Hi, this was also posted in the mens sex heath forum. But i'd also like a womans opinion on this issued. My boyfriend and i have been living together for over a year and a half. we used to have sex often, now we don't. it only happens maybe once every 2 weeks, not even. I found a used condom in the garbage, so obviously hes been masterbating. I used to think that it was gross, but I'm really trying to overcome that because its normal to do it.
however, what bothers me is that he chose masterbation over sex and over me. why didnt he come to me if he was in the mood? i've been wanting it lately, so he should have just came to me. i dont understand. what could be an underlying issue? any opinions?
I want to talk to him about it, but hes pretty quick to get angry and raise his voice and make me feel like crap.. so how can i talk to him without it turning into a fight?
If you found a used condom in the garbage, are you sure he is masturbating and not cheating? Usually boys don't masturbate into condoms. You should come forward and talk to him about it if it is upsetting you. Relationships rely on communication.
I agree, you should really talk to him if this bothers you. I can understand the way you feel, cuz thats exactly they way i would be if i were in your shoes. I would be a bit unsecure as to why he prefers to do this alone, as opposed to with me.
Good relationships are based on communication and honestly and trust... If this is an issue to you then speak to him. For all you know he wanted it but didnt think that you did....