy etc. Also choosing compatable people is important, our first couple of times was o.k. but not great, then we took off, consider persevering. Must have extra strong relationship with wife or husband

I would think that he is thinking along the lines of acey ducey....He is looking for the new charge and not me...

Sorry didn't know what happened to my last reply. I think CarolineEF could be on to something, however a male male encounter was certainly not on my agenda. We swapped around to give each other a fair go, the oral sex was amazing my wife sharing her favours equally. I could go on. The point is, if there are any doubts in your mind, don't do it. Cheers.

I actually tried it once with my husband and a guy friend of ours we met at a New Years eve party back in 2002. My husband and I talked about a threesome before, but I was thinking more of a fmf. He asked if I'd try a mfm with him? I said if its something you really wanted then I would but I'm not sure if I'd go all the way, maybe just soft play? We'll we ended up going out with our good friend Chris one night for dinner. Chris was a good looking guy, tall and charming. After dinner we all went back to our house to hang out and play Jenga LOL. Well one drink led to the next and then some shots and then all of a sudden we're playing truth or dare. Chris won a dare and I had to pop in a porno into the VCR. I think between the shots and the porn, I started getting turned on LOL. Then the next thing I knew the three of us were talking about sex! During the porn there was a scene of a mfm. My husband laughed and said hey there's "me, you and Chris" LOL. Chris got up to go outside, when he did my husband asked if I'd have a threesome with Chris? I was shocked he asked but kinda glad cause I have to admit, I was getting a bit turned on. So I said yes, but how do we ask Chris, or do we? So I had an idea? I suggested we play the "dice game" its a game where you roll the dice and what ever it says the person of the opposet sex has to do to you. Its mainly a lot of four play, touching, rubbing, licking. So after I asked to play the game, Chris was in quite a shock! He looked at my husband and said is she serious? My husband said with a calm voice " dont worry about it, we're all adults here, besides it'll be fun, and what ever happens is between the three of us only" Chris smiled and said ok what exactly do we do now? I then suggested we all first get naked, and without any hesitation the three of us were sitting on our living room floor undressing lol. After we were all completly naked on the floor my husband dimmed the lights so that all that was on was the porn that was still playing and a little light comming from the kitchen area. I went ahead and rolled the dice first, I remember one dice landed on lick and the other landed on ?. That ment I could choose what area I wanted to lick. I chose my husband cause I didn't want to scare Chris by going over to him right away. I then leaned over towards my husband and licked both his nipples. Then it was his turn. He rolled lick ass! LOL. Without any hesitation he turned me over and licked my ass LOL. The whole time Chris was just watching us and it really turned me on? Now it was Chris' turn. I wondered
what and how he'd respond to the roll of the dice. Since my husband and he aren't gay I already knew what ever he rolled would be for me. Well I remember he rolled "lick lipps" The first thought I was thinking were my p•ssy lipps LOL. Well I think Chris was trying to be a gentleman and licked my lipps on my face instead LOL. Ok now it was my turn again. I rolled a "suck ?" LOL. By this time I was buzzing and feeling really naughty so I went right for my husbands c•ck and yes I sucked it nicely right in front of him and Chris, they both were in shock LOL. My husband was sitting on the floor with his back against the sofa, leggs spread apart. Chris was sitting in the same position next to him. I was bent over on my hands and knees facing my husband while giving him oral. All I remember is my husband grabbed my hand and put it on Chris' c•ck at the same time I was giving him oral. After about a minute or two while this was going on, I felt Chris get up and go behind me. I wasn't sure what he was going to do at first, then I felt his wet fingers start to rub my already wet p•ssy. It felt so good, at this point we were no longer playing the game anymore and were now having a threesome Soon after Chris had his tongue and whole face all in my p•ssy at the same time I was on my hands and knees giving my husband oral. After a while my husband told Chris "let's switch" It was the first time I was about to give another man head in front of my husband. I was a bit nervous. My husband looked at me and with a warm smile said "just go with it, let's have fun". So I did. Chris was very well endowed. I couldn't hardly get all of him in my mouth. I was getting so damn turned on by this. Between giving Chris head while my husband was sucking on my G-spot, all I wanted was for one of the to put them selves inside me already. My husband put himself in and fckd me doggie for a while, but what he really wanted was to see Chris fck me! So then he said "Chris, lets switch" So then Chris slipped on a condom and began to put himself inside me. My husband sat back on the sofa and watched while Chris and I fkd for about an hour. He said "it was like watching a truly sexy porn" lol. I have to admit this turned out to be one of the most memorable nights any of us ever had. I never thought I'd feel up for two guys at once? But I have to say that if you're so comfortable with the two guys and they treat you good by pampering you and are gentle and go at your pace then Yes try it! It's an amazing experience! Something I would try again if the moment were right. Michelle

bradf, I honestly think your husband could be gay or bi. You would have to be very open minded to allow something like that to happen. But if you do let it happen, then don't be surprised if your husband falls in love with the other guy.

Be careful what you wish for, that's my advice.Many times, I initiated the conversation about trying a 3some(MFM), my wife was reluctant, but I persisted-My interest wasnt purely selfish, I thought it would add spice to our sex life,I found out the hard way that I was more interested in the fantasy of it all, than actually the act itself. even though I initiated the whole thing, i counldnt control the jealousy and the shame,and the dread of thinking i dirtied my wife,cause of something I thought would be fun..(was trying to emulate what I saw in porn movies, but it doesnt work when you love your spouse,)we got over that, and our marrage was strong enough to overcome that,for that i'm grateful,but,bottom line,life should'nt imitate art, especially in this subject,g-luck