I don't understand girlfriend's anxiety - too anxious Posted: 11-12-07 22:32pm
Ive been dating this girl for about 3
months, and ive fallen in love with
her...Shes beautiful, smart, has a great
sense of humor like me...The problem is
that i dont she her much mostly because
she has axiety issues..she is always
concerned about class and getting her
homework done, so she stays home and
stresses it all the time, and its good
that she puts school first, were both in
college and i understand...but she live
literally 3 mins from me, and she always
wants to reschedule our dates, and she
rather stay home and stress about school
than see me...one time she cancelled when
we were gonna go to the movies, and she
called me and stayed on the fone with me
for a few hours, which is crazy, because
we couldve been at the movies during that
time..shes also a virgin and when shes
with me, she gets real antzy and panicy
when i attempt to like engage in any type
of close physical intimacy...the only time
i see her is at work(where we met), which
isnt the same as spending quality
time.....what should i do? its gotten to
the point where i rarely talk to her on
the phone, like once every two weeks...but
i love her, and i dont want to let her go,
because shes everything i want in a girl,
and we have like the perfect chemistry
when were together....but shes just to
anxious..and i know shes crazy about me
too, but sometimes i just dont understand
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CarolDiane
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Brandon123 Posted: 11-13-07 19:05pm
Anxiety is very hard to understand
sometime. Unfortunatly, she is the one
that is got to seek help. She has to want
to. I think your best bet right now is to
give her the space she needs to get a
grasp on her disorder. And hopefully she
will realize it is going to take over her
life if she does not get some help.
You one the other hand must keep trying to
keep hold of yourself. This is a long road
and it may take some time for her to get
to the point she see's something is wrong
and gets help. As long as you really care
about each other, I say stick it out and
just be there for her. There will be times
you will feel rejected, yes. But this by
no means is intentional on her part. Take
it from one who suffers too. Take it one
day at a time and let her have her space
if she needs it.
Any one else like to add some thoughts?
Carrie
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brandon123
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Joined: 12 Nov 2007 Posts: 4
Posted: 11-19-07 17:27pm
thank you, i do feel rejected sometimes,
but than i think about the fact shes
probably anxious..so im going to try and
give her space
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Bailey16
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Joined: 30 Nov 2007 Posts: 3
Maybe Encourage Going to the Doctor With Her Posted: 11-30-07 13:45pm
It shows what a great boyfriend you are
just posting this, because you care.
Maybe talk to her about her anxiety
issues, let her talk though. Maybe if it
seems appropriate during the conversation
you could tell her if she wants you to go
to doctor with her to see about it, you
would be glad to. Being there for someone
with anxiety is the best you can do. As
far as the intimacy thing.....yes that is
anxiety...just take it slow. If she is
getting that anxious it means she really
likes you.
