2 Mnths Pregnant - abortion, adoption or hand it over to him? (Page 1)

He is not the boss of you and he certainly isn't in charge of what you do with your body!

Make your decision based on you. Good luck.

Tell him to eff off, the little pissant.

do what YOU want!! your the one thats feeding,nurishing,and housing the baby and if he has a problem with it....tell him to take it to court most times the court will let the mother keep the baby and kissing another guy was wrong on your part especially if you were with someone else dare or not but the court and judges will laugh in his face if thats the only dirt he can bring up on you!!

good luck and keep us informed

do what you want. its your baby your body your life

you kissed another guy so it doesnt matter if its a dare or not
you cheated on him and now he doesnt want you. i dont blame him.

Actually, the thing is We weren't even 2 gether when I kissed the other guy, he had broken up with me. But i agree with that part bc I'd be hurt if he did that 2. But I know that I wouldn't leave him all alone if he was able 2 have a kid.

first off never cheat on your boyfriend thats just bad joo-joo.

secondly, you can always opt for adoption. adoption can be a very wonderful thing for a child, just make sure you look into different possible parents interview them do background checks there are plenty of places to help you with this.

thirdly, he cannot tell you what to do with your child. yes it is also his, but your the one carrying it, goign to give birth to it, feed it etc. in the court of law if the father can shwo that his is a better caregiver than the mother then the judge will give custody to the father. if youw ant to keep your baby you have to get a job and be able to show that you can care for your baby properly. go to school make sure you do all your work get good grades, get a job so you start to get and save up money so that you can buy all the things you need to provide for your child. visit a doctor and get regular check ups. show that you are a responsible adult, and then your baby will not be taken away from you. in the case that he does take you to court counter his with child support, he is the father and therefore he should also help to support the baby. THIS DOES NOT MEAN that you dont have to get a job and work hard to feed and care for your baby. you still need to beable to provide for it. also make sure your parents know that you are pregnant tell them what you want to do. and make sure you let them know that you have a plan.

what ever choice you make, make it based on what is right for you.

khyryn, no one here actually cares about the 'cheating' thing. What our concern would be, is you and the baby. If you are pregnant, please see a doctor ASAP and talk to a counselor about your options, ok?

sorry hun you made your bed now you have to lie in it

like eiri said you have options. think about it. for yourself and for the baby not for him.
who gives a craaap what he says?

Wait, so his grandmother got a restraining order out against you because you kissed another boy?

Ok, wait, I read that first post too quickly.

She cannot 'shield' him from having to support a child! In fact, visitation and child support would go on as normal.

Sounds like the grandma was getting a restraining order because OP was trying to sneak in (break in?) to grandma's house!

Well actually, we had talked about it and he said that he wanted 2 get me pregnant. But after that we talked about it again and decided against it. But the answer is it was conceived through "Unprotected sex". And he knew xactly what he was doing. That's another reason why I don't want to abort. I fell like, and it is my responsiblity to take care of this situation, and it would be pretty selfish to kill a baby from my/our stupidity.
His grandma wanted to get a restraining order before she knew I was pregnant. And it's because she doesn't want us together and she caught me when I went over his house because I was worried about him and wanted to tell him that I thought I was pregnant.
I told my parents yesterday and they want me to get an abortion but say it's my choice. They think I am going to ruine my life with a baby. But if I do that I would be ruining a babies life?!?!?!

You cannot ruin a life that has not happened yet; and all I will say is that it is better to end life before it starts than to live a life poor, hungry, and feeling unentitled.

Anyway, it is YOUR choice. I believe your boyfriend is incredibly immature and does not deserve to see this child if you do keep it. However, I agree with your parents. If you want my advice, it is to adopt or abort. You are only 16; you are only a kid. Children should not have children.

Well, I agree. But I have done some resarch and seen some graphic things about abortion. I have also heard that it can ruine my chance to conceive/have babies in the future. And also heightens the risk of breastcancer. I know that in my heart I don't want to do that to a living organism. And I also don't want to give it a bad life. But not everything is about finances. I want to have some hope. And believe that I can still achieve my goals, and will do anything to help this baby, but this may just be a huuuuge set back. And adoption is an option, but either way is going to hurt me. I'm trying not to be selfish here.

All of that is total bull. I'm currently pregnant, and I had an abortion three years ago. You're more likely to have complications and problems with fertility after giving birth than you are from an abortion. Secondly, the breast cancer rumor is a scare tactic. Think about it.... they say it is because your body starts to develop the mammary glands, and if you abort it causes the glands to go all screwy. But, honestly, wouldn't the same be for miscarriages as well? And yet you don't hear anything about women who miscarry being more likely to develop breast cancer.

It is, in the end, your decision... no one elses. If you feel you can't abort for reasons of your own, look up adoption agencies in your state. Figure out how you're going to afford it. Will you do an open adoption, or closed? How are you going to afford the delivery? If you keep the baby, how are you going to juggle school, work, and child? It's going to be tough no matter what you decision is.

Ingi is right, there is no link between abortion and breast cancer and having an abortion does not cause infertility except in a few very rare cases. It's as likely to cause infertility as having regular surgery might be. If you want to know more about abortion, check out a reputable website like cdc.gov or webmd.com.

However, if you don't want to have an abortion you don't have to. I think you should consider adoption. And I don't mean just think about it. Look into it. Call a crisis pregnancy center and ask if you can come in for an appointment and look into it. A lot of girls decide against adoption without ever even getting enough info about the process. There are lots of couples who would take care of your baby and give it the chance you cannot right now.