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Posted: 12-13-07 10:33am
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Too bad part of the name has your ex's
family in it. He's creepy and doesn't
want any part of the child when it's here.
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Posted: 12-13-07 14:41pm
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Thanks anniek...
Well, my entire family has told Devon we
don't care if he wants nothing to do with
the baby but he has to be there when the
baby is born... I think as soon as he sees
the baby his mind will change... and if
not than that's ok to.
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Posted: 12-13-07 20:40pm
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Well, I'm glad you have such a good
attitude.
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anniek
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Posted: 12-13-07 20:49pm
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Wow you are amazing!! I'm glad your family
sounds like mine, they would stand by me
no matter what. They gave us the option to
adopt, keep it and not get married, or get
married. It would have been interesting if
we hadn't go married because my little
sister was born in March and my daughter
was born in June. Yeah kinda weird!! I
sure hope your ex realizes how great your
son will be. But like you said if he
doesn't oh well he has you!
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Electriceyes
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Posted: 12-13-07 22:54pm
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yeah, even if he does change his mind it
doesn't mean I want him around after the
way he treated me. He will have me and and
the rest of my entire family  which is all he
needs.
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Posted: 12-14-07 07:42am
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Well your ex will have to pay child
support regardless of his involvement or
non-involvement.
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anniek
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Posted: 12-14-07 09:14am
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I hope he does but my cousin ran in to
many problems with that and finally got
him to sign off his rights all together
without child support. Which she is better
off that way, it's hard for her but he
made it harder. He never cared for the
girls any way. Now she can get on with her
life and make it better (hopefully) for
herself and the girls.
I think you and your family will be all he
needs! But if Devan wants to be in his
sons life let him it doesnt' mean YOU have
to take him back. And try to get along for
the baby's sake. Which you sound pretty
level headed so I'm sure you will! Take
care and have a good weekend!
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Electriceyes
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Posted: 12-14-07 15:11pm
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I know he'll have to pay no matter
what...how he'll pay i have no idea 'cuz
he has no job at this point..i keep
getting on him about that though.
Well yeah, I know I can't exactly stop him
from seeing the baby if he wants. We still
talk and get along pretty well now that we
aren't together. I'd love to get back with
him but we get along better now... maybe
we just need a break and it might
eventually happen... What ever happens,
happens though. Thanks. You Too...
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Posted: 12-14-07 22:06pm
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I know I do. I have better. I don't know
if I still have feelings for him because
we are having a baby, because we were
together for a year or just because... I'm
pushing those feelings aside and trying to
forget I even have them.. I really like
the guy i'm with. He is totally supportive
of me and wants to help me as much as
possible.. he always tells me he'll love
this baby like it's his own... I have a
guy that treats me 10x better than Devon
but for some reason I'm not as happy as I
should be...
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Posted: 12-14-07 22:33pm
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I think it is perfectly normal for you to
have conflicted feelings. Of course you
wish the father of your baby were around
right now, part of him is growing in your
body. At least you can always tell your
son, when he asks, that you loved his
father very much
Here is the reason why you feel the way
you do from a biological, physical
perspective:
When you love someone, certain chemicals
get released into your brain and body that
make you feel good when that person is
around. When the relationship is over,
you literally go through withdrawal,
similar to a person taking a drug and then
stopping it.
Brain chemicals
and Love
One of these hormones is dopamine, which
is also a hormone that is involved with
addictive behavior. When a person
feels in love, they are activating their
pleasure centers in the brain,
which are rich in dopamine and blood flow
is elevated. Since dopamine is the
hormone that makes a person feel an "erotic high"
when they see their lover,
eventually the person will become
addicted to feeling that "erotic high"
and when
it is taken away, they will go through
withdrawal.
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Electriceyes
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Posted: 12-16-07 13:18pm
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wow. I didn't know that...that's pretty
cool I guess (unless you're going through
it).. Thanks!
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Posted: 12-16-07 21:50pm
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You're welcome. It's good to know what's
causing that awful feeling, and good to
know it will end all on it's own soon.
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Posted: 12-17-07 14:47pm
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yeah it does help to know. I had to spend all
last night with him and his new girlfriend
and a dinner we have every year for this
dag thing we do... i had a really great
friend to talk to and she said he's a jerk
and he can just go away and i can do
better...i love her...she made me feel a
lot better..especially 'cuz i had a guy
flirting with me all night lol
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Posted: 12-17-07 18:45pm
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Good for you!!! Futureshock is right the
feelings will go away. Keep thinking about
how your new bf treats you and how he
makes you feel. That's all you need to
know!! How was your weekend? Have you
found a way to sleep better?
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Electriceyes
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Posted: 12-17-07 20:37pm
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I will.. My weekend we good..it was very
busy and fun. I have found a way to sleep
better...but the last week-ish I've been
feeling sick to my stomach and can't get
it to go away..i don't know..it kinda
sucks.
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Posted: 12-18-07 00:56am
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What is that sick feeling from, do you
think? I hope you feel better very soon.
P.S... I got sick at the thought of your
ex bringing his new gf to a function he
knew you'd be at.
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Electriceyes
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Posted: 12-18-07 20:18pm
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I have no idea.. maybe i'm just letting my
nerves get to me about the baby coming and
how scared I am about everything.
yeah. it made me so mad.. the worst part
was he was my ride there and home.. but I
got threw it..
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Posted: 12-18-07 23:52pm
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OMG, so were you in the car with the new
gf? How weird was that whole night?
Imagine how insecure SHE must feel,
knowing you are pregnant with her bf's
child.
lol!
What do your parents think of this guy?
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Electriceyes
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Posted: 12-19-07 18:24pm
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yeah, it was a really weird night.
Actually her and I kinda get along..she
won't believe me about how he is. He
stopped trying to convincer her himself..
she hates that I decided to keep the baby
because Devon can't "move on" it's not my
fault..he choose to cheat on her 5 times
(had no idea they were together at the
time)
lol...it was quit amusing though..
My mom still likes him for the most part
'cuz he some what wants to be around but
my dad wants to kill him..
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