Hi, this was also posted in the mens sex
heath forum. But i'd also like a womans
opinion on this issued. My boyfriend and i
have been living together for over a year
and a half. we used to have sex often, now
we don't. it only happens maybe once every
2 weeks, not even. I found a used condom
in the garbage, so obviously hes been
masterbating. I used to think that it was
gross, but I'm really trying to overcome
that because its normal to do it.
however, what bothers me is that he chose
masterbation over sex and over me. why
didnt he come to me if he was in the mood?
i've been wanting it lately, so he should
have just came to me. i dont understand.
what could be an underlying issue? any
opinions?
I want to talk to him about it, but hes
pretty quick to get angry and raise his
voice and make me feel like crap.. so how
can i talk to him without it turning into
a fight?
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PenguinsRus
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Posted: 11-15-07 11:16am
If you found a used condom in the garbage,
are you sure he is masturbating and not
cheating? Usually boys don't masturbate
into condoms. You should come forward and
talk to him about it if it is upsetting
you. Relationships rely on communication.
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Strawberry Cheeks
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Nov 2007 Posts: 9
Posted: 11-18-07 18:11pm
I agree, you should really talk to him if
this bothers you. I can understand the way
you feel, cuz thats exactly they way i
would be if i were in your shoes. I would
be a bit unsecure as to why he prefers to
do this alone, as opposed to with me.
Good relationships are based on
communication and honestly and trust... If
this is an issue to you then speak to him.
For all you know he wanted it but didnt
think that you did....
Things will be fine, talk to him
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browneyed_gemini
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Nov 2007 Posts: 27 Location: ,
Posted: 11-18-07 18:15pm
This is the first time I have heard of a
guy using a condom to masturbate. I'm not
saying it didn't happen; anything is
possible. You need to sit down and
discuss this with him.
