wow

you really need to see a doctor asap

so what if your parents would get mad
if you DONT go get tested you could have a serious disease or infection and DIE

no they will get more than mad

like really mad

This sounds just like a herpes outbreak....But you will not know for sure until you get a blood test. You have to see a doctor for a blood test and you need to see doctor so they can prescribe medication to ease your pain and suffering. You need to tell your parents. IF it is herpes the sores will clear on their own in 5-7 days and then virtually disappear. But more will come and it will be just as bad. Also once they go away and you are clear you can still pass it on to others. You really should get tested. If you are positive then you can give people herpes and not even mean too.

I understand that your parents will be angry but its time to fess up. They are the only ones that can help you right now. I have herpes and I understand how hard it is going to be to tell your parents, I had to do it. But no matter how much you dont want to do it, it still has to be done.

There are some ways to ease the pain from home.

1. Take a warm bath with 1 cup of baking soda. Only fill the tube to about 12 inches. Soak as long as you need to. This will clean the sores along with soothe them.

2. You can buy abreva at your local grocery store. This is for cold sores on your mouth but they work really good on your sores down there.

3. Wear lose cloths and no undies if you can. Wear skirts if you can.

Other than that there isnt a whole lot you can do, you just got to wait until they pass. But if you have herpes there is medication out there that will help you not have any outbreaks.....Best Wishes

ok well then you can just get sick and possibly die

is that better?

If its herpes you wont die. But if its something really bad, say an allergic reaction. Then get your but to a hospital.....That can kill you

I wonder where she is????? I hope she comes back........

Thanks guys I appreciate it but my parents are kinda of abusive so they will get mad and hit me. Is there any way to see my doctor without my parents or do I have to go through my parents?
I've been taking lots of baths because that is the only thing that will help them feel better.
Now they are starting to scab up a little and they don't hurt nearly as bad but it's so grosse and I feel like I won't ever have another love life because who would want someone with herpes you know?

And it sucks because I was always soo careful about using protection but it was just in the moment and happened.


Ughhh :[
I'm having so many life issues right now and this doesn't help. But thank you guys for all the advice.

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Did you make it to the Doctors if you do not want your Parents to know go to the Clinic nearest to you or better still if you trust a friend's parent that will not blab and knows your back ground go to them.You need someone you can trust and you are sick so you need to get help soon,Try to find one person in your smart brain that you trust and go to them...sounds like a rough one and you do not need to isolate .This is ongoing now and you need treatment I am sorry your parents hit it makes it worse...you can even seek out some Health products that might ease the sores at a Health food Store but it is a virus and will come up again.take care

Just remember, your health is the most important thing. At the end of the day, it's all you have after all. Just somehow find your way to a planned parenthood and they should take care of everything. You can find one close to you by looking up planned parenthoods on google.

It's not necessarily herpes! After all, if you only had unprotected sex a few days ago (and not like... 10 months ago or longer) than it's too soon for an outbreak to show. It could simply be an allergic reaction to something. But it doesn't matter... let them call it whatever they want. It doesn't change the person that you are! Whatever the case is, whether it is herpes or an STD or you're just seeing things, it doesn't matter. It happens! People will love you! Just go to a planned parenthood and have them (confidentially) help you... and it'll be free in your situation. That's what they're there for after all. Remember, it's a medical condition. It's not something to ignore. People died from the common cold before they were able to seek a doctor's help and get antibiotics. It's unnecessary pain and problems that you don't have to deal with.

Also, they may be able to provide free birth control that your parents do NOT have to know about. Unprotected sex is a no-no (you should know that though), and a pack of condoms will do you wonders.

Good luck and get some medicine!

Thanks. ANd yea I know its a no-no I guess we just got caught up in the moment. It happens.

Thanks So Much

Your best bet would be to find an aunt or a friends mother. When you go to the doctor just tell them that your parents are out of town or something. I had to do that when I was 16. Plant Parenthood is a good way to go also....

I thought no one would want me either. I was convinced that my life was over and that I had a stamp on my forehead that said "I have herpes do not touch" I was so depressed for so long. I dated some and there were some guys that did not care and there were others that never spoke to me (after I told them) Rejection hurts and you will probably face something like that in the future.

But at least its not AIDS. YOu will also know right off the bat who wants to get in your pants and who really cares about you.

Yea thats kind of how I am right now. I am REALLLY depressed and I just feel like crap. It really sucks especially at my age. Ugh :[ Yea I think I'm going to Planned Parenthood tomorrow so hopefully its not what I think it is. :[

Thanks Girls

Best of luck! Please let us know how it goes and what it is so you can be help to other girls who may find themselves in the same situation.

I got it at 15 years old. My sex life I have had herpes. I hope you went to planned parenthood. Please let us know how everything went....

hi guys
i went to planned parenthood and i have herpes :[[
it sucked so bad to hear that :[

ughhh

and i just turned 16 so i still have a whole life ahead of me and now i have to live with herpes

um i told the guy i did it with to and he didnt believe it at first and then i talked to my friend whos his new gf or fling or whatever and she told me that they had unprotected sex to and she just broke out so we both confronted him and made him feel stupid :]

but im still really depressed and my outbreak is basically gone thank the lord :[

It is going to be ok, I promise you it is. My entire sex life and relationships have involved herpes. I know its devastating, but please try not to let it overwhelm you. You can have a life. This does not change the person you are on the inside and it does not make you less than or unworthy. I know you feel dirty and shameful but this will pass. You will start to see that there is more to life than just sex anyway. The next man you meet you will have to tell them you have it. Its scary, but you may face rejection. Some men only want sex. At least by telling them you will know who really cares about who you are then what your body can give them.

keep close to family and friends, they are going to be your key people in all this. Look online for information about herpes. There are chat rooms and hotlines. There are even dating sites for people with herpes. Learn as much as you can and you will start to see that its not as horrible as it seems. Please hang in there, you can get through this.

Please pm me anytime you want to talk. I am here and I know how bad this feels.

Also try to get on suppresive medication. They can lesson the outreaks. You will keep getting these sores. They say that the 1st year is the worst and it gets better overtime. But the only thing that can help the outbreaks is medication from a doctor.

i feel so depressed
im hurting myself i feel so grosse
i just wanna die
i hate life so bad right now
i cant take it nemore :{

Ok breath, you need to call the herpes hotline and talk to someone. ASAP. Please reach out to a professional. They can help you more than I can. There are also local crisis lines you can call. If you are alone then go to a friends house or a family's house. This is not a good time to be by yourself.

yea i ended up going crazy
i eneded up at St. Marys mental hospital for 8 days because i was so depressed about it
it sucks so bad but i am trying to be okay because i dont want to go back there :[
thanks for all your support Rosie H
it means a lot to me :]