I Think My Boyfriend Is Bipolar! Posted: 11-14-07 17:30pm
I've been with my boyfriend off and on for
5 years, and when we're off it's because
he always goes psycho on me! I'll give you
two examples.
- Whenever we have a discussion about
money, he'll keep bringing up how he hates
his family for being so poor, making him
poor, and causing him to bust his butt
through college and now working to get to
where he is today. Then he'll somehow take
it out on me and say I'm a spoiled rich
kid and yells at me for HIS
problems/situation! He can't even explain
why he takes things out on me.
Another example
- My sister's boyfriend plays online poker
as a temporary thing until he goes to grad
school. He made over $10000 last night so
I told my bf about it and he flipped out
completely, asking why I'm defending and
standing up for a "crook" when online
poker is completely legal! He's not
stealing money from the government! Jeez,
so he kicked me out of the apt and told me
never to come back. then the next day he
apologized as though nothing happened!
There are plenty of examples. What worries
me is that he's the nicest he can be when
he's high on marijuana, and thats when I
like him the best even though I NEVER
smoke marijuana. I get really worried when
he runs out of pot because I am afraid
he'll blow up at me. When he's not high
and he's working or hanging out with
friends, he'll be pretty nice but if you
get in a debate with him it will get
heated. When he's in a bad mood, without
pot, he will blow up completely for no
reason. A lot of the times, i'm asking
myself "why the hell did he just blow up?"
and "why am I with a guy who is only nice
when he's high?" IS there any correlation
between pot and bipolar, and helping to
calm them down?
His temper is out of control. He gets mad
at the smallest thing, then can switch in
a minute to being calm. His behavior is
unpredictable. I am breaking up with him
for good, but still concerned if there's a
chemical imablance in him!
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abnrmlmind
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Joined: 07 Oct 2007 Posts: 55
Posted: 11-14-07 18:19pm
could just be anger issues. perhaps he
should see a doctor.
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tiredthoughts
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Joined: 14 Nov 2007 Posts: 2
Hard to Tell Posted: 11-14-07 18:32pm
He could just have an anger management
issue. Just to many things that upset him
are constantly clouding his mind and when
aske gets angry. See that isn't the only
aspect of bipolar. I have been with my
boyfriend for 5 years and the thing with
bipolar is you have mania where they do
get angry and do things irrationally, but
then there is the depression part of
bipolar and it always comes in cycles and
you need to figure out what the cycle is.
The same topic that made a person angry
last week could make them cry and feel
worthless the following week. Bipolar
people are constantly difficult to deal
with, because their moods are like this.
You do have to be extremly cautious of
what you say to them, because you don't
know if what you say will effect them in a
different way. They tend to lie a lot and
are very secretive and drawn back. Like
they are afraid to let you in. And even
though they might not mean to hurt you
mentally or physically they can't control
their impulses. It is almost like they
can't help themselves. What makes it
worse is I have a child with my bipolar
bf. We have a 2 1/2 year old. What makes
it difficult is I don't want my son to
suffer the same fate as I do with his
father, but at the same time deny my son
his father. But if you still are curious
or suspicious their are online tests or
even try and convince him to seek
treatment and narrow down what is possibly
wrong with him
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 11-14-07 18:42pm
Why ARE you with a guy who's only nice
when he is high?
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donotscareme
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Joined: 14 Nov 2007 Posts: 2
Why Am I With a Guy Who's Only Nice When He's High? Posted: 11-14-07 18:57pm
like "abused" girlfriends who are abused
by their bfs, I stuck by him. I have been
seeing a therapist to work on self esteem
which is why I'm leaving the relationship.
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 11-15-07 06:49am
Good for you!! I was going to say that I
think you should leave him...
Good luck!
