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has anyone every given there wife a threesome with another male, was it a mistake to your relationship or was it better. did she enjoy it if she was apprehensive at first?
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replied November 30th, 2007
Hi brad,
This is a big fantasy for me I want my wife to bang another guy with me but Im stillwaiting for her to do it"
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replied February 28th, 2014
hi, i many time discuss this fantasy during sex to my wife who is so shy, she always said,no and said i just enjoy only with you. but after few weeks i notice when ever i discussed such a fantasies during sex she was quickly discharged, i usually discussed one of my closed married friends to try it, because he was too liked this idea and his wife was always fantasy this sex with me.agreed for trying there fantasy with us.
once in a hot sex situation my wife got ready to visit there house.
my wife was smiling because i was so scared. friends wife was so happy for a new experiment in her life.
any way we came back such we had a little un harmful touches.
I could not liked my wife should be used by my friend, i like just waling with them my wife with friend and his with mw. as they were ready for a change, my friends and his wife are still asking about that i can not, though i love that idea. and we just enjoyed this fantasy during intercourse, which is amazing excited.
We just like to e with each others wives when we go for outing, his wife pretend as she is my wife, and my wife pretends she is my friends wife, we enjoy it and un harmful little touch,
I feel many people fantasies such a things, but no way i can do it, just fantasies yet.
any way we can decide tobe just exchange wife when we go out togather just chit chat a little touch they are agreed. any opinion?
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replied November 30th, 2007
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I have know many swingers in my life.. and none of them are together now.. Think about what doors you are opening before you open them!
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replied March 12th, 2012
hi guys
im a 40 yr old married man and me and my wife we tried a threesome it wasnt the full package but was very nice and excited for both of us. than some other time we tried something else and was perfect but we didnt rush so i think if you do the rite things and no rush it will be nice.
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replied December 7th, 2007
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I Think This Is Not Healthy.
You should check really your feeling for your wife and you love for her and your family if you have children. Swinger is alway a very dirty business if you ask me. I only met one couple doing this and she was fired several times from different jobs, and he end up with a deep depression, I agreed you may open primitive doors in the human being sexuallity and we are not going to talk about the religious, physical and health concequenses this may create. Stay away for that.
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replied December 7th, 2007
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I know a couple of people who have done it. They are committed couples who do it to strengthen their sexual relationship. They are safe. So far, they're still going strong.

Though I'm not a threesome type of guy (the person I"m with is more than good enough for me) I say whatever floats your boat. Just make sure it's something that you both really really want.
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replied March 6th, 2008
I can't believe any guy would willingly share their spouse, or even gf with another man....
I have no experience in that, but I have had a ffm, and personally I think anybody that you want to be in a long term relationship with, you should not do anything like that, it's not worth it.
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replied September 30th, 2013
So it was OK for you to have a FMF but anyone who would give their wife or girlfriend a MFM is nuts? Can you say selfish.
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replied March 8th, 2008
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A MMF threesome would only seem possible if there was little or no emotional attachment. I wouldn't be able to share my GF or wife like that, I'm too monogamous when there's more to it than just sex.
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replied June 6th, 2008
My advice to anyone fantasizing about the whole threesome thing is to be careful what you wish for. The morning after is really not cool for any of the parties involved. My best friend and I haven't spoken for 15 years over this. We're not pissed at each other or anything really overtly hostile like that, but it's just this gulf between us. Nothing's the same after that. We just kind of mutually decided not to deal with the weirdness by drifting apart, and staying away from each other's lives.

Not recommended at all.
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replied February 21st, 2009
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My wife and I have done this three times with two different guys we met through adult friend finder. It was very erotic and I tell you my wife and I have a strong relationship. You really have to be commited to each other and trust your spouse. The first guys was very well endowed (Porn Star Like) and the other guys was just a bit longer than me but just about average. The really enjoys the sex but insists she does not need this in her life or for our marriage. She has expressed she only does it for me but will enjoy it to the fullest for that time shot in time. She has recently told me she does not want to do this again. I'm the persistent one. More to come.

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replied February 21st, 2009
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Re: MFM Threesome for you Wife
Cpl88 wrote:
My wife and I have done this three times with two different guys we met through adult friend finder. It was very erotic and I tell you my wife and I have a strong relationship. You really have to be commited to each other and trust your spouse. The first guys was very well endowed (Porn Star Like) and the other guys was just a bit longer than me but just about average. The really enjoys the sex but insists she does not need this in her life or for our marriage. She has expressed she only does it for me but will enjoy it to the fullest for that time shot in time. She has recently told me she does not want to do this again. I'm the persistent one. More to come.

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If she does not want to do it again but you are being persistant, you need to lay off. Respect her a bit. She was willing to experiment and now its no fun for her anymore. Accept that. It is great that she was willing and great that you two are still going strong but if you keep pushing the MMF on her, it will drive her away from you. I know this is the men's chat forum, but I thought I would give you a bit of perspective regarding the female mind. When we say no after we have already sacrificed, accept it. Because we mean it.
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replied February 22nd, 2009
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Thank you for your time and your perspective on this. I guess I was misunderstood by stating I'm persistant. That is not the case, I respect my wife which happens to be the mother of my children. I'm currently on buisness travel and last night her and I had video conf sex of the net. She watched a video from the site please bang my wife to give her the visual stimulus and I did as well. We are now leaving this as a fantasy only and keeping those three experiences in our mind which still enhances our sex life. She has a agreed to tell me if she ever desires to do this again sometime in the far future.
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replied February 28th, 2009
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Watching my wife servicing a large tool is a huge fantasy of ours, however, it is a fantasy and thats where it is best lived out. Anticipating something we desire is usually better than the reality. That goes for many things in life. In our fantasies we are in absolute total control of the situation. I bought my wife a truly life-like dildo that ejaculates on demand. What a turn on. We have a rich fantasy life and it has brought both of us untold hours of decadent pleasures. Try it,..you might like it!
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replied April 22nd, 2009
hi
personally i think how much respect doe she have for you the question is why does she want another male you should be enough ? i am right when your happy like i am in a relaptionsi[ these things dont really enter my mind... when she got married ask her did she mean her vows they are for life you giv yourselfs to eachother she didntgive her self to you and the milkman lol
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replied June 27th, 2009
Brand new here. Never done a mfm but is a rich fantasy of mine. To keep as fantasy only. Thinking of ideas of how to simulate one with toys, etc. when making love to my wife.
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replied February 28th, 2014
Nice idea true rich fantasy hard to try ever.
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replied June 27th, 2009
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If all these swingers had a strong relationship in the first place, there would be no need for a threesome. Sex with someone you love is a private intimate thing between TWO people. Funny how it's called "cheating' when one party doesn't know about the other doing it, but for swingers it's not? Go figure.
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replied September 30th, 2013
It's not cheating if the other person is there joining in, watching, or knows about it. To each their own.
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replied June 27th, 2009
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I agree with raven53...This is the height of boredom with your partner...Give it any name you want, but in my eyes it is one of the saddest things ever invented...Kind of proves that some of us never came out of that cave...
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replied July 7th, 2009
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I've had two threesomes when I was younger. One was fabulous and didn't impact our relationship, one was catastrophic and terminated our relationship within 48 hours. I had no idea how things were going to play out, neither will you. A threesome in a relationship is just like screwing someone in the workplace. It's dangerous, self-destructive, and a sign that something is very wrong with the arrangement. I would never advise either to someone unless you know you're about to quit or be fired.

My personal advice aside, keep this in mind. This isn't like tying up your lover or spanking or playing dress-up. This is not a change to your dynamic in bed, it is a change in the dynamic of your relationship. This spicy little change-up is a living being with their own needs and hang-ups and also vulnerabilities. You could be as destructive to the third in your threesome as you can to your marriage.

If you reach a point where you are determined to try this you need to do the following:
1. Lay the ground rules out as clearly as the English language allows with your spouse, write them down. Establish your comfort zones, who gets to touch who where and establish that the rules will be re-addressed each time threesome occurs, even if it's just to say you're both still good with the rules.
2. Agree that nothing is going to happen until all three parties are completely comfortable with the act and that nobody will be permitted to be criticized for deciding to stop before or during the party.
3. Make plans with your spouse for the end of your marriage. It's not morbid it's just responsible given how likely this is to kill the relationship. If you're mature enough to bring a third person into your bed you're mature enough to discuss a very possible outcome.
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replied July 10th, 2009
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well, why would she want a threesome... if ur not satisfying her enough then go online and find better techniques, or take extenze or whatever. but if ur going to have a threesome with another guy... ask her if u can also have another with another girl. if she wont let u then why should u do what she wont
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replied August 23rd, 2009
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one of the problems with getting advice from the general public is the sheer amount of misinformation from lack of knowledge or deliberate generation of misleading information. every KNOWS how nonconforming sex always ends in ruined relationships. yeah, right. if you have a good solid fully committed marriage and the both of can handle extramarital sex, then the chances are that your marriage will survive and your sex life improve. but, there is no guarantee. However, there are studies that show people with unconventional marriages (swingers, open marriage, cuckold, etc) have one of the lowest divorce rates (around 15%). as a comparison, fundamentalist christians have a divorce rate around 40 percent. it is up to you. do a little research. don't expect truthful research from christian sites.. they are only interested in bolstering their positions, not truth. if you feel you can handle what you are interested in doing, then enjoy. the onus of doing this is on the husband. most women can easily handle extramarital sex. it's the husbands that fall apart and become jealous. remember, sex is for grownups, not insecure adult sized children no matter what their age is.
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replied September 26th, 2009
Hi Brad! My husband and I actually tried a mfm threesome twice. I have to admit I did it more for him at first but as we started doing it, I got more into it then him LOL. I Love my husband to death and would do or try anything once with him or for him. It was just really fun good hard sex! That's all. Would I do it again? Only if the moment was right and with the right guy along with my husband. Having two men at the same time was a bit scary since I am a petite girl and my husband is a well endowed man to begin with and on top of that the guy he chose to have the threesome with us was even bigger than him! It was an experience I will never forget! They were both very patient and respectful. They treated me right. They pampered me LOL. Lots of massaging and oil rubs. It did get a little ruff n nasty after, but at my pace. The experience only made our marriage stronger and more fun!! So I say to all the women who's husbands desire this. Yes be carful, pick the right person to join you guys, even start out slow by having sex in front of someone or others. Thats kinda how we started, we went to a swingers party and let others watch wich was a real big turn on, I mean it was a dark atmosphere so everyone looked good. I would say try that first a few times then when you're both ready, invite someone in slowly. And if you do try it, you will LOVE it Wink take care Brad! Love, Michelle
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replied June 7th, 2011
Hi Michelle
I agree with your comments, My wife and I did threesomes because of my fantasies, It worked well and we all enjoyed the feeling of having such hot times in bed, the man we chose was huge in comparison to me and we have had several threesomes because of the first.

The sense of sharing my wife and being able to please her by giving her something I could never give in any other way, was for me a wonderful gift, it has helped our 25 years strong love grow even stronger.

I wrote a book about the wonderfully horny times we shared called the threeway collector (not published yet)
and we often joke about some of the guys she tried, we haven't done it for a while but that is because we are trying to be picky instead of just anyone.
Cheers from Downunder..
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replied June 23rd, 2011
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please help give me a little more knowledge about this mfm my husband and i are married 5 years and have 3 children my husband wants me to engage with him and his very best friend, i have had a threesome mfm many years ago, i think my husband is doing this because i am more experience and more miles than he do you think that this is leading for disaster??? he is well endowed and very attractive and more than i can handle at times but he says its his fantasy to "pamper"me he wont let the subject go please help should i just say what the hell and do it? am i then considered a "Swinger" not that its a bad thing but i totally beleive in mohagamy? am i breaking my vows if im doing it to please my husband it sounds good and oh so sexy but thats when we are role playing i know from experience it will be different before during and after the experience but he doesnt ?
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replied May 7th, 2012
proceed with caution!
I have tried this from both sides. With my wife we were careful to find someone outside our circle who we would not likely see "on the street". This is for the possibility that we would not want to repeat the experience or turned out not to like the guy. We took a lot of time finding a guy--we wanted a guy physically attractive, hot, and of a personality and character like people who are friends. The get together was slightly programmed in that it we wanted it to start out with me and my wife sexing it up and then the other guy joining in and swithcing off. This was to make sure I would not be left out from the start which can happen when a woman is immediately aroused by the attentions of a new, strange, hot guy. The experience was great and reppears in our lovemaking fantasies frequently. The next decision is whether to repeat with this great guy or find a new guy--we want to be sure the love attraction remains between us only. Our current thought is to have three guys we can call on so one does not become a threat.
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replied June 29th, 2011
Hey KKT
it is one of those things that you know can either be harmful to your relationship or quite the reverse, If you have a very strong relationship you can find it build a greater love from pleasing your partners, My advice to you would be to go with the flow, if it is spontaneous and hot do it, if planned and not a good thought for any of you, you will be putting yourself in a situation that can turn sour.
It didn't work with my best friend but it worked with strangers, who figures.. hope it helps
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replied June 25th, 2011
Hi Michelle, This has actually been a bit of a fantasy for me for years, and it nearly happened once, but I had a little too much to drink. My husband and I talk about it during sex quite a lot and he even mostly brings it up. He is turned on by watching someone else with me.
I guess what I am saying or asking is how do you go about such a thing and is it worth it. How would you pick a guy? The most important thing for me is my relationship with my husband and I don't want him to feel unloved afterwards or for it to affect our relationship badly. He has suggested guys to me, but should it be someone he knows?
I guess, I really want to do it but want to make sure he will be ok with me afterwards. That's the most important thing to me.
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replied June 29th, 2011
In my opinion, if he wants you to do it, and even picks them out your in for a very very hot time, don't get to drunk but have enough to make your nigh awesome.
If you are serious about you both wanting a MFM, he will love you even more for taking the opportunity to please both the men, and you should enjoy the pleasure of the attention that two or men can bring you.
I wish you good luck and hope to see a good report back on this site..
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replied February 15th, 2012
It really depends of the Couple! are you happy with each other? do either one of you get jealous? My wife and I were married 20 years before I admittedly convinced my wife to help with MY Fantasy. We "set up" our first mfm event. We found the wife totally enjoyed being pampered and centre of attention Smile For the next 4 years we went to swingers parties , and had more mfm and in fact even had 1 to 1 with the opposite sex on our own. Meeting mostly at Hotels or their homes. Never our own. After 4 yrs we decided we hadd done all we had wanted. So , now we agree that if either of us want to do similar again? then we would.
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replied March 12th, 2012
i agree with you 100% michelle
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