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Q: Birth Control after Baby is Born --- post natal choices?
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Katrinadoodle
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I kinda want to get the shot.... but I don't know if my insurance will cover it, and I'm not sure how to bring it up with my mom. I'm still kinda uncomfortable talking with her about sex... and she seems to think that I only had sex the one time I conceived and I'm never having it again
riiiight.
So.
I don't want another baby for at least 3 more years, and probably quite a bit longer since I only want the kids to be either 3 years apart, or more than 7. So if we're not ready for another baby in 3 years, which is VERY likely, we won't have one for another 7. So obviously I need BC, because being celibate these last 10 weeks has NOT been fun.
Any ideas on how to approach my mom about it?
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RebelCats
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Emma2
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Verizon-y
Extremely eHealthy
| Katrinadoodle wrote: |
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I'm not sure how to bring it up with my mom. I'm still kinda uncomfortable talking with her about sex... and she seems to think that I only had sex the one time I conceived and I'm never having it again riiiight.
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Please tell me more about what your mom thinks, lol! Where is you bf in all of this? What did you tell her when you told her you were pregnant? How did the conversation[s] go where you found out she thinks you only had sex once and won't do it again?
I'm really interested in this because I am interested in parent-child communication in general, and communication about sexuality in particular. Thanks.
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Verizon-y
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Mabel
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| futureshock wrote: |
| This talk can be between just herself and her doctor, right? If so, her mom really doesn't need to get involved in getting birth control for her, if it's too complicated. |
Right. No one has a right to your medical records or medical information. After the baby is born at your 6 week check up your doctor will talk to you about what type of birth control you want to use. He'll give you some options, etc.
Good on you for doing the research now.
I'm curious how your mom would have any clue that you are even taking birth control? Besides, wouldn't she rather you be ON birth control than getting pregnant again and again and again?
Unless of course, religious reasons prevent you from being on birth control...
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Katrinadoodle
Extremely eHealthy
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Katrinadoodle
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Katrinadoodle
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Mabel
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Katrinadoodle
Extremely eHealthy
| futureshock wrote: |
| Please tell me more about what your mom thinks, lol! Where is you bf in all of this? What did you tell her when you told her you were pregnant? How did the conversation[s] go where you found out she thinks you only had sex once and won't do it again?
I'm really interested in this because I am interested in parent-child communication in general, and communication about sexuality in particular. Thanks. |
I don't get the question about my fiance? Of course he wants me on BC, if that's what you're asking XD
My mom and I had a huge fight when she found out I was pregnant. She tried to force me into an abortion, and I actually had to run away and stay at a friends house for a few days until she finally got it that she couldn't make me (in Arizona it's my choice, even though I'm a minor). After I came back home, things got a bit better after my mom calmed down. Especially once I convinced her I was going to be responsible about this. I convinced her to get me enrolled in online schooling, and after seeing me finish Junior year in 6 months she got a lot better. It really helped that I had already had a job, and I kept it for as long as I was able to. Although my family is well off enough that my parents can afford to provide for me and the baby comfortably, my mom isn't a believer in just paying for everything, she feels that we have to earn our extra stuff. Which means all of my paychecks went towards baby stuff (which it would have anyway, so I'm not complaining). And I'll be going back to work after the baby's born... but, thankfully, I don't have to go back right away, I can spend the first few months just being a mom and a student. Then I'll be a mom with a job because I'm not going back to work until after I'm done with school.
And I guess there's nothing where my mom has actually come out and said she thought that I wasn't going to be having sex, but it's just the vibe I get off her whenever anything remotely connected to sex comes up.
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Katrinadoodle
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Verizon-y
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Mabel
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Your mom's health insurance most likely won't cover the baby. That was why I was asking.
I don't know of any state where a parent can force a child to have an abortion. An abortion has to be a choice the patient makes. I'm glad she calmed down.
I don't know of any state where a parent can force a child to have an abortion. An abortion has to be a choice the patient makes.
I'm glad she calmed down.
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Katrinadoodle
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Verizon-y
Extremely eHealthy
| Katrinadoodle wrote: | ||
I don't get the question about my fiance? Of course he wants me on BC, if that's what you're asking XD |
I meant since you are engaged, it was weird that your mom thought you wouldn't be having sex again.
You sound like you've been working hard. What has your fiance been doing to contribute?
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Katrinadoodle
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Verizon-y
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Katrinadoodle
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