Hi brad,
This is a big fantasy for me I want my wife to bang another guy with me but Im stillwaiting for her to do it"

I have know many swingers in my life.. and none of them are together now.. Think about what doors you are opening before you open them!

You should check really your feeling for your wife and you love for her and your family if you have children. Swinger is alway a very dirty business if you ask me. I only met one couple doing this and she was fired several times from different jobs, and he end up with a deep depression, I agreed you may open primitive doors in the human being sexuallity and we are not going to talk about the religious, physical and health concequenses this may create. Stay away for that.

I know a couple of people who have done it. They are committed couples who do it to strengthen their sexual relationship. They are safe. So far, they're still going strong.

Though I'm not a threesome type of guy (the person I"m with is more than good enough for me) I say whatever floats your boat. Just make sure it's something that you both really really want.

I can't believe any guy would willingly share their spouse, or even gf with another man....
I have no experience in that, but I have had a ffm, and personally I think anybody that you want to be in a long term relationship with, you should not do anything like that, it's not worth it.

A MMF threesome would only seem possible if there was little or no emotional attachment. I wouldn't be able to share my GF or wife like that, I'm too monogamous when there's more to it than just sex.

My advice to anyone fantasizing about the whole threesome thing is to be careful what you wish for. The morning after is really not cool for any of the parties involved. My best friend and I haven't spoken for 15 years over this. We're not pissed at each other or anything really overtly hostile like that, but it's just this gulf between us. Nothing's the same after that. We just kind of mutually decided not to deal with the weirdness by drifting apart, and staying away from each other's lives.

Not recommended at all.

My wife and I have done this three times with two different guys we met through adult friend finder. It was very erotic and I tell you my wife and I have a strong relationship. You really have to be commited to each other and trust your spouse. The first guys was very well endowed (Porn Star Like) and the other guys was just a bit longer than me but just about average. The really enjoys the sex but insists she does not need this in her life or for our marriage. She has expressed she only does it for me but will enjoy it to the fullest for that time shot in time. She has recently told me she does not want to do this again. I'm the persistent one. More to come.

Hope this helps.

If she does not want to do it again but you are being persistant, you need to lay off. Respect her a bit. She was willing to experiment and now its no fun for her anymore. Accept that. It is great that she was willing and great that you two are still going strong but if you keep pushing the MMF on her, it will drive her away from you. I know this is the men's chat forum, but I thought I would give you a bit of perspective regarding the female mind. When we say no after we have already sacrificed, accept it. Because we mean it.

Thank you for your time and your perspective on this. I guess I was misunderstood by stating I'm persistant. That is not the case, I respect my wife which happens to be the mother of my children. I'm currently on buisness travel and last night her and I had video conf sex of the net. She watched a video from the site please bang my wife to give her the visual stimulus and I did as well. We are now leaving this as a fantasy only and keeping those three experiences in our mind which still enhances our sex life. She has a agreed to tell me if she ever desires to do this again sometime in the far future.

Watching my wife servicing a large tool is a huge fantasy of ours, however, it is a fantasy and thats where it is best lived out. Anticipating something we desire is usually better than the reality. That goes for many things in life. In our fantasies we are in absolute total control of the situation. I bought my wife a truly life-like dildo that ejaculates on demand. What a turn on. We have a rich fantasy life and it has brought both of us untold hours of decadent pleasures. Try it,..you might like it!

personally i think how much respect doe she have for you the question is why does she want another male you should be enough ? i am right when your happy like i am in a relaptionsi[ these things dont really enter my mind... when she got married ask her did she mean her vows they are for life you giv yourselfs to eachother she didntgive her self to you and the milkman lol

Brand new here. Never done a mfm but is a rich fantasy of mine. To keep as fantasy only. Thinking of ideas of how to simulate one with toys, etc. when making love to my wife.

If all these swingers had a strong relationship in the first place, there would be no need for a threesome. Sex with someone you love is a private intimate thing between TWO people. Funny how it's called "cheating' when one party doesn't know about the other doing it, but for swingers it's not? Go figure.

I agree with raven53...This is the height of boredom with your partner...Give it any name you want, but in my eyes it is one of the saddest things ever invented...Kind of proves that some of us never came out of that cave...

I've had two threesomes when I was younger. One was fabulous and didn't impact our relationship, one was catastrophic and terminated our relationship within 48 hours. I had no idea how things were going to play out, neither will you. A threesome in a relationship is just like screwing someone in the workplace. It's dangerous, self-destructive, and a sign that something is very wrong with the arrangement. I would never advise either to someone unless you know you're about to quit or be fired.

My personal advice aside, keep this in mind. This isn't like tying up your lover or spanking or playing dress-up. This is not a change to your dynamic in bed, it is a change in the dynamic of your relationship. This spicy little change-up is a living being with their own needs and hang-ups and also vulnerabilities. You could be as destructive to the third in your threesome as you can to your marriage.

If you reach a point where you are determined to try this you need to do the following:
1. Lay the ground rules out as clearly as the English language allows with your spouse, write them down. Establish your comfort zones, who gets to touch who where and establish that the rules will be re-addressed each time threesome occurs, even if it's just to say you're both still good with the rules.
2. Agree that nothing is going to happen until all three parties are completely comfortable with the act and that nobody will be permitted to be criticized for deciding to stop before or during the party.
3. Make plans with your spouse for the end of your marriage. It's not morbid it's just responsible given how likely this is to kill the relationship. If you're mature enough to bring a third person into your bed you're mature enough to discuss a very possible outcome.

well, why would she want a threesome... if ur not satisfying her enough then go online and find better techniques, or take extenze or whatever. but if ur going to have a threesome with another guy... ask her if u can also have another with another girl. if she wont let u then why should u do what she wont

one of the problems with getting advice from the general public is the sheer amount of misinformation from lack of knowledge or deliberate generation of misleading information. every KNOWS how nonconforming sex always ends in ruined relationships. yeah, right. if you have a good solid fully committed marriage and the both of can handle extramarital sex, then the chances are that your marriage will survive and your sex life improve. but, there is no guarantee. However, there are studies that show people with unconventional marriages (swingers, open marriage, cuckold, etc) have one of the lowest divorce rates (around 15%). as a comparison, fundamentalist christians have a divorce rate around 40 percent. it is up to you. do a little research. don't expect truthful research from christian sites.. they are only interested in bolstering their positions, not truth. if you feel you can handle what you are interested in doing, then enjoy. the onus of doing this is on the husband. most women can easily handle extramarital sex. it's the husbands that fall apart and become jealous. remember, sex is for grownups, not insecure adult sized children no matter what their age is.

Hi Brad! My husband and I actually tried a mfm threesome twice. I have to admit I did it more for him at first but as we started doing it, I got more into it then him LOL. I Love my husband to death and would do or try anything once with him or for him. It was just really fun good hard sex! That's all. Would I do it again? Only if the moment was right and with the right guy along with my husband. Having two men at the same time was a bit scary since I am a petite girl and my husband is a well endowed man to begin with and on top of that the guy he chose to have the threesome with us was even bigger than him! It was an experience I will never forget! They were both very patient and respectful. They treated me right. They pampered me LOL. Lots of massaging and oil rubs. It did get a little ruff n nasty after, but at my pace. The experience only made our marriage stronger and more fun!! So I say to all the women who's husbands desire this. Yes be carful, pick the right person to join you guys, even start out slow by having sex in front of someone or others. Thats kinda how we started, we went to a swingers party and let others watch wich was a real big turn on, I mean it was a dark atmosphere so everyone looked good. I would say try that first a few times then when you're both ready, invite someone in slowly. And if you do try it, you will LOVE it take care Brad! Love, Michelle