Do you know why they are going to have a fit?

Do you have any idea what your obligation is to this future child?

Are you getting married before it is born?

Why did you decide to go along with your gf on this?

Another question to add to the list:

Why would you have to stop school?

No thats why im scared to tell them i dont know if they are going to or not.
Yes, i do Know what it is and i intend on doing everything for it.
We have talkd about getting married we both want to, but the thing is have to be 18 or get permisson from both parents and i dont know if hers or mine would agree on that...I dont like that fact it should not be there choice.
I decided to go with her on this because I love her, Shes honestly everything to me and i know it can work, Its just going to be alot of hard work to get through the start when the baby is born.

I would have no other way of supporting this child if i stay in school, I am in gr 11 and have thought about taking some extra classes after school to get my gr 12 befor the baby is born, i just need aproval from my school which i do not know if i will get

Again, why on EARTH would you have to stop school? That is the dumbest decision you can make. There are highschools all over the country you know So go down, be with her, keep attending school (and make sure SHE does too! ) and work after school and on the weekends.

Or do what I did, get enrolled in an online school, get a full time job during the day and do school work at night (which I really think is the best, because you can graduate early and you get more money)

I am making sure she still gos, Thats why i was going to try to take these extra classes, I am not going to let her stop getting an education. I know i have to finish school, But i also need to get my head straight this is all new to me and i am confused with what to do i know what is important and i am going to do every thing i can.

I agree with the online schooling and thank you for the idea that makes that alot easier on my mind.

I think he is being VERY mature about all of this. Of course he has to stop going to school. You cannot support a family on part time work. He said he knows he has to finish school.

Thank you, I have put alot of thought into this and, I agree school is important, But supporting my child is more important, I am going to give the online schooling a shot it sounds like an excellent idea if i can work full time and do schooling at nite. I am going to make sure my gf stays in school, She is the most important thing to me along with the baby and her future is as important as ne and she doesnt realize that she wants to take a year off school when the baby is born, but i wish i could get it through to her that there are other ways than actually attending classes to get an education

Does she get along with her parents? If so, maybe they could help you convince her.

Many teen girls want to get pregnant and have a baby to get out of continuing school. I am very glad you are making sure she is not one of them.

Well, her and her parents have there ups and downs, but her father trys to make her go and she has been good so far with attending but some days she doesnt due to morning sickness.
I agree that is what alot of girls are doing there are tons like that in my town, I thought she was like that aswell when she told me she was and that she delibritly wanted to become pregnant, I was disappointed she didnt talk this out with me and i kinda felt used, But we have talked about all this and that isnt the case..i have made sure she has gotten my point in how I am ok with that and that the only thing i ask of her is to keep attending school at the moment.

I would like to thank you, for your help and i am glad to know I can get help with my problems here anytime. No one i have talkd to about this is realli helpful this is the first time that any one has made any sense to me about it, usually i get told how dumb i am for sticking with it.

Believe me, if you read some of my other posts around here, you'd know that I would have been the first one to call you stupid if you didn't have your act so together.

Considering how your g/f got you into this position, and you are willing to change your whole entire life, work full time at jobs you don't like, plus on top of that struggle to finish school, the very least she can do is finish her education.

Best of luck.

Thank you, I have another problem as well that i cannot get off my mind and that is telling my parents, My father has just gotten out of the hospital and has a heart problem and needs to be in a stress free enviroment until they can find out the cause of it, I do not want to tell them and him end up in the hospital again i am also honestly so afraid of how they are going to react they are the type of people that everything has to be perfect and I am just so scared of what will happen if i tell them, I do not feel like it is the rite time, I belive they are going to just yell at me and i do not need that right now i am under alot of stress from this already. I know i have to tell them I feel terrible from keeping it from them they have a right to know but i do know they are not going to approve of my decisons and i am ok with that, I know it is my choice and I know the responsiblity I have to take on and i am prepared to do so.

Could you tell only your mother? I would feel exactly as you do about upsetting your father right now. You shouldn't have to change your way of life right away, because the baby is still at least 6 months away from being born.

Look, you didn't do anything wrong, here. Your g/f did. Even after she got pregnant, she did not have to keep the baby. Half of all women will have had at least one abortion in their lifetime. It is the most common medical procedure done in this country. Many teens who got pregnant on purpose, when asked why they don't terminate the pregnancy, will say, "well it's not my baby's fault and it wouldn't be fair."

That is just an excuse because they don't want to admit that they WANT to be pregnant.

If your g/f pressures you to tell your father before you think he is healthy enough to hear about the pregnancy, if I were you, I would tell her that she chose this particular time to get pregnant, not you. If it had been up to you, you would have waited until you finished school and your father was in better health.

I would like that, but i want to tell my father first he is the more understanding one and she is my Step mother not biological and i feel as if he needs to know befor her. I know my g/f was in the wrong with doing that to me, I was torn apart for a while she would actually do that to me, her reasoning behind it all was because she was afraid she was losing me and wanted to keep me at any cost, that is why i wish she would have talked to me before but whats done is done, I know she could have had the choice to get an abortion, She was willing to if i felt strongly enough against it, but i strongly disagree with abortion and also since i found out i was going to be a father i have straightend out my life, before i was addicted to drugs, drinking, and smoking, i have gotten help with all that and have been clean for a month now do to the fact that I do not want my child to have a father the way i was. She has been very supportive in the situation i am in with telling them and has not pressured me at all and i thank her for that everyday she has been the most supportive with my choice to wait to tell them. I do not want to wait much longer to tell them and i am hoping soon that he will be in better health.

I think if you tell your dad exactly what you just told me, he would actually be very proud of you.

I was raised by my dad and a step mother, also.. She was a NIGHTMARE. Even if your step mother is the most wonderful step mom in the world, I agree with you that your dad needs to know first.

Maybe at your dad's next doctor's visit you could tag along, and ask to have a quick word with the doctor. Tell him that you have a situation which is highly stressful, and you need to share it with your dad. Ask him when he thinks your dad will be up to hearing about it.

If it will be a long time before his next doctor's visit, maybe you could find the doctor's name and address and write him a short letter about this.