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Q: Husband is depressed, feels failure b/c of Infertility
asked by: 2much4ya on November 12th, 2007
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Question What do you do when your husband feels that he has failed because you aren't pregnant yet? We have been trying for three years, since I lost the first baby 4 years ago. He always lays besides me and rubs my stomach and tells me that he can't wait until something is finally in there. I know that he wants it a lot and so do I, but it's a little depressing for me too, because I want it just as much as he does.

I have been taking Ovulex for the past three weeks, hoping that I will see a change, because my husband is so different now. He wants this child so much, that it is all he thinks about and he cries sometimes because he feels like it's his fault in some way.

I don't feel that it is, because my periods have always been irregular, which is why I am taking Ovulex, so that I can kinda' get it regular and see if we can't have a baby. Someone tell me what you think I can do to cheer him up and do you think I am making the right choice by taking Ovulex. Sometimes, I think I should just pray and wait on God.
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Mabel
replied on November 12th, 2007
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Have you visited a fertility specialist? That should be your next step.
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yogahoneybunny
replied on November 15th, 2007
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Agreed. You'll need to identify the cause of the difficulty before seeking treatment. The cause of the infertility could be located in your body, in his or in both of your bodies...
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2much4ya
replied on November 19th, 2007
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Well, I have gone to the doctor and they really can't find a reason. Everything seems to be normal. It is just harder to conceive for me. I was pregnant about 3 years ago and at 5 months I lost the baby, so we are trying again. He hasn't gone to the doctor yet though, so I want him to go and have his sperm count checked, but I am taking a fertility drug. It's called Ovulex. I know you've probably heard of it. I went ahead and purchased it and took it to my doctor. She said that it seemed to be perfectly safe and the she wanted me to start taking it the day after my menstrual cycle to see if it regulates me, because I was really irregular. I have been taking it now for one month and I was right on time this month, so it seems to be working. Hopefully this will make a difference and I will become pregnant soon. As for my husband, he still seems to be depressed sometimes, but we are hoping for the best with this new pill that I am taking. I guess we will just have to wait and see, but waiting is the hard part.

As far as any problems, I don't see any, but we will see what happens with Ovulex..
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yogahoneybunny
replied on November 20th, 2007
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Right. It seems reasonable to ask him to get his sperm counted. In fact, doctors recommend that when exploring fertility, the man get tested first b/c it's so straight forward.

Glad to hear you're regulated. Let us know what's happening!
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