hi everyone. new here and thought i would offer my brief story, then ask a question.
happily married for 25 years, started mfm threesomes along time ago. have had 4 different guys in 25 years but some alot more than once. wife started out a little unsure. but soon was happily right in there. there came a point in time where she, not i, was choosing the guys. some of which were my best friends. those went well but we have parted ways since (my friends and i)but my wife and i remain happy, until recently? we had not done anything for a few years, and i brought it up to her again. she was very hesitant, and finally i found i was pushing the issue to hard and we began to argue over it. she stated she was not that type of person any longer and did not want to do it anymore. why i am confused is, she has enjoyed it so many times, we always talked in great detail before and after each event, why would that make her (a different person?) and she says she feels ashamed now of what she has done? we came together more closely than we have ever been during these times. shared feelings that we would have never thought of sharing before. maybe if another woman who has done this before could respond and help me understand? anyone who has help is appreciated!
I just wanted to say that my husband and I have been married for 19 years and we just did this two days ago and it was absolutely the most erotic thing we have ever done. My husband has wanted to see me with another guy for years, his big fantasy, I wasn't really that into the idea but over time I began to really warm up to it. There was NEVER any pressure on his part, we answered some ads, found a really hot guy, nice, normal guy. I picked out who I wanted to MFM with and he was really nice. We chatted for a while then met up, there was no hesitancy on any of our parts and we enjoyed it immensly. Planning on doing it again very soon. Do I think this will ruin our marriage, no way, I love my husband, this is just hot sex, NSA there are no emotions attached to the experience other than the erotic ones. My husband and I are happy, successful and we know who we are. No this kind of sex is not for everybody, but it was both mine and my husbands hottest fantasy, we acted on it and we have the memories of how wonderful it was. It really depends on the people involved, I would never make any moral judgements about anyone wanting to experiment with sex and their sexuality, there are no labels and no judgements, just a hot time. It is what it is, that's why it's called NSA.
Sex is nt the basis of reltionship it is essence of it
My experience is that, one must go for such thing may be after reasonable period of married life, may be at middle age. It strengthens your relationship. YOur wife will love you more because you doing the best for her. You should carefully recognize about her desires, fantasies, and ask straigth forward and give her full security feeling. Do it in the dark, send the third person immediately after the three some is over. Initially you can wear eye masks, so that you feel your identity is secured, may be after some time you may free up. Mostly use strangers, I made my wife to have sex with Europian, Affrican and Indians from Different ethnic background. Normally we start play only both of us involved, we intimate the thrid person to enter upon call, he will come. If we are doing it in some guest appartments, we bring the man beffore and ask him to be naked. We start and we follow the rytham, he will come and start his actions, normally he start licking while i kiising her. We rotate, normally i allow the guest enter first, he will start, tehn when she is turning to peak, i enter. Because my wife wants final hug during the climax should be mine, When i riding her, he will be kneeding breasts, kissing her, touching her p..etc.. every time i educated the guy and brought him. He goes immediately after the things are over. It is beyond life. Even our performnace will increase. Dont do it in your home, please choose out side locations. You be first to foreplay, third will join late. Try to make in the dark. You know my wife and me are in heaven. Understandably, our performance in the professional life has increased considerably. We both are secured, we cant cheat each other because whatever kind of sex we need it is there for us. We dont feel like venturing out side without each other knowel;edge. If things are availble pleanty you dont need to cheat. If restrictions are there you feel like cheating. So, please guys open up, focus it is fun, Sex is not the basis of the realtion it is essense of the relation. Relations will be strong thru sacrifice
Married friends want me to join them to a swingers clb, repercu
Would like to hear some advice. I am 43 and married to a great woman that has a lot of issues when it comes to having sex. Bottom line she has issues with moving from a traditional "do it quick" standard type of sex, and I believe she has a little "obsessiveness" with fluids. Anyhow, I love sex, I am very curious so I have had to learn to find a way to deal with this. I have asked her to go with me to a couples counselor but she refused the idea and even once got upset. So every year I hire a high end escort once or twice. I am responsible so I don't do unprotected sex and I keep my health in check. One of my very best friends (and confidant) is married to a beautiful woman and they do some "soft swinging" with his wife. They want me to join them to go to a Swingers club, and he even sends pictures of his wife to me in an intimate situation to try to convince me. He says his wife is aware of the pictures. As you can see I am not a "prude". But I am concerned about the psychological stress this may have on us around my wife. Thank you for your comments in advance.
Rule 1. Never ever ever do anything like this with friends you have known beforehand as conventional friends. It is great making new friends who share your interests, but the relationship you have with them will always be different.
Rule 2. Never ever do something like this behind the back of your partner. If you feel you have to, then your relationship is not strong enough, and may end, so be aware of the risk you are taking.
Rule 3. from our experience, swinging (or experimenting if you prefer) works when and only when both people in a relationship have a strong enough love between them to understand that fulfilling a naughty desire is just that. If you really love your partner, you have certainty in that love, if you dont have certainty, don't complicate your life by risking your relationship.
Believe it or not, if you both have that certainty, then involving others can actually strengthen your relationship, for then there are no secrets. But, if either of you don't want to do something, then no is no, never ever think it can be changed by persuasion, love just does not do that.
By the way, this is written from experience and from within a loving relationship, founded on certainty. If you aren't in that space, then don't judge those of us that are.
In my case my wife who I have been happily married to for 31 years mentioned to me a couple of years ago that the thought of two men and a woman together made her hot. I'll be honest and say that I really didn't think too much of it at the time and rather dismissed it. Then about a year ago while during sex play I was rubbing her clitoris, she was quite wet and hard so I said "two boners", referring to my erect penis and her clitoris, to which she said that she would like "two boners". Well it was then that the light went on in my head!
I later approached her on the topic of 2 men in her bed. I told her that I was ok with the idea but wanted to understand more of what she had in mind. Perhaps I should have waited until she was arroused as my wife who can be timid about discussing sex said that didn't remember saying anything even though I reminded her of what exactly she said.
I then decided to leave it alone and play "wait and see" as our sex together is generally really good and I really get off (I mean REALLY get off) on watching her have orgasims. I have told here this many times.
Then a couple of months ago during foreplay with her vibrator she aked me to insert my (erect) penis into her p*ssy along with the vibrator, to which I happily obliged and we had a great orgasim together. I have really warmed up to the idea as the thought of two men gently bringing my wife to mind blowing orgasisms drives be absolutely crazy. We have continued with the MFM theme a lot lately in our sex play however we have not openly discussed it either during sex or after. Instead, during our fantasy sex play as things are really heating up I say things like "put both of us in your p*ssy", or "two c*cks", or "two men in your bed" etc. One time during her orgasim she blurted out "double f*ck" so I know she is really into the idea of mfm. Also, and more importantly her orgasims lately have been simply mind blowing while we have been playing fantasy MFM with her vibrator and me. The very last time her orgasim was so intense with the both of us inside her that she screamed and moaned for a VERY long time...it just blew my mind totally as I said previously that I get off watching my wife have orgasims. I believe I enjoyed her orgasim more than mine when I came several seconds later.
So my point to all this is that we appear to be taking it slow even though I know my wife is into it. It's like she would rather demonstrate it in bed rather than talk about it. However, I would really like to understand more or what's inside her head and what she is thinking and feeling when there are two inside her and so am asking if anyone can provide some ideas of next steps and how I should approach her to open up a little?
After persistence from my husband I agreed to a MMF 3some. Was with a guy from place I used to work. The 'date' itself was great - all had fun. But I can't help feeling I'm being treated like an object now. Both of them want to do it again and because we had fun can't understand why I don't want to. I'm worried that my husband is pushing me into it (I hadn't slept with anyone before him) to then be able use it as an excuse to finish our marriage. I'll be the slut, the home wrecker. He can't understand that scares me more than the sex. Now i'm just not interested in being with him or anyone ... lose if I do / lose if I don't. Wish he'd never come up with the idea, wish I hadn't let him bully me into it. I have no respect for him now, and can't see a way to rectify things. Feel like it's just a timebomb waiting to explode. Hate myself for not being stronger ... but if I had marriage would have been over any way. 20 years of marriage - and it feels like its been just a sham. Gutted.
My wife and I been doing 3somes and moresomes for the past 12 years. We been together for the past 20 years and this is NOT a mandatory thing we must have. It is more to add excitement to the bedroom. We have lots of rules and safe words we use throughout. We do not just pick up a guy and have sex with him. It is more get to know and then play. We ran into many couples that want to do it and we never really say we do it but always want to be free!! Don't knock it till you try it! Also we done MFF, MFMF and MMF.
Recently, me and my girlfriend had a threesome with my best mate, and now our sex life is amazing. Don't get me wrong the sex before was absolutely fantastic but since the threesome it has been tremendous. I would say try it but only if you have a steady and strong relationship with your girlfriend/wife and your best friend, otherwise I wouldn't try it. But it was one amazing experience and we both want to try it with another man and also another women.
WELL !!!..I have read the zillion post here from the men who "dearly" love their wife ?? GEE !!! they love her so much they are pleased when another man has his penis in her...isn't loving your female a wonderful thing...